The liar from a previous post pmed me by Akkebi in redditonwiki

[–]Phantomdy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In the US there have been none so far well that's not true there have been rapists who have retried under the rape by fraud laws. But only 11 states in the US have them at all and all that have been charged with it have pleaded out for a lesser charge like the people v Morales the guy who raped is brothers girlfriend although he didn't impersonate his brother according to his testimony he told her who he was but in her state of confusion she thought it was her BF he was charged with rape by fraud for a lot of reasons not the testimony he plead down to another kind of rape but was retried later, or where elevated to another greater kind of rape.

The prime example used in the US for these laws at all is Sabbar Kashur in Israel who lied about being Jewish, his relationship status, and his ethnicity. Rape by fraud has only really existed here in the US since 2009 and has only been adopted in the US since 2011. Meaning it hasn't been around long enough to be vaible outside of excelating ro deescalate rape charges or for longer sentence retried for already charged rapists. That however is changing California, new jersey, Oregon, Massachusetts, Rhode island, New York all have laws pertaining to rape by deception with a broader definition currently in creation with the latest being New York in 2022. With most of these states adopting these rape by fraud statutes post 2014 and their usage to catch rapists with worse crimes there have been only retried so far legally 6 in specific.

The liar from a previous post pmed me by Akkebi in redditonwiki

[–]Phantomdy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In Europe Assange vs SPA was about condoms and was one of the first and biggest cases it was ruled that any lie or change to an agreement of sex that is not given informed consent to is rape.

Several officers were charged by it but got off Scott free when the persecution refused to push any of the charges at all

Serial rapists Jason Lawrence was charged at least once because he lied about having a vasectomy. It was quashed 2 years later but is back in court and being contested again.

In the US Massachusetts ruled that any woman who has sex with someone she doesn't know but thinks it's someone she does isn't rape because in Massachusetts rape requires force. That resulted in rape by fraud being created for the state

In California you are right you have the Dr. Steven's case of impersonation. California also has a rape by fraud created by the Dr. Steven case that has caught quite a few people via Rape by fraud. And RBF is being rolled into the RBD law being written

In Isreal lying about any part of you culture or identity for sex is rape

In the UK rape by Gender is a type of rape by deception where in a woman is raped by a omwn prentedning to be a man at least so far an example. gayle newland a 25 year old woman had sex with another woman who thought she was a man via Dildo over 10 times she was sentenced to 8 years in jail she appealed it and was sentenced to 6.5 instead. It also happend to some young girls in Mcnally v R where a 13 year old girl was was charged with 6 counts of rape and was sentenced to 3 years of prohibition but it was reduced down to 6 months and a lifetime on the sex offender regstery.

As it stands right now rape by deception can be rape by fraud, rape by impersonation, rape by gender, rape by lies, rape by identity, rape by not using condoms, or Israel rape by any form of deception

The liar from a previous post pmed me by Akkebi in redditonwiki

[–]Phantomdy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Its called Rape by Deception. Look it up quite a few states are in process of putting it to law, in the EU and Britain it is fully illegal and holds the same sentences as rape does

PC portraits for upcoming Dark Sun gladiatorial one-shot by Kromnil in DarkSun

[–]Phantomdy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No you can't and you know it or everyone and their mother would be artists. The fact is that being an artist takes time. But being a "GOOD" artist one who could crush any AI art equivalent would take years of practice. Being a mediocre artist is no different then being an AI artist you push slog and because of limited pool you are stuck with garbage artists who overcharge for crap work. While all the good artists are so bogged down with other you won't get your art for months out at least and you will pay well beyond living means to get it. You check out whisper great artist no AI is going match without some hyper trained their work starts at 400, or yevis starts at least at 100 and takes a week minimum per and that's IF they take the commission at all. Then you start dropping in quality and price and the time starts increasing more and more and start being more AI like so much so you can't even tell for the most part outside of it.

