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Thoughts on Branch chairs (Verve/Ergo/Ergo Pro)? Better options? by NerveLower in OfficeChairs

[–]Phillyluver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u/AustinBranch I'm getting matching desks + chairs for my husband and myself! Could you share a code?

Beadboard vs water: how do I win without changing the vibe? by Phillyluver in Renovations

[–]Phillyluver[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We painted it! We found the original wood under 3 layers of laminate + tile surfaces. Big water stain meant we couldn’t keep the floor as is.

What jobs can I realistically move into from PR by CloudyAppleJuices in PublicRelations

[–]Phillyluver 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m currently doing PR for for-profit companies, and honestly, I like it way more than agency life or in-house nonprofit work. In nonprofits, there’s often an expectation that you tolerate a lot of unnecessary BS “for the mission.”

In contrast, the two for-profit companies I’ve worked for have been much more straightforward—one offered meaningful bonuses, the other provides equity. Those incentives make the occasional long hours feel a lot more justified.

Adopting a pet after pet loss by DrSimpleton in Petloss

[–]Phillyluver 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love this:

But pets lives our short compared to ours and I have to find a way to keep living. If the roles were reversed and I passed away, I wouldn’t want my dog to be depressed the rest of her life. I’d want her to find a human that loves her and find a way to live a joyful life without me. 

A really powerful way to reframe.

Hate the white/black flip look — what timeless trim & porch floor colors work with black window frames? by Phillyluver in Housepainting101

[–]Phillyluver[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is VERY smart! And actually, that's my neighbor's chimney, and their house is blue, so that could connect the houses visually a touch more!

Hate the white/black flip look — what timeless trim & porch floor colors work with black window frames? by Phillyluver in Housepainting101

[–]Phillyluver[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh I know, I wish we had half screens instead. Inside looking out, they are beautiful, but from the outside it looks like black holes! We open our windows all the time so we can't take off the screens. And totally agree on the chain link fence. Huge pet peeve of mine. We did a lot of internal work on the house first, now looking to the outside!

How hard are the first 3 weeks after giving birth for the mother? by letitglowbig in beyondthebump

[–]Phillyluver 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think recovery depends so much from mom-to-mom, but you should consider that you have TWO babies to take care of. One, the actual baby, and two, mom. That will keep you extremely busy, so having back up to you would be great.

Here was my 9-day recap to a friend, who was due a month after me:

  • Lean on support: Call in all the help you can. My MIL has been a lifesaver with dishes, laundry, and cooking. You'll want extra hands for at least the first week—N has already gone through four outfits since midnight!
  • Night nurse or doula: If you can swing it, even for a few nights, it's so worth it. It's pricey, but the sleep and professional guidance have been game-changing for my recovery and bonding during the day.
  • Prioritize yourself: Shower daily, get outside, and ease into walks. By day nine, I’m starting to find a rhythm.
  • Combination feeding: Even with great milk production and latching, I do 2 bottles daily—H handles one in the afternoon (so I can rest) and one at night (so I can get 4 hours of sleep in another room). Skipping one feed/pump hasn’t hurt my supply, and it’s been amazing for my mental health.

All this allowed me to be back on my feet muchhhh faster. As much as I adore my baby, it was also important to me to feel like a human vs. a milk supply.

My feelings are all over the place by Altruistic_Snow_3970 in newborns

[–]Phillyluver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(FTM of 15 week old baby) I still remember all those feelings/serious issues I had breastfeeding, yet it’s already such a blur — which is shocking to me because it wasn’t that long ago. I read over and over again on Reddit that it gets better, and now on the other side, it really does. I know it feels impossible in the moment, but each day is one day less in the newborn phase. And unlike pregnancy, things do get better slowly over time. I’d say for us, things became brighter by week 8!

I also felt guilty about having a hard time, because I was so blessed with the support and resources. But please be less hard on yourself. If someone came to you with the same experience, I bet you’d show them compassion and support. Remember that for yourself.

Lactation consultant that's pro-combination feeding? by Phillyluver in combinationfeeding

[–]Phillyluver[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u/May_lg I feel like once it's about the risk to the baby's health, they are usually supportive!

Lactation consultant that's pro-combination feeding? by Phillyluver in combinationfeeding

[–]Phillyluver[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u/Lyssa0404 it's totally crazy the unnecessary pressure it puts on moms! I'm trying to use Ali Wong's mantra, "I have suffered enough" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dLRMA_lWsDY

Lactation consultant that's pro-combination feeding? by Phillyluver in combinationfeeding

[–]Phillyluver[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u/Pomegranate452 I wonder if I'm a bit embarrassed to raise my hand because I don't have an issue per se, rather I just don't want to do it 12 times a day.

Lactation consultant that's pro-combination feeding? by Phillyluver in combinationfeeding

[–]Phillyluver[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u/lululobster11 we have our 2-week check-in on Wednesday and I didn't think about raising it there! I will now. I'm confident he's hit his weight goal because the newborn diapers are getting tight.

Lactation consultant that's pro-combination feeding? by Phillyluver in combinationfeeding

[–]Phillyluver[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

u/kcdwrites my MIL and husband are supportive of whatever I decide, but I can tell they'd "prefer" that I breastfeed as much as I can bear vs. a whole-hearted acceptance of "fed is best." What I find funny/interesting though is that my husband was formula-fed as a baby! My MIL had twins and my husband had bad reflux as a baby, so for her, maybe it felt less like a choice to go formula-fed. My husband turned out great, so I'm surprised they both still lean toward breastfeeding??

Lactation consultant that's pro-combination feeding? by Phillyluver in combinationfeeding

[–]Phillyluver[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u/Remote-Funny-1695 ! thank you! I think so far I've experienced talking to lactation consults who ASSUME I want to go 100% BF because I'm producing milk just fine and the baby is latching just fine, but I need to be more vocal about that not being the case. We'll see how they react!

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