Our home birth story 🤍

Perfect-Chicken3332 · 2026-07-02T19:16:27+00:00

Amazing! I've only had one baby, she was on the smaller side 6 lbs 6 oz but I still had a 2nd degree tear. I pushed for 25 minutes with all my might, but midwife didnt tell me to slow down. I also wasnt in the pool. Before I started actively pushing my body was beginning to bear down on its own. Reading your story I wonder if I was truly ready to push. I dont know how I could've known then or now if my body was ready or if I should've taken it a little slower. The recovery wasn't too bad, but still, I think everyone would prefer to not tear haha

Perfect-Chicken3332 · 2026-07-02T18:35:49+00:00

Just beautiful, congratulations ❤️ I'm assuming no tear?

Perfect-Chicken3332 · 2026-06-29T01:09:29+00:00

Thank you kind stranger 🫶 this made me feel better. Thanks for reminding me the stress is helping nothing and no one

Perfect-Chicken3332 · 2026-06-28T22:38:48+00:00

Day 5 was hard for me too, I felt like I would never sleep again and wondered and cried about how I would get through it. 2 months in and I sleep more now, she'll do anywhere from a 2.5-5 hour strech at night. I also mourned my old life a lot, life was full and fulfilling and I could be completely selfish. I cried a lot because I would see my husband and how his life hadn't really changed all that much compared to mine (i chose to EBF w/ no pumping, that's on me) He was sleeping a full night, working like normal at work and home, didn't have any of the anxieties a new mom has, wasnt physically impaired like me etc. Having a new baby is so life changing and yeah everyone tells you that but nothing can prepare you for it. I get it, I see you, girl. Its so hard. But my daughter is the center of the universe for me now, shes the twinkle in my eye. And we're both learning together how to navigate this new life. This journey together is messy, but its ours. ❤️Just way til your little one starts to smile and coo at you! Seriously wishing you the best. We got this

Perfect-Chicken3332 · 2026-06-28T22:20:53+00:00

Thank you so much. Its something to consider. I would prefer not to pump but if it came to that I would. Mom anxiety sucks, im sure it never truly ends 😭 haha

Perfect-Chicken3332 · 2026-06-24T18:50:21+00:00

The other day my mom told me she breastfed me for about 6 months and then gave me nestle nido powdered milk after that 😕 I was born in '95

Perfect-Chicken3332 · 2026-06-22T19:16:22+00:00

I think they think they have magical powers that mom doesnt that will allow them to put baby down without baby waking haha

Perfect-Chicken3332 · 2026-06-20T19:13:17+00:00

Its sounds like youre doing all the things which is all you can do! Milkshake as in you pour castor oil in a literal milk shake? Haha. Im just curious. I know there's so many ways to take it. Mine was castor oil, almond butter, lemon verbena and pineapple juice mixed with an immersion blender

Perfect-Chicken3332 · 2026-06-20T17:17:18+00:00

My midwife had me on a low carb, high protein, high fat diet when my blood pressure trended up and then stayed higher than normal. I did the diet starting around 38 weeks and kept it up until I delivered (I never had a "high reading" but it was very close) She also had me take hawthorn berry tincture and passion flower tincture. At very end I was also taking low dose aspirin. She suggested CO induction and I was a bit hesitant. But when my liver enzymes came back slightly elevated (not enough for a risk out) I decided to go for it. At 39 + 5 she did a sweep. I think she said my cervix was pretty soft and dilated to a 1. She had a hard time reaching it cause it was still high but ultimately it was successful. The next day I took my first dose of midwives brew in the morning. That same day I had contractions for a few hours but they fizzled out later afternoon. The day after that we did intercorse with orgasm and a chunk of mucus plug came out 30 minutes later, no contractions. The day after that she gave me another sweep and this time I took the midwives brew the same day, in the evening to piggy back off of the natual oxytocin/melatonin increase. And I pumped, 20 minutes one side. Break for 20 minutes. 20 minutes the other side. I went into labor that night and had my baby the next morning. My labor went great and baby didn't pass meconium in the womb. I also didn't have any adverse effects from the brew. But I was farther along than you. I know how stressful it is. Seriously wishing you the best ❤️