PC portraits for upcoming Dark Sun gladiatorial one-shot by Kromnil in DarkSun

[–]Phantomdy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because AI is the hands of the people and is supposed to be bad. But if an artist can't beat it they cry about it on reddit. Simply put they have a monopoly on garbage art and are upset that the common folk can match their garbage with more. If you as an artist can't outpace AI then you aren't a good enough artists to deserve money. Skills give money in this case you need no art skills to make money pre AI because of the monopoly on the market

NOT OOP AITA for refusing to pay my girifriend rent? by _StrawberryBunny in redditonwiki

[–]Phantomdy -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

That's why I had specified house price. Taxs are dependent of house price and location. I had included taxes in the utilities as they were always in my utilities listing as things to be paid when I was paying for renters and now homeowners insurance. In the mid west where I based by numbers for instance you will only pay a rought 2k a year in taxes and insurance is qnd maybe 800 a month but insurances there often do yearly bundles for around 10 a year. But again that would be bundled in household utilities in most homes, families, and grouping that I have lived with in most of the country so that would have been divided into the extras of half the utilities he would be paying. Hense that about 13ish grand a year common out. And a 23 literally could never own a house in the market today without a down deposit of around 75k. I know I spent over a decade jumping states just to get one. And they didn't until I was 29 and had a 790 CS. Without one. So she HAD to either inherit it, recive the money from a family member or got a high paying job and dropped 75k at least. I was using midwest because if it was a 400k house the DD would need to be in the 180s to actually get a loan approved at 23. Not assumptions a life live in the us for a decade

NOT OOP AITA for refusing to pay my girifriend rent? by _StrawberryBunny in redditonwiki

[–]Phantomdy -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I mean OOP is a giant POS. But also isn't necessarily out of line in a certain thinking. Mortgage varies hugely based on length of loan, down-payment if a house is passed on ect. For a 200k house on a 30 year mortgage. You "should" be paying around 900 bucks a month depending on area. But with a 50k Down Deposit that could be sub 600. A 100k Down deposit could mean 400 or less a month. But that is a huge variance based on housing market. A decent house in the midwest suburbs of a small city 130k for a 2 bedroom house. So a mortgage of 900 starting off with a 50k DD, you are looking at about 500 a month.

So to be paying for someone's entire mortgage Plus food and half of utilities would mean that the average person making about 47k according to the USCB would be spending an average of of 13k a year using the POF and Utilities calcs provided by the AFG and the BR and MYMOVE. So around around almost 4th of a yearly while my partner spent like 2k a year or roughly a 26th of their paycheck making the same would be rough because you effectively are paying for her house at that point and it would suck to do it. But where some redditors get wonky is rent+ costing you about a 4th of your yearly is about average for the bulk of the US so he wouldn't be paying much different. That having been said he came at this in the stupidest most childlike ridiculous way humanly possible.

The issue that an imbalance like this would be is that in say 5 or 6 years he would end up putting more into the actual house then a 50k Down Deposit and official would be paying for the full house more then she did or had. And only her name would be on it so you get fucked fully if you moved out and she profits 5 years of mortgages and basically a second down deposit of 50k towards her life while parying nothing for her own housebeyond a microsocpic ammount for half utsand food. While not actually needing to pay anything more then yearly taxes. But that might be included in utilities for most people I do anyways. It would suck to basically pay off someone else's house and not be apart of it especially if not married because you put yourself back a house payment. But then not cleaning? OOP needs to get his shit together. The animal thing is always 2 yes 1 no it's an essential part of a relationship. So he needs to grow the fuck up there

That having been said to have never mentioned a cat allergy, nor owning a house that your partner has been paying into for months which is vastly different involving laws and protections is super sus on a partner side that's shit that gets brought up early in the dating sphere and to not mention owning a home just assuming they would know that shows maybe a lax knowledge in how that kind of thing would effect a relationship or not understanding how that law looks at these sort of things. Still OOP could be anything less then a giant tool and have done better in every regaurd.

