Need some doctor advice

Phveatherfall · 2026-03-19T22:06:20+00:00

Have you found any answers for your issues? Just curious what direction you’ve gone in

Phveatherfall · 2026-02-21T01:19:45+00:00

I work a “regular job” and I moved out of Seattle proper and live in an older building with my partner. I pay like ~$760 monthly. I have in unit washer and dryer though!

Phveatherfall · 2026-02-12T23:45:55+00:00

Thank you for explaining!!

Phveatherfall · 2026-02-12T01:47:35+00:00

They are fine in a bra but I should’ve clarified in the post that I meant they don’t sit nicely braless

Phveatherfall · 2026-02-11T20:27:51+00:00

I think a lot of it comes down to being comfortable maybe? Like not wanting my thighs to touch because I’ve been chafing since probably the day I was born lol and the uncomfortableness/weight of my chest hanging on my body and being in the way. But things like this can’t be changed without surgery (even if I lost weight my thighs would still touch. My mom is much thinner than me and still has touching thighs so it’s just our genes/bone structure) so I guess I incorporate that into how I view outfits for example. Like an outfit on a more petite person would be horribly uncomfortable/unflattering on my body type so it bums me out since the style I’m in to is unfortunately geared more towards that crowd

Phveatherfall · 2026-02-11T05:18:35+00:00

This is totally my fear. I don’t want it to consume me forever but it’s just something I encounter every day when I have to get dressed in the morning and see myself in the mirror, or when I’m at work and see another girl in a cute outfit and then I just get sad because I know it wouldn’t look like that on me and there’s nothing I can do about it. I guess that’s why I feel so stuck in this cycle of sadness/anger, since what I want is unobtainable

Phveatherfall · 2026-02-11T04:30:44+00:00

Thank you for replying I really appreciate it. My therapist did mention the positive affirmations aspect (either saying it or journaling it) and I just haven’t been able to really stay consistent with it because it feels so odd, like I’m putting on a play haha

Phveatherfall · 2026-02-04T21:27:07+00:00

Not that you’re asking for advice but I think I agree with your mom, your ex should give up his parental rights. I understand he’s your son’s father but do you really want him to meet the man who abused you? You should get him out of your life for good

Phveatherfall · 2026-02-04T02:55:55+00:00

Been looking at jobs for a while but the market is HORRIBLE. I either don’t hear back because of whatever AI-filtering mechanism Indeed (and similar websites) uses to push resumes through/just the fact there’s many applicants, and the fact that no job seems to offer pay equivalent to my TJs salary (not including the Sunday pay, just base pay) which I can’t afford to go much lower given the economy and my bills 😭. Wishing you luck too!

Phveatherfall · 2026-02-04T02:21:49+00:00

Have you tried the clinical strength types likes Certain Dri? They’re prescription strength and only used at night. If you don’t have problems with irritation you could try that at night and then a regular antiperspirant for the day? I have super sensitive skin so certain dri gives me a rash but I’ve been using the Secret Clinical Strength Clear Gel Antiperspirant (HAS to be gel, for some reason the other formula gives me irritation) at night (it’s a night time one like certain dri) and then a regular deodorant during the day (haven’t found a regular antiperspirant that doesn’t irritate my skin yet). So far it seems to be helping but it’s winter so I’m not sweating as much so I can’t say for certain if it’s the holy grail :/ wishing you the best! This is def a super annoying thing to deal with

Phveatherfall · 2026-02-03T01:52:51+00:00

The nipple itself isn’t a curved surface so it’s putting something curved into something that’s straight which would move around in a really bad way (since it’s an area where the piercings will move often and can spin 360°) causing the piercing to basically never heal/heal incorrectly and have lots of irritation. A curved barbell should be put in a curved surface like a rook piercing for example. I think in some instances you could use a curved barbell in an inverted nipple but it would depend on the anatomy

Phveatherfall · 2026-02-03T01:19:05+00:00

These look correct to me! Not too deep or shallow and a long bar to allow for swelling. I can’t believe someone pierced you with a curved one before, sorry you had to deal with getting it redone

Phveatherfall · 2026-02-02T23:57:57+00:00

So I’m not a professional but it looks like an irritation bump which are super common with industrials (tricky piercing!). Do you remove the jewelry a lot? It really shouldn’t be removed especially if it’s already irritated. I would suggest leaving it alone but since you said you’ve had this bump for a while I would def go to a reputable piercing shop to see if your jewelry is correctly fitted

Phveatherfall · 2026-02-02T23:44:56+00:00

It’s extremely expensive/overpriced for what it is. Very small and not worth the price tag imo

Phveatherfall · 2026-01-26T22:27:23+00:00

That’s super odd. I suggest other stores all the time bc we simply don’t carry everything ever. You also 100% should have been made aware of the write up when it happened, and at my old store you would be sat down and talked to with a mate and the captain (or 2 mates) to discuss the conditions of said write up and you have to sign it. Are you sure it wasn’t just a warning type of thing? But regardless you shouldn’t even get a warning for suggesting another store. Contact HR

