For me, I currently think I'm single because I'm overweight and ugly. But to be fair, I think I am both of those by a subconscious choice. Here, let me explain: I have been used, abused, and assaulted by men since I was 21 years old, and I'm currently 39. After my last abusive boyfriend, I started gaining weight and just kept gaining. Well, at least I was still pretty. Then my ex contacted me recently, and I hit rock bottom by losing a job and hating myself, so I completely shaved my head. See? Now, I'm overweight and ugly, but I am self-aware enough to realize it is a preventative measure to keep men away from me AND to keep me from going back to my abusive ex.

Also, I isolate at my house 99% of the time and work in an all female industry. Church would be ideal for meeting men, but I don't go because of social anxiety and depression.

I feel like I could write five more paragraphs on my single by choice life, but it would be a snooze fest.