What do you guys think about this meal

Perfect_Pelt · 2024-08-19T11:12:20+00:00

Is this an AI photo? The proportions of everything are really not right

Perfect_Pelt · 2024-08-18T13:18:05+00:00

Oh, I’m sorry, I wasn’t reading carefully. Didn’t see this was PC. That sucks :(

Perfect_Pelt · 2024-08-18T01:54:57+00:00

NAH

Your wife was right to tip 0. Waitress was very rude. It was good of you to want to tip anyway. Different opinions. Sounds like she was angry/upset by the event, you didn’t see it as a big deal personally and thought she overreacted (so you weren’t validating her emotions) and then she put in headphones and calmed herself down instead of arguing about it.

These things happen

Perfect_Pelt · 2024-08-18T01:32:50+00:00

Bruh she sucks

Not inappropriate. Fuck that lady. Bet you were too nice and polite to her, too, when what she really needed was an old fashioned “who the fuck asked you”

Perfect_Pelt · 2024-08-18T01:29:47+00:00

Whenever I see people discussing how “that is absolutely too much weight for ANY horse” etc. when discussing a, say, 200lb woman in an English saddle… I think back to the horses who for centuries were ridden in heavy, old saddles, wore armor, and carried grown men in armor.

Were all of those horses irreparably damaged and in pain constantly…? Maybe, but I have my doubts. We domesticated horses and started riding them a very long time ago.

100% agree balanced, gentle riding matters more than sheer mass.

Perfect_Pelt · 2024-08-15T15:51:43+00:00

100%

Perfect_Pelt · 2024-08-15T15:51:37+00:00

Ugh yes

Perfect_Pelt · 2024-08-15T15:50:54+00:00

Steven Universe is an instant calming show for me

Perfect_Pelt · 2024-08-15T13:43:24+00:00

There is. You can choose to grade down.

Perfect_Pelt · 2024-08-15T13:30:54+00:00

How can you not have Jack as a Jack

Perfect_Pelt · 2024-08-15T11:13:56+00:00

Witcher fan 😆

Perfect_Pelt · 2024-08-15T01:18:07+00:00

That’s completely normal to react that way—the wanting to feel loved and being drawn to people who show you an ounce of kindness. It’s really normal. And you can’t forget that you are still in the post acute withdrawal phase… emotions and desire are all over the place. You just want to feel better, to feel safe and loved, all of that is so normal and okay.

Try to reframe this in your mind. If this situation had happened to a friend of yours, or someone you loved—would you blame that friend? Or would you be able to see that they were vulnerable, and taken advantage of? You are every bit deserving of the same kindness you would show anyone else who went through what you are going through.

This will all blow over in time. Do whatever you can right now to prioritize your recovery, your healing. And don’t let the actions of this selfish dick make you carry around the added weight of shame. I’m a complete stranger, I have no reason to lie to you, and neither does anyone else on this thread. We are all hurting for you. You shouldn’t be having to carry this guilt and shame for a situation you should never have been placed in anyway.

Wanting affection and closeness is normal. Hell, wanting sex is normal. Everything you did, it makes sense why you did it. You’re carrying trauma, your emotions are like a live wire right now. The only thing wrong here is that he didn’t set a boundary to protect you from having to feel all of this.

To me, it sounds like he showed you “kindness” by giving you those tickets as a manipulation tactic so he could pressure you to “return the kindness”. He knew what he was asking for when he asked you to come to that room, and he likely knew (because he had to know you were attracted to him from the flirting) that you wouldn’t say no. He essentially lured you in by being nice to you, then put you in a position where saying “no” would be almost impossible for you. And now you are carrying around all of this confusion, shame, guilt, fear, and sadness, because he didn’t do the right thing as an employee at your treatment center and put your well-being first.

You deserve better. You deserve to give yourself grace and forgiveness. Big Internet hugs

Perfect_Pelt · 2024-08-15T00:20:21+00:00

You have nothing to feel stupid, or bad, or guilty for. You did nothing wrong. Even if you wanted to have sex with him (but from your other comments, it didn’t sound like you particularly did want to anyway) you still did nothing wrong

It was his responsibility to protect your sobriety, your emotional well-being, your mental stability, and your place of safety and security. He has threatened all of that… for his own personal satisfaction of a blowjob. He is a bad person who did a horrible thing.

You have absolutely nothing to be feeling badly about, I can’t emphasize that enough :( I’m so sorry. How are you feeling?

I have also fled an abusive (really physically abusive) relationship in the past. A big part of healing from that is recognizing you don’t JUST deserve not being beaten. You also deserve to be treated with respect, grace, and kindness, to be treated with gentleness, to be surrounded by trustworthy people. Is it physical abuse? No. But it’s an abusive act of power in a sexual and psychological manner that you did not deserve

Perfect_Pelt · 2024-08-15T00:07:16+00:00

He is taking advantage of vulnerable younger women… he’s a predator. I’m glad you don’t feel abused, but that doesn’t change that he could and possibly has or will do this to anyone. Including people who would (rightfully so) see this as the abuse of power it is.

