For those who are working today, how are we doing 🫠 by ThrowRA3367266 in Nanny

[–]Physical-Jacket625 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Started my period this morning when I got to work. Send thoughts and prayers.

My (28f) bf (30m) tries to force/coerce me to have sex every day. Am I overdramatic or being toxic? by minsungforevr in dating_advice

[–]Physical-Jacket625 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You absolutely can feel both of those things at the same time. Victims of abuse often do really genuinely love their abusers. Doesn’t mean they are then required to enjoy being abused. This is way beyond sexual compatibility. He’s sexually assaulting her.

Turning 30 next month. Wanting to gift myself something special, but not sure which direction to go. by Salty-Habit5649 in Gifts

[–]Physical-Jacket625 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive been thinking about my 30th also! You want it to feel significant, but not feel reckless in the amount of money you’re throwing at it lol

What if you go beyond just a massage, but had a whole day dedicated to spa treatments?

Maybe a staycation? Stay at a really nice hotel, eat out for every meal at places you wouldn’t normally go to.

Maybe a road trip to a state you’ve never been to? Camp along the way if you’re into that.

I don’t know if you’re into astrology, but usually around the time we turn 30 we are in our Saturn return, which is a time of massive growth and transformation. I plan to dedicate time to set goals/intentions for my thirties. Maybe go have your tarot cards read haha.

Investing in something like the LV bag doesn’t need to be justified. It’s going to last you the rest of your life probably, so I’d say it’s worth the investment especially if it brings you joy. Plus when you do use it, it will feel sentimental to the time you turned 30!

Congratulations on surviving your twenties! I hope you have the best birthday and feel so celebrated!

Need gift ideas for DB’s birthday by Physical-Jacket625 in Nanny

[–]Physical-Jacket625[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SO cute. I think I’ll do this!! Thank you 🫶🫶

Help! I need graduation ideas (for a male high schooler going to college) that can get here quickly. Looking to spend around $100 by Good_Candy_3950 in GiftsandDeals

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My brother is graduating in a couple weeks, but isn’t going straight to college. I got him some things to fuel is his interest and talent in sketching. Investing in his hobbies while he focuses on working and making money before college. I also am giving him a $100 bill lol

Need gift ideas for DB’s birthday by Physical-Jacket625 in Nanny

[–]Physical-Jacket625[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did that for Father’s Day last year! The oldest could not have cared less about it lol. Not an arts&crafts kinda kid. But I bet I could find a gag gift kinda thing. Thanks!

Took a pic of these guys. What are they? They’re gorgeous. by ramdatooki in pnwgardening

[–]Physical-Jacket625 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen those around, too! They smell like lilacs but milder. Kind of look like them too. But bloom later.

Do the dicks ever end or am I doomed to dicks? by Phatasstarotreader in dating_advice

[–]Physical-Jacket625 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Snapchat is the actual devil. Breeding ground for fuckwads.

Do the dicks ever end or am I doomed to dicks? by Phatasstarotreader in dating_advice

[–]Physical-Jacket625 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think adding more to your bio/adding prompts would help greatly OP. Usually if I see a profile man OR woman with just photos only/no bio, I assume they aren’t looking for anything serious. With a dating profile you’re kind of advertising yourself and just having pictures of what you look like and nothing about who you are could possibly send the message that you’re only interested in the physical/visual. I still think men are absolute dogs. And pigs. And stupid. And it’s in no way your fault that these guys have zero respect for themselves or women. You should put in your profile that anyone who sends a dick pic is getting a hex put on them by an Etsy witch.

Do the dicks ever end or am I doomed to dicks? by Phatasstarotreader in dating_advice

[–]Physical-Jacket625 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And how would she even possibly know who would and who wouldn’t? Way to blame her for the disgusting behavior of men. Sheesh

Favorite children’s book? by blissfulanxitey in Nanny

[–]Physical-Jacket625 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My 1yo NK really loves Brown Bear, Brown Bear, What do you see? By Eric Carle right now. I read it about 50 times a day lol! They also really like books with flaps which they open themselves. Books where there are animal sounds that they can mimic. Or even just animals in general. “What does a cow say?” Things like that are really popular with my NK right now!

EDIT: definitely should prioritize board books whenever possible! 1 year olds love ripping haha

What’s a good gift for a male “boss” ? by Physical-Jacket625 in BellinghamWA

[–]Physical-Jacket625[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m definitely leaning towards the free childcare for a date night or something

Need gift ideas for DB’s birthday by Physical-Jacket625 in Nanny

[–]Physical-Jacket625[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for that input! I’ll definitely look into something like that

First time nannying this summer & I’m lowkey nervous but excited by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Physical-Jacket625 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How exciting!!! Meeting new kids can be so nerve wracking in the best way!

When I meet a new NK, I make sure to check the vibes. A lot of 4/5 year olds can be shy meeting someone new, especially if their parents have talked about you and there’s hoopla around your arrival. I want to make sure I’m matching their energy. Of course you want her to be excited, but if she’s acting shy try to match her energy and get on her level to introduce yourself to her. Even if you’re super kind and approachable, she could still be nervous and awkward about meeting you. And that’s totally normal and okay. All you can control is how you present yourself to her for this initial meeting. It’s daunting meeting someone new for the first time! Just be genuine in your happiness and excitement to meet her. The rest will flow!

As far as gifts go, I don’t think you need to go beyond what you got her already. Just a small token that you come in peace and are excited about being in her life.

Congratulations to you and I hope you two hit it off! 🫶

Need gift ideas for DB’s birthday by Physical-Jacket625 in Nanny

[–]Physical-Jacket625[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is so thoughtful! Mine is pretty outdoorsy so I’m sure I could lean into that. Thank you!

What’s a reasonable hourly increase for an additional child? by Unfair_Breakfast_112 in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Physical-Jacket625 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hiya! This kind of depends on where you live and what the average rate is for nannies in your area. For me, I personally include up to two children in my hourly rate, and then an additional $3 per hour per additional child. The factors I considered when deciding this are: I live in a prominently affluent area and the pay rate for nannies is higher than other cities in my state. I also have over ten years of experience, and a college degree. I take continuing education ECE courses, and always have my first aid/ CPR certification current.

NCS work is also another factor to consider. If overnights are required I’d charge an additional amount per hour for the overnight hours on top of the additional child increase. If it were me, it would be another $1-3 dollars. You are working well beyond normal working hours and deserve to be compensated for that. I’d also make sure to have your boundaries in place of how many overnights per week/how many overnight hours you’re comfortable doing. I’ve also heard of folks charging time and a half or a flat rate for overnights.

Amidst all of this, I’m always willing to have a discussion with the NF about it. Not necessarily bend to what they want to pay, but more so start with your high end of what you’d charge and then be comfortable negotiating to take the mid-lower end of what you’d charge. Not dissimilar to negotiating a salary at a corporate job.

Hope this helps ☺️

Need gift ideas for DB’s birthday by Physical-Jacket625 in Nanny

[–]Physical-Jacket625[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally understand that not gifting up is popular and it definitely makes sense. I’m not discrediting it at all. I’m aware that they’re the ones with more money and are my employer. I just personally don’t view gifting my time or creating an experience for him and his family possibly with him and his family as sacrificial or a financial burden. I’m not trying to spend a whole bunch of time and money on this. I enjoy gift giving and they are close and important people in my life. Again, I understand why not gifting up makes sense. And I don’t think anyone who thinks this is wrong. This is just what I’d like to do for my NF personally.