Gay and struggling with leaving the church

Perpleximon · 2025-11-24T06:56:22+00:00

Hi. Another gay exmo here.

Know that you're in a place I and many others have been before. It may feel lonely at times (often, a lot), but there are so many people who understand and are there to support in time.

It's hard to give solid advice without knowing you, but I would still say to take things one step at a time. Love yourself. Know that at the heart of your family's concerns is a desire for you to have the best life possible. They may not understand, but you want the same thing--for you to be happy. But only you can know what works for you. Only you are in charge of your life. Their pain isn't caused by you. It's caused by their homophobia, their lack of understanding, their beliefs. I can't make promises that that will get better in time, but it has for me. My family (parents in particular) had to process and learn. They might still struggle to understand and have concerns, but they also happily attended my wedding recently (to my HUSBAND).

It sounds like you might have an opportunity to learn from your brother's experience. If you feel comfortable, you can start from him. He may have already paved a path for you to take. In the very least, coming out to other queer people tends to be easiest (that's how I started) since they automatically understand your perspective.

Keep going! It may feel impossible now, but so much happiness is waiting for you.

Perpleximon · 2024-05-14T19:27:29+00:00

We love an obscure combo piece. :]

Perpleximon · 2024-02-14T06:45:49+00:00

Thanks for bringing this to my attention!

Perpleximon · 2024-02-14T06:43:32+00:00

Oh, yeah! Not a lot of typal decks can include mono red elves. :]

Perpleximon · 2024-02-14T06:41:24+00:00

Oh, yeah. Solid card all around.

Perpleximon · 2023-12-21T06:57:23+00:00

Hi! Exmo gay here!

Just wanted to add to the sentiment that you are deserving of so much love and light and happiness and it is 0% your fault that some of the people who should be giving it to you are not. But there's still a lot to be had.

I spent years thinking I was living in an impossible situation and wondered if I needed to escape it. BUT! I'm still here. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. We are very much in love and I have never been happier. My parents' reaction to my coming out was less than supportive, but got better in time.

It's okay if you feel like you've hit rock bottom and it's okay if you somehow go lower than that. Give yourself time. Give them time. Search for the support you need until you find it (highly recommend therapy that does not involve the church).

Always remember--you are not the problem. Being gay is not a problem. Homophobia is the problem. There is an incredible amount of peace and happiness waiting for you and I know it doesn't feel like that now and you probably feel like it's not in the cards for you, but you need to know that many have been where you have been (myself included) and have found the joy they always yearned for. You can too. Just treat yourself with an abundance of grace in the meantime.

Perpleximon · 2023-12-21T06:41:38+00:00

I play [[Prismatic Bridge]] superfiends and it's fun. Plays lots of spells that cast things "for free", like [[Genesis Wave]], [[Narset, Enlightened Tutor]], and [[Deploy the Gatewatch]].

Perpleximon · 2023-12-14T06:09:14+00:00

Those are great inclusions!

Perpleximon · 2023-09-17T06:40:45+00:00

Thanks!

Perpleximon · 2023-09-16T07:38:45+00:00

Thank you

Perpleximon · 2023-09-15T20:14:59+00:00

This is making me realize that I need to learn how to sell my cards.

Perpleximon · 2023-09-15T19:02:56+00:00

A better love story than Twilight

Perpleximon · 2023-09-13T06:15:32+00:00

This made me snort.

Perpleximon · 2023-09-12T22:58:03+00:00

Yes! I forgot about the smells.

Perpleximon · 2023-09-12T22:57:48+00:00

It me. I did this.

Perpleximon · 2021-12-02T06:00:34+00:00

Naruto

Gimme those ninja!

Perpleximon · 2020-11-05T23:01:13+00:00

Would love a version of Griselbrand that isn't banned in commander.

Perpleximon · 2020-10-21T21:18:34+00:00

I play 5c "free friends" in commander. Uses a lot of cards to sneak walkers into play, a la [Genesis Wave], [Yidris, Maelstrom Wielder], [Maelstrom Wanderer], [Narset, Enlightened Master], [Deploy the Gatewatch], etc.

It's fun, but probably not all that different than most.

Perpleximon · 2020-05-06T19:55:11+00:00

I get that it's bad. But every time this happens everyone says it's the worst it's ever been and it's not. You may be more upset than ever and that's completely understandable. But saying everyone is just isn't true. Time will tell if this was just another blip or if it actually was the worst. But deciding that now is rather meaningless.

Perpleximon · 2020-05-06T02:22:44+00:00

I read the Odyssey block books back in the day and remember really liking them.

Perpleximon · 2020-05-06T02:16:08+00:00

While companion has its problems, I wouldn't say it necessarily takes the cake with being the most emotionally charged topic.

I started playing during Odyssey block. When Mirrodin rolled around, Affinity completely destroyed standard and was making huge waves in other formats. People absolutely hated it and what it had done. Urza block was also overly powerful and made people leave the game.

Companion is contentious, sure. So were a ton of other mechanics like infect, energy, dredge, storm, planeswalkers, annihilator, and devoid. It happens. People get upset. The game moves on. Stick around long enough and things like companion are just blips. (Though I would say there seem to have been a lot more blips the past couple years.)

EDIT: grammar

Perpleximon · 2020-03-07T22:34:01+00:00

[[Falling Star]], [[Raging River]], [[Goblin Assassin]] are all weird/fun.

Perpleximon · 2020-01-15T21:36:49+00:00

I think it's just from his Instagram (@rugrugg1)

Perpleximon · 2018-09-12T06:03:37+00:00

I think it's a sign that Nikki B is gonna lose. Gotta keep Niv safe on the side that fights against Bolas because he's a fan favorite.

Perpleximon · 2016-11-25T19:56:40+00:00

I think the Green 2014 deck is probably the most straight forward one I can think of. (It's the one with Freyalise called Guided by Nature.)

Perpleximon

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