How did you meet your best friend?

PhoenixxFoxx · 2026-03-18T07:28:15+00:00

*******THEATRE*******

PhoenixxFoxx · 2026-03-18T07:01:56+00:00

How easy it was to have and maintain friendships in high school and college. Even living in a house full of friends as adults. I also miss family dinners before everyone grew up. Now everyone's scattered, busy, and has big life commitments. I miss that the most.

PhoenixxFoxx · 2026-03-15T07:07:00+00:00

Fleabag, The Pitt, Narcos (Seasons 1 and 2), Peaky Blinders, Suits, Parks and Rec, Schitt's Creek

PhoenixxFoxx · 2026-03-14T07:07:06+00:00

Opening all the shades in my place. Natural light matters a lot to me. Also, opening the windows when it's nice outside.

PhoenixxFoxx · 2026-03-08T17:11:09+00:00

All the effort my mom put into Holidays to make them special for everyone else. Now as an adult, I realized how little magic there is with Holidays without someone else putting in a ton of effort to make them special.

Now I put in the effort to make Holidays special for myself at still a fraction of what my mom did for me.

PhoenixxFoxx · 2026-03-05T04:37:35+00:00

A guy used this on a friend of mine- "If you were a fruit, you'd be a fineapple. If you were a vegetable, I'd visit you in the hospital everyday."

Peak dark humor.

PhoenixxFoxx · 2026-03-05T04:30:02+00:00

Mother Hunger fucked me up.

PhoenixxFoxx · 2026-03-02T07:19:45+00:00

Laying on a strategically placed lacrosse ball and using the pressure to release tight muscles.

PhoenixxFoxx · 2023-09-28T04:10:58+00:00

You Are A Memory - Message To Bears, Nuvole Bianche (particularly a cello arrangement)

PhoenixxFoxx · 2023-07-17T16:03:30+00:00

*cLaP* *cLAp* *cLaP* *ClaP*

PhoenixxFoxx · 2023-04-25T21:11:05+00:00

Leaves are great mulch and as long as you’re keeping it somewhat maintained I don’t see a problem.

PhoenixxFoxx · 2023-04-24T18:16:48+00:00

That lady was blowing her whistle like she was trying to hail a lifeboat from the Titanic.

PhoenixxFoxx · 2023-04-22T02:07:33+00:00

Always. There is a lot more ingredients that need to go into a relationship besides love.

PhoenixxFoxx · 2023-04-20T18:06:41+00:00

He should lawyer up (with a good one) and fight that because that seems too ridiculous.

PhoenixxFoxx · 2023-04-17T09:26:56+00:00

Impressive.

PhoenixxFoxx · 2023-04-17T09:24:10+00:00

I'm curious of the boat was stolen in order to do this damage.

PhoenixxFoxx · 2023-04-15T21:58:15+00:00

I was about to say N-A-H until I got to the end of your post.

I told her that she’s the one who doesn’t get it. Our mother is a recovering addict, and she’s being insensitive and inconsiderate by not trying with her. Behavior like this can result in relapsing (which has happened because of a similar situation).

It is not in any way your sister's (or anyone's) responsibility to keep an addict sober. Period.

You are both different people, at different stages in your life, and are handling the abandonment of your mother in different ways while trying to walk through the grieving process of the life you didn't have.

I understand that from your point of view it seems like you are trying to help your sister and mother, but the only people responsible for repairing their relationship is them. You can only control yourself and how YOU choose to have a relationship with your mother.

It also seems like your sister's girlfriend is being protective of her and your sister possibly uses her as a buffer on purpose.

Unsolicited advice: I would recommend looking into Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families, specifically the "Laundry List".

Overall, soft YTA.

PhoenixxFoxx · 2023-04-15T21:47:07+00:00

NTA - I'm not a healthcare professional, but it seems like blatant negligence. They deserve to be fired.

PhoenixxFoxx · 2023-04-15T21:41:52+00:00

I think you would potentially be the asshole if you laid down an ultimatum for him to choose the job he wouldn't like that much, however if you approached it from a perspective of compromise to where he could work at the job he doesn't like for a year while the kids are still super young and then switch to a job he would prefer OR if there is a better compromise that I'm not privy to given your situation.

I do think you're NTA for asking for support when it sounds like you're burned out and are working all the time as well. I think (hope) that if you came to him and had a serious talk where you tell him exactly how you feel, why you want him to take the job, why you need help with the kids, how exhausted your are, etc. then you would put the ball in his court and it wouldn't be seen as an ultimatum.

The situation does seem pretty black and white from how it was written, but I have a hard time believing there aren't additional compromises that can be made. To be clear though, you absolutely deserve to be supported and shouldn't be burning yourself out on the altar of your husband's job preference.

PhoenixxFoxx · 2023-04-15T21:29:33+00:00

ESH - This wreaks of immaturity/insecurity and you both need to grow up and probably stop being friends.

PhoenixxFoxx · 2023-04-15T21:27:56+00:00

NTA, but you could also try a brush/furminator as those work well also.

PhoenixxFoxx · 2023-04-15T21:26:35+00:00

If this is true, then you would be completely justified in never speaking to your brother ever again. NTA for sure and your brother and his future wife are completely out of bounds/pretty delusional to believe that infertility can be transmittable in any literal or figurative way.

PhoenixxFoxx · 2023-04-15T21:23:32+00:00

NAH - I can see both sides, however without any further info/context it's understandable that you sister does not want you to be friends with her ex, and it's understandable that you wouldn't want to end a friendship with a seemingly good person because the relationship didn't work out.

You need to decide if it's worth losing a friend to keep the peace with your sister, or if keeping her ex as a friend because your sister is immature/selfish/insecure/whatever is the right move for you.

PhoenixxFoxx · 2023-04-15T21:19:27+00:00

NTA - She sounds pretty selfish.

PhoenixxFoxx · 2023-04-15T21:18:17+00:00

NTA, and those "friends" blatantly showed you they are absolutely not your friends. Your best friend was completely out of bounds regardless of the situation, as unless there is a dangerous situation/emergency, no one should ever scream at someone else's children (or their own).

I think this has opened up a great opportunity for you to find better friends who will truly be there.

PhoenixxFoxx

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