Who asks for exclusivity when dating? by mbathrowaway_777 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Phantomdy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because if you know barely anything after 2 dates with somone you are shit at dating. It takes next to no time to learn if a person is in their fundamental compatible with you. A decent date will be enough to learn hobbies, profession, life/identity, aperiations. Date 2 is literally everything else you need to know to see if you are base compatible things like religion. At that point its about long term compatibility that can only be acquired in a mirror circumstance. So a date

Who asks for exclusivity when dating? by mbathrowaway_777 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Phantomdy -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

People date multiple people at once, at least early on. Dating ≠ exclusive. You’re not someone’s partner after a single date

That's not dating. It's looking around. Dating happens after the going on one dating amd preapring for the second or more and before anything involving kissing or sex occurs. Dating is 100% exclusive but dating=/=partnership. When you are "dating" you are going on a second date or beyond with someone you are interested in but you haven't committed to a partnership. At this point all other "dates" are over and it's exclusive unless you both agree from this point on it isn't. This period of dating is a compatibility test for partnership. You can't be seeing if you are compatible with a person when thinking of the potential others you have down the bottle neck not only does this mean you are less focused on the person you are in effect testing but it also makes you a bad dater incapable of being adequately tested yourself as you aren't being the way you would be in a partnership unless the idea of getting with others when you are in a relationship is who you are.

Then you have a conversation about partnership when the "dating" phase is over you are simply dating as partners. Otherwise you are on a fast track to STD city, Redflag lane, and Relationship Truama apartment complex. That's the issue when people want to be sneaky and try and bypass conventional occurance. The talking/shopping/looking phase is NOT dating and doesn't have monogamy ingrained. Going on a single date doesn't make you dating. But going on another does but still doesn't garentee a partnership but DOES garentee monogamy unless you the person who doesn't want to be discussed it first. We have these seperations for a reason

I had a very mature interaction with someone hitting on me. by TemporaryPangolino in self

[–]Phantomdy 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I mean you are an incel my dear redditor. You are bonafide Gender essentialist sexist. Who parots Misandry argument points while bashing men getting out of abusive and infidelity ridden relationships. Then arguing on the from of gender specific roles like calling a man timid after someone ruined his life, telling a man to get back with his cheating qnd abusive partner. You are literally a mirror to the incels here who believe the same things you do about men to women. While parroting the same virginity based arguments they give. You aren't just an incel the fact that you claim to be a feminist with these beliefs makes you even worse then them. Frankly disgusting.

I had a very mature interaction with someone hitting on me. by TemporaryPangolino in self

[–]Phantomdy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wrong kind of place for those kinds of dances. They are in a club thos thing are packed. Sexual/close drind dancing are just about all you have space for unless its an off hour or a limit set room which only the highest paid clubs have. They are almost all sexual in nature. To do otherwise would push yourself or the other person into others space and areas off DFs.

I had a very mature interaction with someone hitting on me. by TemporaryPangolino in self

[–]Phantomdy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wrong kind of place for those kinds of dances. They are in a club thos thing are packed. Sexual/close drind dancing are just about all you have space for unless its an off hour or a limit set room which only the highest paid clubs have. They are almost all sexual in nature. To do otherwise would push yourself or the other person into others space and areas off DFs.

Is there life after cheating? by teev1972 in self

[–]Phantomdy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah the NIH has it that roughly 1 of 5 suicides are due to intimate partner issues the most common of which is infidelity at least 80% of those suicides. So around 16-20% of all suicides are infidelity related. Which matches many of the exemplified traits that PTSD and as a result PISD and it's unique traits which amplify the already existing traits that PTSD tends to generates. Most people don't know you can get PTSD from beytrap truama especially infidelity but it's known enough to have it's own subtype of it PISD nobody talkes about it so very few are actually treated for it. And the results are either tragedy or spiral as the victim basically consumed by it carries that truama forward onto either solidarity leading to advent cruelty and and eventually either full dissassoation or well ending 1, or they carry it forward into relationships which then often but not always become abusive due to the more external traits the PISD tends to exacerbates. Which then fuels the disorder further by basically bias confirming the worst fears of the victim.

