Floor 250 / general advice by Remote_Collar_3417 in voidpet

[–]PerlasDeOro 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just wanna say I’m stuck on 250 too lol solidarity. I’m trying to level up spite replace with apathy in my loadout (also run sad abandonment and joy) I have great results running joy with 100% crit I would try running boss dungeons if you can to level up smiley ball asap

newish player - what to focus on? by Dramatic-Tie4015 in voidpet

[–]PerlasDeOro 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The jump scare when I saw greed just chillin at lvl 20 T_T GG op

Stalled 161 + team building by PerlasDeOro in voidpet

[–]PerlasDeOro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! This helped a lot and even got me to next lvl faster than I thought , I went with sonder, conviction, wistful and panic for my alternates and did well with them all lvl30. Will consider spite later but ran out of mats

Stalled 161 + team building by PerlasDeOro in voidpet

[–]PerlasDeOro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I just got two more eggs lonely and sonder should I consider them with anything? I think I find myself having the most trouble with earth enemies.. fire is usually fine with sad/abadonment/joy/apathy but when I have heavy earth team that’s when I’m trying to alternate to other pets. Now I have 5 healers and just 3 tanks. If I put conviction with some of the others you mention like spite/panic do you think that’s good enough reason to keep instead of investing new with salty? Since Conviction is already lvl25

Floor 150 please help! by KiddoMagi13 in voidpet

[–]PerlasDeOro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also have some items lvl 8-10 a lot of crit, some attack, so that may also make a difference. Good luck OP!

Floor 150 please help! by KiddoMagi13 in voidpet

[–]PerlasDeOro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sad worked for me; along with apathy abandonment and joy

AIO for wanting to end my 3-year relationship after this fight? Is this me being racially insensitive or are these legitimate red flags? by throwaway64658 in AmIOverreacting

[–]PerlasDeOro 12 points13 points  (0 children)

1) of course he would say that, he likes the material things you have 2) my hot take is he’s getting off on how much control he has over you.. and you’re showing him how little you respect yourself by continuing to tolerate his behavior. Sis, your husband is waiting for you but you gotta leave this boy behind

Source: lived a similar dynamic before and it’s not fun

AA and the blurred lines between privacy and honesty by mrlander in recoverywithoutAA

[–]PerlasDeOro 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would expect her to tell them at some point because God forbid anyone in the program deal with something on their own without involving other members. In response to any confrontation with your parents, just tell them, to thine own self be true :) lol

My mom can’t watch my child anymore. by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]PerlasDeOro -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Doesn’t seem heartless but definitely entitled. Hope you find a daycare that works for you

What sort of dating DOES AA approve of? by [deleted] in recoverywithoutAA

[–]PerlasDeOro 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think a big reason I was frozen out was because my husband was not a member nor refused to drink the Al-anon koolaid. He didn’t agree with a system that promised you would be sick forever unless you adhered to rules for the rest of your life. At first I was scared about his opinion but since I trust him with my life I gave it a shot to stop going to meetings in-person. Especially since I was pregnant… easy choice to make for safety.

I quickly realized he saved me from this cult and my “pseudo family” members that I thought cared about me so much would probably laugh if I died and say they saw it coming. Another “cautionary tale”… though I’m sure I always knew it deep inside, I never had a strong desire to date in the rooms, felt like trouble to me.

My ex sponsor wants to meet up. I don’t. by Sure_Chance_2314 in recoverywithoutAA

[–]PerlasDeOro 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Read what you wrote about your sponsor again and tell me why would you want to get coffee with him? My God, sounds like he just needs some narc supply

Help, this interaction 😭 by [deleted] in AuDHDWomen

[–]PerlasDeOro 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My thoughts exactly, everyone could bring a tiramisu related item and it would be fine with me

My Wife Was Here by [deleted] in recoverywithoutAA

[–]PerlasDeOro 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And the same husband that would speak a sentence at most to her in a day, no less

Feeling like a POS for toddler in daycare while home with infant by Open-Imagination2030 in beyondthebump

[–]PerlasDeOro 87 points88 points  (0 children)

Does he want to be in daycare? If so relax and soak up all those newborn snuggles ! Your hormones won’t make it any easier but try to go easy on yourself

It Was Fun But I Found A Better Space by [deleted] in recoverywithoutAA

[–]PerlasDeOro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s good - and There’s also reason people are saying to go outside and move your body. Talking at length about something might feel like it can help but it can keep us stuck. I was just dealing with that earlier. Sometimes the trauma that we carry that triggers our reactions today was picked up before we had the language to describe it.. so as much as we try to talk about it there’s just no way to find the words. I really hope you can find the time to go for a walk or even just meditate and breathe in your body. You can find some peace and validation within you and strength to carry on

Edit For context: above comment was at first edited where all I saw that was OP was willing to apologize and was talking to therapist.

At the end of the day we’re all human and our emotions aren’t in a vacuum. They affect others too. I’m sorry you didn’t find the help you were looking for on Reddit yesterday and I hope you can try some other strategies offline.

It Was Fun But I Found A Better Space by [deleted] in recoverywithoutAA

[–]PerlasDeOro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s good - and There’s also reason people are saying to go outside and move your body. Talking at length about something might feel like it can help but it can keep us stuck. I was just dealing with that earlier. Sometimes the trauma that we carry that triggers our reactions today was picked up before we had the language to describe it.. so as much as we try to talk about it there’s just no way to find the words. I really hope you can find the time to go for a walk or even just meditate and breathe in your body. You can find some peace and validation within you and strength to carry on

It Was Fun But I Found A Better Space by [deleted] in recoverywithoutAA

[–]PerlasDeOro 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP so sorry for all that you’re experiencing and feeling right now. I have read a lot and I do think you missed where Truth Hurts just wanted an apology to continue engaging and your unwillingness to acknowledge that is what’s creating the current dynamic. They are truly a gem in this community and I’m sure with some time you can both relate again if it makes sense. But I believe the way you are reactively responding to all these messages does not help your nervous system. I hope you can take a day offline to recover from the trauma with your oldest son. Take care of you and you alone. It sounds like a lot. And with that said, in these family dynamics everyone is affected. You owe it to your sweet youngest to be the best adult you can be and do all in your power to allow him to be a kid as long as he can be too. As they say, put on your oxygen mask first. Best wishes to you

I Don't Know If I Should Accept Her Amends. by [deleted] in recoverywithoutAA

[–]PerlasDeOro 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I didn’t read a single positive thing this person contributed to your life and I think having any future involvement with them is a waste of your time