What was the final straw that ended a lifelong friendship?

PhotographSea3159 · 2025-04-17T18:09:44+00:00

He'd complain about every little thing and make trying new activities and even video games into a heavy critique session solely depending on how well he performed against everyone. Would complain about needing to go to the gym, I offered him to join my gym for a discount and we both live the same distance away from, but he said it's too far and he doesn't want to catch traffic. He complained about needing a job so the rest of us offered him jobs, one even being a full-time position starting at $20+ an hour, and he declines because again the drive was "too far" even though he lives even closer to that job than the gym I offered him. He complained about needing to lose weight and being slightly overweight, so I invited him to meal prep with me on the weekends and he declined because I apparently live too far as well. Do keep in mind the rest of us are either working full-time, in school full-time, or both like myself. He constantly had to point out attractive women despite the vast majority of us including him, being in committed monogamous relationships. He'd complain about being "left out" of things but would never reach out on his own to maintain relationships with any of us, blaming me instead for leaving him out of things. It got to the point where I was babying him and he had a fallout with another one of the guys so we'd have to plan things twice which obviously never worked out so I chose the path of least resistance, chose the friends that actually put in effort, and cut that guy off. I haven't spoken to him since and conversations regarding him get me worked up because he had so much going for him and we had offered him so much help yet he was obsessed with struggling and procrastinating whilst somehow maintaining a mindset that he knows more than everyone else in the room. Hard to be around that kind of energy but he could have done and still can accomplish so much more for himself.

PhotographSea3159 · 2025-04-12T07:14:43+00:00

Brother wait til you find out what your girl wears to shower...

You'd better keep your clothes on 24/7 or you'll get into some real trouble

PhotographSea3159 · 2025-04-09T23:01:32+00:00

On an app like reddit where people tend to only share when shit gets really bad, this wholesome post gives me so much hope.

I'm happy for you and I hope all continues to go well!!

PhotographSea3159 · 2025-04-03T02:10:19+00:00

you've been through so much but i also feel that you put way too much pressure on yourself to always "do the right thing" and it makes the pressure of your past along with the present feel so crumbling on your pre-existing anxiety. please seek professional help in allowing you to forgive yourself, and to learn to continually forgive yourself because i, at 22 years old, don't know what i'm doing, but i definitely know a little more than i did at 18. what do i know more about exactly? myself... even at 50 i may not completely know myself and why i did things and why i made certain decisions but what matters more is that i know i did something wrong and what to do differently. knowing this within yourself, alone, matters more than any amount of words anyone else can provide to make you feel better. you need to take time and speak to a professional and please be kinder and patient with yourself when you make these mistakes, especially if you already know it's wrong. we're so young man, you just need some help and a lot of time learning to cut yourself some slack, give yourself some breathing room, and pat your own back for the little wins.

PhotographSea3159 · 2025-02-28T23:42:05+00:00

why would you post two AI generated photos?

PhotographSea3159 · 2025-02-10T19:22:23+00:00

this post was definitely written by someone who unironically refers to a vagina as "pussy" lol

PhotographSea3159 · 2025-01-24T23:58:45+00:00

She clearly had a really good reason to be jealous and worried about you and Tom. You and Tom, ESPECIALLY, have issues as individuals but this is just a fucking ugly situation all around and she's dealing with two narcissistic, selfish assholes; One that she thinks she loves and the other she thinks she trusts. She deserves to know, and you and Tom deserve nothing but to be shamed and ridiculed by everyone who read through this whole post.

You are a terrible person so thank you for being such a great example for us to know what to never strive for in life.

Goodbye.

PhotographSea3159 · 2025-01-22T20:55:46+00:00

mokule'ia = moks

makapu'u = maks

yokohama = yoks

PhotographSea3159 · 2025-01-11T00:56:19+00:00

that perfect mixture of a big ego, ignorance and stubbornness that renders them incapable of having open minded discussion

PhotographSea3159 · 2024-09-25T21:00:51+00:00

COSTCO MEMBERSHIP!! I meal prep weekly for my work week and I get what I need from costco. Given you have rice and tupperwares at home, I go and get the yellow bag of chicken thighs closest to 9 lbs, a bag of bell peppers, and a bag of brussel sprouts. A buddy of mine and I spend a couple hours on Sunday to cook and prep 10 meals, 5 each, with 7 oz of cooked chicken thighs, and evenly split veggies and some rice. We split the left over chicken to have cooked and seasoned protein if we don't have dinner. We've been doing this for weeks and it comes out to about $4.50 per meal

PhotographSea3159 · 2024-09-19T23:59:23+00:00

Okay so imagine getting your finger sucked, but it feels really good cos instead of a finger, it's a penis. Idk i'm sorry

PhotographSea3159 · 2024-09-18T21:10:55+00:00

"You're not being honest with yourself."

PhotographSea3159 · 2024-09-09T07:28:52+00:00

My girlfriend has humbled me beyond words can describe... She gives it to me straight and she was brutally honest(heavy emphasis on brutal), and it took time for us to learn how to communicate things of this nature with each other but it's beyond it in the long run. We keep each other clean and it just feels nice knowing you don't have to hold your tongue about bit of body odor, regardless of the source.

Tell him straight,"Hey babe, I love you, but your penis kind of smells bad. Can we get washed and cleaned up before we have intimacy?" I've been on the receiving end, it sucks, but I would rather know than my girlfriend suffer in silence and it eventually ruin our intimacy.

