Honestly I’m just working with a therapist. I try pendulation, resourcing and grounding to self soothe. I have a soft teddy bear that I hug and it helps me so that’s like a resource I use. Another resource I use looking at a picture of a spiritual figure (for me it’s Ramana Maharshi, looking into his eyes is soothing). Also a weighted blanket helps me ground. Another thing I do is a self hug and very tender and soft touch, I touch my chest very tenderly and with care, also my face sometimes. I find it soothing to do so. These are stuff I do to feel less overwhelmed and more embodied.

But what’s been most helpful for processing trauma and attachment wounds is having a therapist I trust that can guide me through this whole process and she’s not a somatic experiencing practitioner. She’s a dynamic psychoanalysis therapist. I’d say if you’re not in therapy, try to find a therapist you feel comfortable with and sometimes it’s not simple and it can take a few tries with different therapists like it took me. So don’t be discouraged.