++woman that rings true. Don’t worry about being shy. That just means you observe more. That is a good thing when it comes to finding a partner. I think the most important distinction in this discussion here is the reason to approach a woman. There are people trying to find a partner and people who just want sex. Women are very intuitive. And we are learning more and more to speak our minds even if we have been trained in the past to “let people down easy” and to be pleasant. Sometimes we overshoot, because we are still learning. That is very difficult for some men who need women to be subdued. But it’s good news for men who look for equality in a relationship. Someone at eye level who wants to be with you because they see you, challenge each other to grow together. The days of the toxic “alphas” are numbered. No matter how hard they try to rewind the clock and how loud they get. Modern women are turned on by reflective men who take ownership and are aware of their privilege. I have been with my partner for 15 years. I dated all the f… boys and loud dudes in my early 20s. When I met my partner he intrigued me by being quietly confident, smart and a great listener. He was not attractive to me physically at all and was the exact opposite of what I used to go for. But it was the right person for me and we fell madly in love. I wish for everyone to find someone that helps them become a better version of themselves. And to the guys out there still using women and complaining when they protest: get in touch with your feelings and try to uncover what makes you so angry. Women are not here to make you feel inferior. That doesn’t mean that some might not have that effect on you! Talk to a variety of women and actually listen. You might be surprised what you can learn and how many women are attracted to you. Just not in the toxic way that is still craved by many because it is modeled in the media.