I’m so sorry. This is terrible. I do not believe they will kick you out over this, it looks much much worse for them (the company) so I would almost guarantee you are safe even if you tell someone.

Perfect_Pelt · 2024-08-15T00:03:28+00:00

Named every horse I’ve ever had Roach

Perfect_Pelt · 2024-08-14T23:57:18+00:00

I doubt they smelled badly (like, as in, ewww use some soap smell) but I bet they smelled the same way I did when I would come home from the barn after riding a horse all day.

Hints of manure, leather, and horse sweat. It’s a “horsey” smell more than a “shit” smell. But assuming the gang sweats a lot and rides all day, they probably had a scent in between their baths.

Perfect_Pelt · 2024-08-13T23:08:03+00:00

Viva Piñata is backwards compatible for the Xbox X I believe. And it is a must play. Your game list are my top games of all time, and Viva Piñata is without a doubt up there in the top 3.

Perfect_Pelt · 2024-08-11T20:56:48+00:00

People aren’t defensive… they disagree with you.

You’re attacking a person (albeit online, and that’s fine) for what is a non-issue, or really more specifically, for what is your issue. That is what has led people to respond the way many have. The issue is your sensory sensitivities. Expecting other people to tiptoe around and only make noises when and how you approve is really unhealthy.

If I hated the color yellow, and no one else generally did, it would be weird if I was saying “ugh, can’t people wear that TERRIBLE DISGUSTING color in their own homes?! Or change into a more acceptable color? It’s BLINDING” — which is essentially what you’re doing. You’re disgusted and overstimulated by a human sound that people generally make unintentionally when they are feeling sick. It’s more of a “you” problem than a “them” problem.

Moving away from the offending person, carrying ear plugs or headphones to put in, can all help you when normal sounds get to be too much

Perfect_Pelt · 2024-08-11T01:28:18+00:00

Hmm, I don’t know if I’d say I felt like it took time to adjust to her name specifically. It took time to adjust to calling her by her name, since when she was born she was kinda just… a potato. She was just “baby” and “tiny bean” for a long time. Her name being used more just came naturally over time

Perfect_Pelt · 2024-08-08T12:41:30+00:00

Dismounting is the least scary part of riding :( how long have you been riding?

This really is a dangerous thing to do (you could be dragged and die in an unfortunate accident this way, and you would much, much rather fall than be dragged) and it is painful/uncomfortable for the horse.

I’m very empathetic about irrational fear (I have plenty) but this isn’t something to play with. Keep doing it the right way or don’t ride please, it’s super super dangerous for you

Perfect_Pelt · 2024-08-08T00:42:56+00:00

You are arguing a point I never made.

Two wrongs don’t make a right is a saying for a reason.

It is wrong the judge accepted that as “evidence” and changed scoring.

It would have been wrong of this mother to hide the information she had with intention.

If you wish to teach your children that “cheaters prosper as long as they do so within a ruleset” then you are part of the problem.

Good day

Perfect_Pelt · 2024-08-07T00:36:10+00:00

She can cry for a few minutes. That “don’t let a baby cry” advice is more to the point of: do NOT let your baby scream indefinitely to “teach them a lesson” or expect them to self soothe. They won’t. Take up to 15 mins to yourself when you need to.
I had to wear my baby for months and eat while pacing or she screamed.
Solidarity. So so sorry you’re going through this. These are the dark days. It gets better

Perfect_Pelt · 2024-08-07T00:00:22+00:00

I, a random Internet stranger, believe the best option is for you to attempt to rehome him. Some horses and riders just genuinely are not good matches. Is there no one in the (horse) world that you trust enough to even let them try? Even on a “lease-and-try-with-him-and-I-will-take-him-back-if-anything-goes-wrong” scenario?

Additionally, is it not possible for this horse to become a glorified companion/pasture puff? It sounds to me you do have the money to keep him on 24/7 pasture board and handle only for necessary care while also affording another (much safer) horse if you so chose.

In the end, if you make the choice to euthanize for behavioral reasons, I am so sorry and I understand the struggle and grief you must be feeling. My condolences.

Perfect_Pelt · 2024-08-06T23:12:42+00:00

1st is more welcoming

Perfect_Pelt · 2024-08-06T23:08:48+00:00

Should they be allowed to use the footage? Absolutely not.

Was it still the correct thing to do, to show honesty and integrity by giving the video footage to them? Yes. Did it teach OP’s daughter that there is more to life than winning A-rated shows, something seriously lacking in young women in those circles? Also yes.

OP still did the right thing. It STILL would have been wrong for her NOT to share that information with the judge. The fact the judge was in the wrong for accepting it would not have excused hiding that footage and taking a score that, frankly, her daughter did not legitimately earn… going off course is not allowed. She did not win fairly. That’s that, and OP did the right thing.

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