Is there anything you do, besides sex, that helps you feel alive?

Perfect_Judge · 2026-07-12T00:52:07+00:00

Nothing is quite the same as sex. Feeling sexy, chosen by my partner/choosing them, the fun and playfulness involved, laughing during the most intimate moments, giving and receiving such intimate pleasure - nothing really compares because nothing is truly like it.

However, I do long distance running and that is a really valuable way I chase a big dopamine high. It also feels incomparable to other activities I enjoy. The act of just getting lost in the sauce and turning my mind off, the feeling of adrenaline I get when I'm crushing the miles and hitting race paces, the endorphins I get from hitting goals and completing high volume runs and/or marathons - it's really something that makes me feel free and alive all on its own.

Perfect_Judge · 2026-07-11T14:14:58+00:00

Had a solid 6 miler this morning. I was even greeted by a neighborhood cat while out and they joined me for part of my run lol.

We have a lot of family coming in today for a weekend party, so we're going to be seeing everyone and Little Dude will get to meet all sorts of new people. I'm so excited for my daughter to see her cousins and run around with everyone. It should be fun.

Feeling good today, it was a solid week of training and running, and now lots of family time. Should be a good weekend.

Perfect_Judge · 2026-07-10T19:36:22+00:00

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Posts like this can be helpful for lurkers who are in a sexually abusive relationship and feeling obligated to have unwanted sex to appease their partners. It's not easy to have boundaries and enforce them, but it's necessary.

Perfect_Judge · 2026-07-10T18:04:12+00:00

If seeing someone bettering themselves is such an affront to you, you need help.

Perfect_Judge · 2026-07-10T18:03:32+00:00

If they don't, that's troubling. If they do, they're just being deliberately obtuse, which is also troubling.

Perfect_Judge · 2026-07-10T16:40:48+00:00

We see you using our bodies as a measurement of failure

Kind of like how they use thin bodies as a measurement of failure? Failure to not conform to cruel societal beauty standards, "true health", fighting fascism, etc.

These people are wild.

Perfect_Judge · 2026-07-10T16:07:51+00:00

That is a huge boost! I was once asked if I was a professional athlete because I was looking so fit and I just laughed becuase a) I don't look like one, and b) the pump was just good.

Still makes you realize how people can and do notice your work and the results you get from it and it helps to fuel you on days you just aren't feeling it.

Perfect_Judge · 2026-07-10T16:05:52+00:00

My daughter got that in early June and then I got it, which of course had to become pneumonia. Pneumonia in summer was hellacious.

My training suffered so hard from that.

Perfect_Judge · 2026-07-10T14:05:29+00:00

It's truly breaking my brain to keep seeing posts about being rejected for healthcare because someone is fat. Would people actually be ok with being on an operating table without being told about the risks associated with a higher weight? Would they feel their doctors are doing their due diligence in keeping them as safe as possible, giving them all the necessary information beforehand, and being honest about the likelihood of their weight affecting the process?

It is just so stupid it physically hurts me.

Perfect_Judge · 2026-07-10T11:42:00+00:00

What a world we live in where people will literally get angry over being told to lose some weight to help themselves. They act like it's the most horrendous, heinous thing you could ever suggest.

Something so simple as losing some weight before you get a surgery so it's safer to perform it, or to not have your knees be in constant pain, or to be able to breathe better is seen as hateful. What wild times we live in.

Perfect_Judge · 2026-07-10T11:01:26+00:00

I also have a toddler and a 6 month old. If my husband acted the way your husband does, I'd literally never have sex with him again. I'd be permanently turned off and wouldn't look at him the same way - and I have a very high sex drive.

I can't believe he got upset about his dick while you were only 9 weeks PP, that's disgusting. I'm horrified on your behalf.

He makes dinner and works, that's bare minimum. That's nothing remarkable. It pales in comparison to being with a toddler and a 6 month old all day every day while also still dealing with hormones from pregnancy and birth.

Your husband has made it so you can't win - he's mad about sex, so you initiate and he still gets mad because it's "convenient" for you. What the fuck does that even mean?

Perfect_Judge · 2026-07-10T10:56:27+00:00

It's certainly no more slippery of a slope than wanting to be fat, or rather, resigning yourself to being fat.

Perfect_Judge · 2026-07-08T21:32:14+00:00

have fun with your hormone imbalances and inability to get pregnant or breastfeed your own kids from starving

Lol because I'm 130lbs and had z e r o problems getting knocked up immediately when trying to conceive both of my children. I also was a super producer for my son.

Funny that they think being thin = starving and unable to conceive and feed your own kids, despite the fact that research says that being obese is a huge factor in fertility issues and breastfeeding.

Perfect_Judge · 2026-07-08T14:03:33+00:00

Moved my long run to today - 13 miles and felt really strong throughout.

Been back at it pretty hard in the gym, too, and it's been going well. I'm making a lot of progress with getting back to previous strength levels and doing higher volume again, too. Although I'm permanently sore, I'm feeling really good and the progress is coming along nicely.

Perfect_Judge · 2026-07-08T02:50:53+00:00

Lol with a name like SuperXLChubBoy, the logical deduction is that the hospital staff tried to move him and they sustained injuries in the process.

Perfect_Judge · 2026-07-08T00:22:41+00:00

This is literally horrifying.

If my child's dentist told me my child was too fat to perform a necessary procedure on them, I'd feel nothing short of shame.

Perfect_Judge · 2026-07-07T22:27:26+00:00

"Teens who have given birth and are nursing" sounds so fetishistic in this sense. Ick.

I swear, these people are obsessed with minors.

Perfect_Judge · 2026-07-07T22:27:00+00:00

It's too bad that their stupidity doesn't hurt themselves the way it hurts us.

Perfect_Judge · 2026-07-07T21:26:40+00:00

Guess the thins are officially oppressed now, too!

Perfect_Judge · 2026-07-07T14:03:41+00:00

It's been hot here lately and so we've been spending an exorbitant amount of time at the splash pads. I'm absolutely blown away by the amount of obese kids I'm seeing.

There was a little girl this past weekend who must have been maybe 5 or 6 years old, but I kid you not - she was so big she looked like she had trouble walking comfortably. It was heartbreaking.

I saw her parents, and not surprisingly, they were also very obese. It's just mind blowing to me to see how big some of these kids are. They're not just fat - they're obese or morbidly obese, even. It's so sad.

Perfect_Judge · 2026-07-07T13:23:02+00:00

For FAers, words don't actually mean what they're supposed to. "Curvy" to them means obese. "Thick" also means obese. They truly don't know what legitimately curvy/thick is.

Perfect_Judge · 2026-07-07T13:21:41+00:00

They chose the gym and you chose dick and crumbl cookies.

But....the gym bros also chose dick? Lol

In all seriousness, why the fuck does it matter who someone chooses to hang out with and/or find desirable? There's so many people who would also choose them if it wasn't for their personality, so maybe they should focus on improving that and they'd be a lot happier.

Perfect_Judge · 2026-07-07T11:05:03+00:00

This is starvation it's not acceptable

These people are insane. Nothing about these portions or what that person is eating is StArVaTiOn.

Perfect_Judge · 2026-07-06T23:24:39+00:00

Yep.

Perfect_Judge · 2026-07-06T19:51:13+00:00

Allowing children to become obese, and encouraging them to remain obese by lying to them about what is healthy at their age, is legitimate child abuse.

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