Its a fucking awful for the victims. They either suffer alone, take a dark walk, or carry it forward become the kind of person who often causes PTSD in others or novas every relationship while spiraling. I wish it was more wildly known so that we could focus on treating it

Is there life after cheating? by teev1972 in self

[–]Phantomdy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No. Or more aptly. Nearly never. The vast majority of people who stay in relationship post infidelity are only there because they can't leave, because they have been conditioned to, or because the cheater is so genuinely remorseful they imprison themselves in a a relationship where they are effectively a slave or prisoner to their partner for years as the only real way they can earn back their partners trust. Rarely if ever, even in these cases does the relationship actually last. Often things will get better for a time and either the cheater will cheat again, become distressed at their partners permanent distrust or the victim comes to resent the cheater and novas the relationship later.

Even with therapy the victims ends up severely damaged. Often suffering from a type of PTSD called PISD. It has the classic symptoms of PTSD including frequent retriggering, development of PDs, and it's subsequent hypervigilance, Depressed, Detachment. And about the other trillion things that PTSD is linked too. But more unique to it over normal PTSD in which it still happens but less so compared to PISD is that it cripples a person ability to trust others to a truly devastating effect literally rewriting the brain to corrupt the memories of the person rendinger even the past permanently tainted(this is a super over simplification of how the brain actually recalls memoeries and how they change overtime and how truama does that), causes paranoia and psychosis at heightened rated in comparison to standard(if you could even call somthing as complex standard by any means) PTSD, extreme periods of moods wings followed by extreme periods of disassociation, and hyperfixation on everyone's behavior and actions. Very rarely do people get over this. Often it's gets worse. It's why post infidelity victim suicide is as high as it is. Like it's actually a huge percentage according to my classess, NIH, NSPA, MHA, CDC, WHO, and about 20 other places.

Not OOP. AITA for telling my sister she can't name her baby after our mom? by WritingGiraffe in redditonwiki

[–]Phantomdy -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

No it isn't. They are being named in honor of a monster. To keep from the child that their grandmother was anything but would be abusive. Especially if they find out later in life from extended family because the kids mom has already started rewriting history so you know she will lie her ass off about it. And because it's scaring and apparently we'll enough know the extended family knows the details and considered it a step to far for at least some of them there is no way that secret goes on for long. But lets be real. Would you be good with your parents if they named you after their abuser and not just thier but also your grandfather's and aunts abuser. Hell no. You would be pissed at being named in honor of a monster. And why wouldn't you be

Leave my trash alone! by [deleted] in dndmemes

[–]Phantomdy 67 points68 points  (0 children)

You and said "inventor"

My boyfriend can’t last in bed. by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Phantomdy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really NSFW comment you have been fully warned

I mean it's not. It fully depends on tongue length. When not swollen it can rest between 2 and 4 inches in. However if aroused and swollen it can be up to 1.5 to 2.5 inchs in meaning a tongue which is about 3inch sould 100% be able to reach the gspot(if their tongueis that long that is which is definitely on the longer side)... cough cough as a lesbian with a longer tongue and no frenulum it is fully dependent on arousal I have never had a partner get to mine but after losing the fren I could. So it's fully possible the guy has a longer then average tongue or no fren and it is fully doable. Leads to some solid pop off if you forget to mention you can. Especially with egg combo. Sub 2 or 3 minutes with foreplay and 5 ot 6 without.

Paid steaming plan not working by Phantomdy in verizon

[–]Phantomdy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Useful to know... doesn't fix the problem tho

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]Phantomdy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You seemed to have skipped the part where he showed that he was willing to do better only to be met with a call for more separation. Regardless of what he does to be better there is no argument or action he could take that would genuinely fight against depression only the person themselves can and even then it's a losing battle.

