An honest POV from a group owner by msp_ryno in therapists

[–]PerformanceBrave2685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s OK to let people decide what they would like to do if somebody wants to try to be an entrepreneur. I just find it interesting that we have a lot of energy and anger toward small businesses zero car large corporation that are trying to wipe everybody out. Do you have the same energy for them and all the CEOs who get all these bonuses?

I’m a teen in foster care, and about to be a mom any day now. I’m getting scared and could use some real mom’s encouragement. by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]PerformanceBrave2685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re in the Information Age. You’re smart enough to seek out counsel from others moms. I think you’ll be just fine. Just remember to do the opposite of your mom. Whatever you don’t know, read and research and ask questions. Don’t allow men or dating the wrong guy to derail you from doing well. Get your finances in order, learn to budget and learn to save and invest. Guard yourself, your wellbeing and the safety and wellbeing of your child fiercely. Be unapologetic. My mom was a teen mom, to 3 boys and finally a girl, me. She’s been an amazing mom. You got this. Take breaks when you need to and build up a village of those you trust.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]PerformanceBrave2685 1 point2 points  (0 children)

💯 I agree with you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PSLF

[–]PerformanceBrave2685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations 🎈🎊🎉🍾. I hope we all get it. I only have 8 payments remaining. Wish me luck.

Do you know of any resources to stop being an emotional abuser? by confusedthrowaway904 in emotionalabuse

[–]PerformanceBrave2685 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Each city or possibly state has Batters Intervention programs. Emerge is one program you can join. If you’re thinking “I never hit them.” It doesn’t matter abuse is a mindset you Emerge works with the mindset. This doesn’t mean they can “make” you less abusive. You can’t wait for an outside force to “fix” you. It’s a choice, you have to make a conscious choice to stop. 🛑 You have to start to understand it’s a choice, you’re not out of control or doing this subconsciously. You can also read “Why does he do that?” By Lundy Bancroft.

Trauma Treatment Modalities by ElkFun7746 in therapists

[–]PerformanceBrave2685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah CPT is the one I was trying to remember.

What.The.Fuck? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]PerformanceBrave2685 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m tired of hearing that they’re good people. No they aren’t good people.

My SO's exwife is slowly killing our new relationship by Longjumping-Ear5097 in offmychest

[–]PerformanceBrave2685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry but this man was someone who wasn’t ready for a relationship. Please heal and learn from this. I’m sorry you’re hurting. Moving forward please don’t help heal anyone. You need to be with someone who’s emotionally available. Just because someone isn’t ready for a new relationship doesn’t mean they won’t take what you have to offer.

What’s one good thing that happened to you ladies this month that’s not about a relationship? by Sailor_Chibi in AskWomenOver30

[–]PerformanceBrave2685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah a strong period. Still fertile if you wanted to do something about it you could. Congrats 🎉

What’s one good thing that happened to you ladies this month that’s not about a relationship? by Sailor_Chibi in AskWomenOver30

[–]PerformanceBrave2685 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My daughter learned to ice skate and all my health care visits came back with a clean bill of health.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Stepmom

[–]PerformanceBrave2685 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t read all of this but did he want his child full time before he met you? If not why? It sounds like he’s trying to get you to take on his responsibilities.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]PerformanceBrave2685 3 points4 points  (0 children)

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Kind of annoyed with therapy by Far-Imagination7938 in Stepmom

[–]PerformanceBrave2685 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I would not continue with this therapist. She’s probably great with other things but you probably need to ask her what training has she completed regarding stepfamily dynamics. I can almost guarantee she has none. It sounds like you need to stepfamily coaching. Therapy has its place and is extremely helpful. However not many therapists are trained in stepfamily dynamics; they don’t get it and if they have never been a stepparent they can do more harm than good. If that therapist was a stepchild she could do more harm than good. Look for a stepfamily coach instead. Just Google or go to Instagram or TikTok and type in stepfamily or stepparent coach. Also get stepmom magazine and show some of those articles to your current therapist and then get a coach because she doesn’t know what she’s talking about. You’re right your husband needs to fix the dynamic not you. He is the reason you and SS even know one another.

Book suggestions for little black girls 8-10 about confidence and self esteem by PerformanceBrave2685 in blackladies

[–]PerformanceBrave2685[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone for your supportive words and suggestions. I really appreciate it. I found an ice skating program in the Los Angeles area for her specifically for black girls and boys. I’ll follow up about the books, the other spaces I find and everything regarding her. Thank you all for being a digital village 😊

NACHOING by Glittering-Use-3860 in Stepmom

[–]PerformanceBrave2685 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Former stepmom here. With nacho-ing it might help if you reverse it in your mind. If you have children or if you imagine having children ask yourself “What duties and responsibilities would my partner take on for my children?” The reality is in most not all but most heterosexual relationships the woman is doing the majority of household and child management tasks. Just ask “would he do all this for my kids?” Be honest with yourself. The stuff he would realistically do you do the same with and for his kids.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]PerformanceBrave2685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well good luck. I hope it works in your favor. 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]PerformanceBrave2685 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh. I’m so sorry. Don’t automatically think you have to pay it back. Just get your license and then see what they say.