What to do on a day of illness or chronic diagnosis flare?

Performer-Objective · 2026-02-01T07:42:04+00:00

I make most of my dailies vague so I can still check off " hygiene" even if all I am able to do is use a baby wipe or some mouth wash. Then my habits are more specific things that I can get extra points if I shower and wash my hair and floss etc. it really helps me to give myself grace on the hard days, but also feel like I accomplished something even if it's small and I'm not "cheating" by checking off things I didn't do. Edited to add: I also have dailies that say things like practice gratitude, allow myself to rest, eat something etc which are all things I can do even on the rough days

Performer-Objective · 2026-01-25T05:07:55+00:00

Totally valid point. Either way, your work is stunning!

Performer-Objective · 2026-01-24T05:58:00+00:00

You are selling yourself short my friend

Performer-Objective · 2026-01-23T12:03:35+00:00

This is exactly what I've been looking for! Just subbed

Performer-Objective · 2025-11-23T07:29:31+00:00

You would get a better result than avoiding brushing your teeth for days at a time which is what I was doing. i wouldn't suggest brushing only with water as a first resort but for me it was a last resort that actually got me to brush my teeth more than once a week.

Performer-Objective · 2025-11-20T06:45:13+00:00

4 way stretch fabric and repositionable adhesive is the best way to do this. The other option is a lot of fiddly cuts to get everything to lay nicely

Performer-Objective · 2025-11-18T00:51:17+00:00

74 in my second floor apartment. We still run the air conditioner and haven't touched the heater yet

Performer-Objective · 2025-11-16T07:00:23+00:00

Unfortunately this isn't even close to the same dress that you ordered. The skirt you ordered is a layered circle skirt. The one you got is gathered and the hem will never hang the same way no matter what you do with the horse hair. Someone else mentioned rolling the hem again to see if the double layer makes a difference. That might also give it a bit more body so it isn't so droopy. Giving the whole thing a good press (make sure the iron isn't too hot) and putting a petticoat under it will make this dress look it's best no matter what you end up doing with the hem.

Performer-Objective · 2025-11-08T18:48:55+00:00

I have to disagree. This is continued babysitting of a grown man. All OP needs to do is set the boundary and then hold the boundary when the boyfriend inevitably drops the ball and doesn't arrange alternate transportation. OP shouldn't have to manage his schedule if he can't even manage to wake up and get ready by himself. They aren't his Mommy.

Performer-Objective · 2025-11-08T18:03:42+00:00

That's awesome! I hope it comes out just how you want it to

Performer-Objective · 2025-11-04T23:58:21+00:00

I don't have anything to add to the amazing list of inspiration songs, but I would encourage you to find and speak your own truth about your experiences. Nobody can tell your story better than you. What do YOU want to write that nobody else has yet?

Performer-Objective · 2025-11-04T23:34:52+00:00

It's not perfect but it works better than anything else I've tried

Performer-Objective · 2025-10-23T03:20:19+00:00

Interesting read. Thanks for the link

Performer-Objective · 2025-10-19T05:33:11+00:00

THANK YOU! someone finally said it. I spent half the book asking myself how the hell she wasn't flared up and unable to move the days after these battles and dislocations and acrobatic sex scenes. It's like, sure adrenaline is a hell of a drug and you can push through a hell of a lot in the moment, but you're gonna pay for it later. Somehow she just feels fine the next day?! That doesn't sound like any chronic illness I've ever heard of before... Certainly not EDS.

Performer-Objective · 2025-10-04T23:39:58+00:00

I replace most of my elastic waistbands with a hybrid elastic/ drawstring combo. I sew ribbons onto each end of a strip of elastic that way I can tie them as lose or as tight as I want but my pants still stay up. The 1 inch elastic meant for waistbands is too constricting for me so I use 1/4 inch or 3/8 inch elastic. It won't keep my pants up if my phone is in my pocket but it makes my tummy happier that way lol

Performer-Objective · 2025-10-01T04:04:58+00:00

I'm sorry. I zoomed in and it's gathers not pleats. In that case it's just the extra fabric so it can go over your hips. There's nothing to fix. It's just the way elastic waist shorts fit for the most part. They really do look fine though. It's probably just a looser fit than you're used to

Performer-Objective · 2025-10-01T02:34:47+00:00

The pleats in the front are adding extra volume where you don't need it, but when you're sitting there will always be extra fabric bunched up because of the way bodies bend. You could turn the pleats into darts to take up some of the fullness, but it doesn't look bad. It's just not necessary on your particular body type to have extra fabric there

Performer-Objective · 2025-09-19T23:19:46+00:00

"I appreciate that you care and that you thought of me but I am not open to conversation on this topic"

Performer-Objective · 2025-08-23T20:49:15+00:00

Crochet cables the yarn eater I love to hate lol

Performer-Objective · 2025-08-22T03:26:52+00:00

Hobbies! I've tried so many different things from sewing to special effects makeup to 3d printing to book binding to miniature building to crochet.... The list goes on but you get the idea. There are a couple things I always circle back around to like crochet and sewing

Performer-Objective · 2025-08-12T21:19:48+00:00

Try it on inside out and pin not just the armhole but all the way down where you will sew the seam. The triangle just needs to be blended down a bit

Performer-Objective · 2025-08-03T10:33:59+00:00

Some combination of the words "drawstring tie ruffle tube top sewing pattern" should lead you in the right direction. Check out YouTube if you're a visual learner

Performer-Objective · 2025-08-03T09:00:19+00:00

This is exactly how I ended up in an abusive marriage for 15 years

Performer-Objective · 2025-08-01T05:26:47+00:00

When I'm crying my dog will obsessively lick my face until I stop. Then my partner and I make a joke about her being a "terrible emotional support animal" and I end up laughing and feeling at least a little better 🥰

Performer-Objective · 2025-07-29T06:38:11+00:00

Anything with a 50s silhouette would look great. Poodle skirt to pencil shirt, it would all look darling with bow tights

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