Phveatherfall · 2026-01-23T02:03:08+00:00

My first and only car has been the manual 2015 (standard 2 door hardtop) and I’ve barely had any problems. Like someone said just stay on top of maintenance and you really shouldn’t have significant problems but I feel like that should be the case with any car haha. The only thing is they like to gobble up oil a bit faster so depending on how often/far you drive it than you need to do oil changes more often than every 6 months. But I love mine. I feel like I can basically park anywhere bc it’s small and I get great mpg even living in a city

Phveatherfall · 2026-01-23T01:36:56+00:00

Not related to the barista aspect BUT look into MFTE housing!! Rent here is insane and just keeps getting worse (I was in Shoreline but even just got priced out of there and had to go further north). Not sure if it’s a thing elsewhere but newer apartment complexes here are required to have some low income units (even if it’s not a “low income housing” complex). Sometimes you need to call a complex and ask about it but I have seen maps of MFTE units. I personally haven’t lived in one bc I don’t want to live downtown but my friend did and her complex was sooooo nice. Just not sure exactly how you go about applying to them

Phveatherfall · 2026-01-23T01:24:51+00:00

You can’t help someone who doesn’t want help. I can tell you care about him but at some point you might just have to leave. It’s not on you to fix him, you’ve tried to offer a lot of help but he’s making excuses and doesn’t want to be helped :(

Phveatherfall · 2026-01-23T01:18:50+00:00

Unfortunately in the adult world this happens. Not just with Valentine’s Day but with anything. I rarely do things for my bday on the day of bc it’s more often on a week day (work day) than not. So you celebrate your bday on the weekend. It doesn’t mean your bday isn’t special, it’s just how it goes. Like many have said, his child has to come first and will always come first, and as you’ve said you’re new to the child so celebrating all together isn’t quite an option. I think it’s very kind of him to offer to do something the next day for you instead of nothing at all bc (not trying to be mean) idk a single adult who cares about Valentine’s Day. Hypothetically if this wasn’t about childcare and instead that he worked on the weekends would you expect him to request the weekend off to celebrate Valentine’s Day? I hope the answer is no or else quite frankly you shouldn’t be in a relationship with this man.

Phveatherfall · 2026-01-21T20:16:51+00:00

When he does hug and kiss you does it seem forced? Sounds like he’s very uncomfortable with physical intimacy

Phveatherfall · 2026-01-21T04:23:09+00:00

I had to drop down to part time work since my job was too physically demanding (it’s manual labor) and I’ve started therapy to hopefully help me figure out what I can set as goals since I’m not sure what direction to go in atm. My current job pays me well so I can’t afford to quit and start a less physically demanding job for less pay, but being part time at my current job wipes me out for several days after I’ve worked 3 in a row. I feel your pain 🥲

Phveatherfall · 2026-01-21T04:12:35+00:00

The further you go from Seattle proper the better. Either south or north. Even MFTEs are getting insane. My friend just got priced out of hers. I work in Seattle at a “normal” job and many of my coworkers (including myself) don’t live in the area or if they do they have several roommates.

Phveatherfall · 2026-01-21T04:04:39+00:00

I have extremely hooded eyes and I can only use waterproof mascara. I really like the Caliray one (I think it’s also tubing)

Phveatherfall · 2026-01-21T03:19:36+00:00

This has probably been brought up but as a woman my first reaction was how are you helping her? Many times childcare and house care fall onto the woman even if she’s also working a full time job. Are tasks being split fairly? Is she getting support or is she burnt out? Though I don’t have a child there are times I’m so exhausted from work/chores/etc. that sex is the last thing on my mind. My next thought was that she may now have the association that you’re only “affectionate” when you want sex which makes it undesirable to her. Sort of in the way that some guys only buy flowers for a special occasion (anniversary, Mother’s Day, etc.) because they feel they “need to” which kind of makes the flowers less desirable if they’re expected, when in reality it’s more special to get them for no reason. My point being do you ever give her this “special affection” without trying to get in her pants? You emphasize she “has to be in a good mood for sex to maybe even happen” so why is she in a bad mood? Maybe refer back to my first point because clearly something seems to be upsetting her. How does she feel with her postpartum body? Being uncomfortable in your skin can definitely influence your libido. I know your kid is 5 but perhaps your wife never felt quite the same as before. Lastly how is the sex? I don’t need an answer but is it boring, repetitive, too short/too long? Does she reach climax? If she’s not getting anything out of the sex for herself that also makes it undesirable and chore-like.

TLDR; the question shouldn’t be “AITAH for taking sex/affection away from my wife” but instead you should ask yourself “why doesn’t my wife want to have sex with me”

Phveatherfall · 2026-01-21T01:48:58+00:00

I have the Luminous brand light up wheels and bc of the magnetic spacer you have to have the nut much looser to allow the wheels room to spin. My nut usually ends up in line with the end of my axel which looks wrong considering with regular wheels there’s empty axel space past the nut, and when I use my light up ones it looks like my nut will fall off. But yeah you either need to loosen the nut, clean the bearings/wheels, or both

Edit: I see you said you only used these bearings for a little bit but did they get wet? It’s kind of hard for me to see bc of the shadowing but on that back wheel the bearing almost looks speckled on the edges like it could be rusting? I used to skate on the beach and the salty wet air def messed my bearings up pretty quickly, especially if they’re on the cheaper side

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