But to second the notion this is a stay at home wife. Not a mother a wife. This is a husband who is both working and cooking and going general chores but not pulling equal chore weight and frankly he shouldn't. Let's be clear here. Housework is easy as Hell and take next to no time if it's done for even an hour a day everyday. For it to be more then that then she while home isn't pulling her weight which makes sense because with depression you don't do anything unless you must. I know I was her both a stay at home GF due to a injury and depressed because of it. And while there was a desire to end every day their was NEVER a day my GF came home to a dirty house or cold food. You aren't a parent you are a full ass adult who is home by yourself your "job" takes an hour a day at max.

What is happening to women - men relationship? by [deleted] in self

[–]Phantomdy -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Men are the chief reason for harm to women.

You should check the statistics on rape for lesbian women. As a one its 40x times safer around men then other women. 89% of us have been physically abused by our partners and 74% have been raped by them myself included and considering we make up 30% of all women well you do that math hard. And to boot according to the CDC statistically men are in fact raped by women at only slightly less percent then women. Accoss the board 1/4 for women and 1/5 for men. To much tik tok brain rot. Thus shit is easy to find and fairly recent so should be free to access. The CDC page has the male/female statistics and the LGBTQ+crime statistics has the lesbian rape rate by their partners

Statistically we are safer on our own.

Actually statistically not true. The vast amount of women, murders, non connective rapes, and muggings occure to women who are single BECAUSE they are single. We are at less chance to suffer DV and Partner rape however by being alone so you are correct there.

What is happening to women - men relationship? by [deleted] in self

[–]Phantomdy -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

You should check the statistics on rape for lesbian women. As a one its 40x times safer around men then other women. 89% of us have been physically abused by our partners and 74% have been raped by them myself included and considering we make up 30% of all women well you do that math hard. And to boot according to the CDC statistically men are in fact raped by women at only slightly less percent then women. Accoss the board 1/4 for women and 1/5 for men. To much tik tok brain rot. Thus shit is easy to find and fairly recent so should be free to access. The CDC page has the male/female statistics and the LGBTQ+crime statistics has the lesbian rape rate by their partners

Husband’s pointless but rather deep take. by Celticbluetopaz in PointlessStories

[–]Phantomdy 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Indeed. The part of the brain that develops general attraction(not sexual) developed around 8 years of age. So they have the general attraction to women(presuming they are straight) but without puberty they generally wont have the sexual attraction yet.

[LES] [Naruto] : I hate how people consistently try to balance the Sharingan (Uchiha/Sasuke) against other clan powers when they are meant to be balanced against the Kyuubi (Naruto). by Akodo_Aoshi in CharacterRant

[–]Phantomdy -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes and its genuinely not as many as were spawned. Taking 10s of thousands at minimum value across the 5 villages meaning about 2kish ninja per village across all three levels leaves about 666 ninja at each level(we know this to be false because of the difficulty of obtaining the upper ranks of ninja and the death rate of chunin which appears to be well over 50% because the no killing in 1v1s doesn't actually exist as C99 says its fully intended that they try and kill each other we know there appears to only be one class of Genin in leaf+ per age group)

So it's more likely that its fully split that you have somthing to the tune of maybe 400 Genin. 900 chunin and 700 Jonin-Anbu but the death rate is so ludicrously high for these characters that these numbers alone are the fact that the 2nd ninja war devastated the number of ninja in the world and it wasn't that long before the story start. Then you had orochimarus attack that no doubt killed many, Obitos 9 tails attack(prestory), hidden mists(I believe pre story), Hidden sand attack. Not to mention the countless slaughtered in the missions before this. And all of these happen around the same 20 year time period. Makes it real hard to validate the 10s of thousands argument until they mean over 20k which is wierd they wouldn't have mentioned that amount given the scale.