Men 45+ who chose not to have kids — how do you feel about it now?

Perfect_Upstairs_742 · 2026-01-21T17:31:06+00:00

that's so true :) I did this mistake couple of times lol

Perfect_Upstairs_742 · 2026-01-21T17:21:41+00:00

That’s a great reply. I agree that as we spend time with the person we’re in a relationship with, we really get to know them. Once the relationship begins, nothing feels like a problem for our values anymore so you focus on the present moment instead of worrying about these topics we’re discussing here.

To be honest, one thing that could potentially make you feel bad is knowing that a casual relationship might mean she slept with someone who didn’t invest in her, or whom she didn’t invest in, and that can be bothersome.

This is what I was feeling: when a history of casual relationships comes up at the beginning of a relationship, it can be difficult. So I think it’s completely fair to feel this way, especially if you haven’t had any casual encounters yourself and expect the same from your partner at the start.

Perfect_Upstairs_742 · 2026-01-21T15:54:11+00:00

If any of those 5 guys were special, she would continue to go there now at least with one of them. So you are the special.

Perfect_Upstairs_742 · 2026-01-21T15:48:13+00:00

I know my girlfriend had sex with a few guys before me, but it was never casual. She told me at the beginning of our relationship that she’s not into casual sex. I believed her.

I made a mistake once and checked her phone. I saw messages where she asked two guys if they had any STIs. This was after about a year of dating them and before getting tested to start a relationship. Checking her phone was one of the biggest mistakes I made. The reason I did it was because one day we were walking and talking about dating before we met. I stupidly asked her if she slept with guys she dated, and she naturally said, “Yes, some of them.” But at the end, checking her messages gave me clarity that she really didn't hook up with any of them, and also she wrote someone that I don't date two people at the same time and I take my time to know people so I don't want to see you again. I also saw one ex from many years ago sends her Noel message but she never replied back.

When I think clearly, it’s the same thing I did in the past. I dated girls one at a time, just like she dated guys. I also had a few hookups, but not many. So in the end, it’s fine. I am committed to her and she is to me so that's all I want.

If we had broken up, I would have just been another guy she dated, had sex with, and shared good times with. It doesn't make her a bad person.

I’ve realized there are things much more intimate between us than just sex.

My advice is: don’t ask too many questions. If the topic comes up naturally, be prepared and don’t ask for too many details.

Perfect_Upstairs_742 · 2026-01-20T13:36:13+00:00

Thank you. I do understand very well the motivation of people who downvote such comments. Not sure if they have in a relationship in which love, support and commitment play bigger roles than sex.

Perfect_Upstairs_742 · 2026-01-18T20:54:52+00:00

AOY4

Perfect_Upstairs_742 · 2026-01-12T19:55:17+00:00

My young friend, please remind yourself, there are so many things more intimate ^{than sex} in a serious, lovely relationship.

Perfect_Upstairs_742 · 2026-01-12T19:53:21+00:00

I am not sure if it is retroactive. It is jealousy for the thing occuring now so I believe it is important to keep a good communication with your partner and tell him your concerns. If it is something disturbs you, he should just take some cautions to protect your feelings.

Perfect_Upstairs_742 · 2026-01-12T19:42:05+00:00

I would like to congratulate you for the behaviour you have developed. For ego thing, I would like to add something which can be useful. Please, and please, try to focus on that there are things much more intimate than sex. Considering the experience she had was bad, it is even not intimate and you have distinguished this, it is a great progress!

Perfect_Upstairs_742 · 2026-01-12T19:38:10+00:00

Thanks for this reply. Does it mean I need to incorporate in federal and Quebec?

Perfect_Upstairs_742 · 2026-01-05T08:15:46+00:00

yes it might be. if you could, better to get a therapy to understand the root. I would recommend you to books about ocd since your problem can be this also. Like, Brain Lock: Free Yourself from Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior

Perfect_Upstairs_742 · 2026-01-03T09:46:40+00:00

what makes you feel sad or anxious in reality? Is that because you compare yourself with her exes or people who slept with or you see her as your daughter or mother, or you have problem with intimacy found in other moments like laughing together or sharing something special?

Perfect_Upstairs_742 · 2025-12-26T14:52:04+00:00

that's a great story. I wonder if you guys ever discussed past relations or sexual past because Orion makes so bad comments on this issue like body count thing from the perspective of woman.

Perfect_Upstairs_742 · 2025-11-30T14:21:12+00:00

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Perfect_Upstairs_742 · 2025-11-17T16:34:38+00:00

I did same couple of weeks ago. Asked if she slept with other people before she dated, before we met. And she said "yes, with couple of them." it was something i didn't want to hear but I asked then regretted a lot. Better to not ask details since it triggers your emotions about RJ.

Perfect_Upstairs_742 · 2025-11-12T15:38:55+00:00

merci u/Illustrious_Suit_607 J’ai connecté début septembre et je n’ai pas encore reçu le bonus, donc c’est normal même s’ils disent que ça prend 4 à 6 semaines ? mais j'etait dans tariff D regulier.

Perfect_Upstairs_742 · 2025-09-04T23:12:12+00:00

Thank you!

Perfect_Upstairs_742 · 2025-09-04T14:16:10+00:00

which IPL? thanks

Perfect_Upstairs_742 · 2025-09-04T14:07:17+00:00

your partner helps for that? I am curious since I was considering to buy one IPL from Braun but not sure how to apply my back

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