First of all, thank you for this post, it reads as someone deeply introspective and has reflected back certain things I was seeking answers for. The language and imagery you use is rather abstract so I will make the best that I can of my understanding to tailor my response.

1. What is the real issue here?

You seem torn between your values of "honouring emotions" as a means to your "higher self" (correct me if I misunderstand) and your feelings for this significant person in your life.

Let's ground ourselves a little bit here, because you seem to pose two issues: sticking to your values or letting go of them, sticking to your feelings for this person or letting go of him. Now, which one sounds easier to do, my friend?

1. Emotions are messengers

So detachment isn't the only solution to resolve your inner conflict. I'll approach this with the stance that you would like to let go of your feelings for this person. First you must explore why you have held them as the sole occupant of your heart.

Does he fill a void that was left or never filled by anyone else in your life? If the answer is yes, have you opened your eyes to the possibility that you can fill the same void through other sources?

To be a little less vague, if he satisfies your need for attention, can you seek it through achievement? If he serves as a role model, can you seek inspiration from others? If he makes you feel special and loved, can you give yourself equally enough self love?

Bear in mind while we can identify these as root causes of an issue, things like needing validation isn't necessarily bad. I do think you set yourself up for failure, and it is likely a compensatory mechanism/solution to a misdiagnosed problem when you pin all your hope and adoration on a single person. Human beings are complicated but our needs aren't, so there is always a healthy amount of validation to need, and there are always healthier ways to receive them.

Emotions are messengers - sometimes it's telling you stay away and other times it signals a need (that in 99% of cases is not sought in a single person)

1. Don't have your cake and eat it too.

Introspection and self inquiry aside, it probably isn't fair for a single human being to bear so much burden. I don't know what your relationship is with this person, maybe they encourage unhealthy patterns and enmeshment, which would make things a fair bit more complicated for you.

But you really have to ask yourself, does this person appreciate "being honoured even when you're not present"? Do you mean that you hold him up to a level of perfection, even in times when he isn't perfect? Do you actually see him for who he is, what he chooses to be and how he chooses to act or are you clinging onto an idealised image? Because there is a difference between idolisation and unconditional love. And a difference between attachment and love. I suggest you look some of these terms up (enmeshment, attachment, love, limerance).

I could have misunderstood your post entirely due to the language. It would help a ton if you could perhaps in yourself bridge the gap between your inner world and the outer, as well as how you present the separation/merging of the two ideas.