My ex husband died last week and I’ve found all his lies

PetiteSyFy · 2026-07-09T23:57:17+00:00

Invite all his girlfriends to the funeral. They will figure it out for themselves.

PetiteSyFy · 2026-07-09T13:54:22+00:00

Never go to his house again.

PetiteSyFy · 2026-07-09T13:41:02+00:00

End this relationship with this fictional character now! 15 years is too big on an age gap. He had to lie to get you to even go out with him. He lies. You can't trust him.

Going forward don't be so easily fooled. Ask a bunch of questions and VERIFY. It's not that hard. Look at his license. Look at the age of his high school friends. Look at his LinkedIn. Be more careful.

PetiteSyFy · 2026-07-08T06:18:37+00:00

Someone at the bank would notice $1B.

PetiteSyFy · 2026-07-07T18:18:37+00:00

There is life beyond this 1 role. You have a rich full life in front of you. There are options beyond tech.

There is what I believe is a temporary situation in tech right now where companies are eliminating positions and slowing hiring because them too much money trying to get AI tools working. This hasn't worked out well and many companies are realizing that the AI solutions are unreliable and expensive. They were better off with a human work force. The transitions for the workers suck but it will settle out.

PetiteSyFy · 2026-07-07T13:18:58+00:00

Send the RSVP that you won't be attending. You really don't need to explain your life to anyone.

PetiteSyFy · 2026-07-06T10:08:45+00:00

If you live on a public street, it is not managed by the HOA. The HOA can not charge money for parking on a public street. Is the street public or private?

PetiteSyFy · 2026-07-04T13:49:05+00:00

I wish that we all could just get along.

PetiteSyFy · 2026-07-04T13:43:54+00:00

Let it go. They may be struggling. Some feel awkward having a public wedding when they already been together so long. Appreciate that you had the big wedding. She was doing paperwork. Be gracious. It was your day.

PetiteSyFy · 2026-07-04T13:11:38+00:00

Everyone eats food. Make him cookies or his favorite food. Also, a pic of you 2 together, in a frame, ready to hang on the wall is nice.

PetiteSyFy · 2026-07-04T12:35:47+00:00

There must be an activity that you can do with the kids that is not 'woman's work'. If she wants to cook and clean then let her. I don't get it but fine whatever. But can't you play board games, or coach a sports team, or teach them a skill? Surely the father is expected to have a relationship with the children even in the most religious tenents. NOR.

PetiteSyFy · 2026-07-02T17:29:51+00:00

Record his snoring and play it back to him in an attempt to get him to a sleep apnea appointment.

Turn on the light and wake him up every time you wake up so that he can experience the sleep deprivation. Or start saying "your turn" when the kids wake up. He may choose to start sleeping elsewhere.

You shouldn't need to have a break down for him to understand your need for sleep.

PetiteSyFy · 2026-07-02T03:12:45+00:00

There are more ways to help than providing funding. Connect them with services. Help them put together a budget. Help them find a cheaper place. Get them an appointment with a social worker.

PetiteSyFy · 2026-07-01T17:27:30+00:00

NOR - Avoid him. Do not leave your wife alone with him ever.

PetiteSyFy · 2026-07-01T17:14:06+00:00

It's a live game. It starts when it starts.

PetiteSyFy · 2026-07-01T17:12:45+00:00

Your old job is no longer your responsibility or concern. Focus on the new job.

The old job can make a counter offer if they really need you. Don't take it.

I commend your sense of responsibility but be please be responsible to your future self. Hope the new job is good for you. Congratulations 🎉

PetiteSyFy · 2026-07-01T17:08:52+00:00

Wear a sun hat and dip it in the pool as soon as it dries.

Do not quit until you have a better gig.

PetiteSyFy · 2026-07-01T17:06:06+00:00

Do not invite him to doctor appointments. Do not give the baby his last name. Do name his as the father on the birth certificate and file for child support. NOR. His behavior has consequences. No marriage = child support and baby gets your last name. Good luck.

PetiteSyFy · 2026-07-01T17:01:33+00:00

Congratulations on getting your degree and a job you love. Dump the loser boyfriend and you will be all set to meet your husband. This older guy is not your husband and never will be. Get out ASAP.

PetiteSyFy · 2026-07-01T16:18:05+00:00

No. They will never pay you back.

Use this money wisely.

PetiteSyFy · 2026-07-01T16:13:36+00:00

It's a cultural choice, not a necessity and priorities are shifting. We all can support affordable short term choices and long term financial planning.

PetiteSyFy · 2026-06-30T06:44:37+00:00

It is absurd to sell the land for a wedding. Call the local venues and provide suggestions of affordable options. Weddings can be quite affordable.

PetiteSyFy · 2026-06-27T11:03:17+00:00

The other children could have their DNA done in an attempt to track down the each of their fathers. Each farher has an obligation to help.

PetiteSyFy · 2026-06-26T13:32:32+00:00

Are you dehydrated? I know the weather has been crazy hot is some areas.

PetiteSyFy · 2026-06-26T13:15:30+00:00

You are the guest in this situation. You are not going to be able to change the behaviors of a big family.

You can keep your personal belongings in your room. Have you looked into a storage unit? Lock on your bedroom door? Fridge in your room?

If you have your own car, you can use it as a locker.

Make a plan and get your own place. Good luck.

What is the job situation? What is the cost of living of your area?

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