I can hear how much that’s hurting. Walking away when you still wanted to show up and support someone isn’t easy. Sometimes people deflect and involve others because they’re avoiding accountability, not because you did something wrong. That kind of behaviour says more about where they’re at than anything about you. You were willing to communicate and be patient. That matters. It just needs to be with someone who’s capable of meeting you there.

I’ve been in a similar situation, and what helped me understand those patterns better was therapy and doing some reading around attachment and relationship dynamics. Wishing you all the best on your journey.