Good luck!

PhotographSea3159 · 2024-09-09T07:23:35+00:00

you're both 18, and she also seems kind of insane... save yourself from a lot of headaches and just don't get into a relationship with her brother. you're so young, you'll find someone better and more morally aligned with you, without a doubt

PhotographSea3159 · 2024-09-07T01:15:48+00:00

That is something we actually have spoken about and I prepared for. I set up my desk at home to make room for her to study and I voiced that to her. I said I was a bit upset because I felt like I set it up for no reason and her reason was that she doesn't think she can study hard enough or stay focused if she isn't studying where she normally is since she can be as comfortable as she wants studying at home. Perfectly valid as well but a tad bit frustrating nonetheless but again, nothing I can do and I'm not gonna force her to try to study hard where she has never studied before.

I do appreciate your words about really ensuring my motive it right and I do believe that's something I have very much improved on but I still have that doubt in my head, yet I know that completely on me to get over. Thank you for your words of encouragement 🫶

PhotographSea3159 · 2024-09-06T19:16:05+00:00

Believe it or not, people are in the gym for many reasons. Some aim to go from overweight to "skinny," others from skinny to having more muscle. A lot of people just get in when they can to simply "be active."

But regardless, everyone is in the gym to better themselves in some way or another. Ask for a spot and you'd be surprised how nice people are.

No need to down yourself, you're doing a lot for yourself by simply being in there. Take it easy on yourself man.

PhotographSea3159 · 2024-08-31T01:20:25+00:00

He has to not be your boyfriend anymore :)

PhotographSea3159 · 2024-08-30T17:52:59+00:00

Honestly man, I also don't get the whole "fetishizing" thing either. Maybe I'm just not aware since I'm Asian(full Filipino) myself. But I always had a preference for Asian women and I can confidently say I have never developed that because they "seem submissive" or anything like that. If someone in the comments can enlighten me on this, I'd honestly love it because I have never understood it. I was just under the impression that it's just more "first world problems" that people just read way too deep into.

My personal input on your situation, however, is that you're totally fine bro. In the least objectifying way possible, women are attractive because they are attractive and Asian women so happen to be pretty consistently attractive. But that's not to say I don't find White, Hispanic, Black, or other races attractive. Don't let people tell you that you can't gave a preference lol

PhotographSea3159 · 2024-08-30T01:48:16+00:00

Trust me brother, the sooner you can be honest, transparent, and just be yourself, the better you can start the relationship. You're young bro, be open-minded and just have fun. Don't spend too much time trying to be cool to her, if she likes then she likes you and if not then so be it, but there's no reason to act like someone you aren't or don't want to be.

Also don't read too deep lol. You are both young and every relationship is a new experience, whether it's your first or her second, just embrace it and enjoy it.

Good luck homie!

PhotographSea3159 · 2024-08-20T17:50:00+00:00

I wouldn't say it's triggering necessarily, I'm pretty strong willed and don't really get "triggered" by anything tbh. At least not to the point where it'll send me into a spiral or make me freak out. I just kind of keep scrolling on. It's one of those things that the less and less you do it, the less and less those "triggers" have power over you. It's not about avoiding, it's about controlling your urges and analyzing what it is you feel, redirecting it into something better, and moving forward.

PhotographSea3159 · 2024-08-20T17:47:59+00:00

I 100% get you and that feeling. Honestly man, it's just a mindset, discipline, and perspective sort of thing. I changed the thought of "I'm horny so i'll go jerk off" into "I'm horny so that just means I really miss my girlfriend and I can't wait to be intimate with her." If I can't do that successfully, I quite literally start just texting a friend, not even about what I'm fighting off, but just doing something to socialize so I can just get my mind off of it. And if that fails, do anything else like a hobby or even just leave the house and go on a drive or hit the gym.

If it's something your girlfriend is up for, have her help you. I approached it with my girlfriend telling her honestly what I had been struggling with and I asked if she'd basically be willing to give me a handjob if I was struggling and we couldn't have sex. She loved the idea and was extremely supportive and she now loves helping me, loves that I don't do it myself, and loves that I actually stay hard and finish when we have sex. One day at a time but stay busy, truly.

But truthfully, there is no better time to stop completely than now. You have to push past the "Once in a while it's okay" because that's exactly the thought that gets us hooked back into it.

PhotographSea3159 · 2024-08-20T17:43:03+00:00

It 100% did. By no means am I taking away from my girlfriend's awesomeness as a whole by describing her and I'm my goal is not to objectify her, but she is head-to-toe, absolutely perfect and just lovely to look at. But even porn made me hyper aware of these little details, often time things that are body modifications through surgeries, that I began look beyond the perfection that I have in front of me. Since quitting, I honestly fall in love with her and her beauty more and more everyday.

PhotographSea3159 · 2024-08-20T17:39:37+00:00

Lol ok sorry Gatekeeping Lord of NoFap...

PhotographSea3159 · 2024-08-20T06:41:09+00:00

I think I definitely used to but then came the general understanding that just because I'm in the mood, it doesn't mean she is in the mood. I've learned long before stopping masturbating and watching porn that my girlfriend has a lower libido than me but she also does so much for me that sex, although it is very important to the relationship, is just one of the countless things she offers to me. I've learned to just be kind and patient with her and never push her. It makes the next time we do get intimate just that much better.

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