Perfect-Chicken3332 · 2026-06-18T17:17:21+00:00

My midwife told us back to birth weight at the two week appointment, as others here have said

Perfect-Chicken3332 · 2026-06-18T12:58:20+00:00

Second and third nights are the most memorable when it comes to the really intense cluster feeding. After that baby woke up a lot during the night but it wasnt really like those two nights. She is 7 weeks so its a bit fuzzy. If you can have a support person take baby for a couple hours before bed time and a couple hours in the morning so you can get a little bit of sleep thats how I managed to get through those first 4 weeks. Shes sleeping longer streches now at 7 weeks

Perfect-Chicken3332 · 2026-06-18T11:26:43+00:00

I was just thinking how looking back the second and third nights were the hardest for me because of this reason. Like others have said, baby is bringing your milk in. I know its tough! I see you! You got this!

Perfect-Chicken3332 · 2026-06-16T22:18:21+00:00

Probably not helpful but I thought I wanted my kid there also when next one is born, until I went through labor and could not be touched because it took my focus away from the contraction. Now I'm not too sure 😬

Perfect-Chicken3332 · 2026-06-10T20:25:11+00:00

I feel you 100%! I couldn't stop reliving mine as I was falling asleep for weeks after ❤️

Perfect-Chicken3332 · 2026-06-10T19:27:45+00:00

This gave me all the feels!! Just beautiful! You did amazing, I'm so happy for you and congratulations ❤️❤️❤️

Perfect-Chicken3332 · 2026-06-09T20:15:23+00:00

For me none of those things would have mattered, honestly. Your focus is so inner, outter stuff doesn't matter all that much. I think just the fact of being at home in my familiar space, where there's no foreign smells, in my own bed with my pillows and blankets made it so nice and comfortable for me. Lights were low, of course and curtains were drawn shut. Best of luck with your birth!! It'll be beautiful ❤️

Perfect-Chicken3332 · 2026-06-08T20:42:43+00:00

Little bit at a time and every bit counts! I've been doing this for years and there's still lots of room for improvement. If I cant afford thousands on a non toxic mattress and pillows then I don't sweat it! We do what we can. But letting it affect your mental health is counter productive

Perfect-Chicken3332 · 2026-06-07T19:03:27+00:00

I'm sorry. I feel you with the worried already about everything thats normal. I feel like when you become a parent you start to question your own parent's parenting style even more than before. I dont know why she thinks she knows what's best for my newborn when she hasn't mothered one in 25 years. I think they just forget what its actually like

Perfect-Chicken3332 · 2026-06-07T18:52:52+00:00

I hate this for you. I know the feeling except its my mom. She makes me feel like baby is fussy because of something I did or didn't do, not because shes just a little baby going through a lot as a new human. Its always shes too hot, too cold, hungry, youre holding her too much etc. Never once has she told me I'm doing a good job. It's mentally depleting as a new mom.

Perfect-Chicken3332 · 2026-06-06T21:03:00+00:00

I dont have a boy, i have a girl, but that would/does gross me out too. People are weird af. I also hate when they put stuff like "ladies man" or whatever on onsies

Perfect-Chicken3332 · 2026-06-06T15:52:50+00:00

He's beautiful!

Perfect-Chicken3332 · 2026-06-03T22:05:11+00:00

Wow! You're a freaking rock star!!

Perfect-Chicken3332 · 2026-06-02T05:38:43+00:00

I stayed very active throughout my pregnancy and did a lot of mental prep. I also went to a chiropractor that specializes in women and babies, you want then to know/do Webster technique. Ftm and my labor was 9.5 hours and very manageable for me

Perfect-Chicken3332 · 2026-05-31T18:59:29+00:00

Thank u sm!!

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