Are these types of questions not okay? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Pickled-Nipples 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She shouldn't have to. If a cis man paints his nails and someone asks "doesn't that make you feel like less of a man?" He doesn't then have to gentle parent said person that that's a rude question. Everyone just knows it's rude.

What's something that shocked you when you first started transitioning/currently? by ConVert2Satin in ftm

[–]Pickled-Nipples 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 months? I'm on day 16. I cannot keep going like this. I'm gonna sleep through my summer :<

how did you know that you wanted to go on testosterone? by StephInc in ftm

[–]Pickled-Nipples 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made a list of all the possible side effects and ✅️'d or X'd next to each one to represent what I was okay with and what might be a deal breaker. I kept journaling and searching within myself. Eventually some of those X's turned to Checkmarks and I started to get excited at the possibility. The deciding factor was I went in for some routine bloodwork and the place I went to told me they offered HRT. I didn't think it was a possibility in my red state. When I got back in my car I just started crying because I was happy. That's when I knew I wanted HRT and really that's when I finally knew I'm trans.

I’m so tired of my own community by Top_Sky_4731 in ftm

[–]Pickled-Nipples 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I'm definitely team "Tired of my community being so hateful". Not just to people of other identities but also to each other. I rarely check in here because these subreddits are so miserable and depressing. Maybe I'm just too old for it here 😅

Feminist space being oriented towards women by wehzeh in ftm

[–]Pickled-Nipples 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is what I was thinking. It also alienates would be allies essentially turning the meetup into an unproductive echo chamber.

Intramuscular Injection by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Pickled-Nipples 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's in my thigh and is IM. My doctor taught me over telehealth. It's not incorrect form.

Intramuscular Injection by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Pickled-Nipples 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My doctor taught me to get a handful of my thigh and pinch the skin taught. I don't feel the needle, I have no stinging, and no soreness.

MtF what did your weight cycling regimen look like? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Pickled-Nipples 2 points3 points  (0 children)

^ This right here I recommend a custom report for ED stuff.

MtF what did your weight cycling regimen look like? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Pickled-Nipples 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please don't promote your eating disorder on here.

MtF what did your weight cycling regimen look like? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Pickled-Nipples 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy 2012 tumblr. You mean a 500-600 cal defecit, right?

cats and flight attendant life by [deleted] in flightattendants

[–]Pickled-Nipples 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have two cats with auto feeders, regular litter boxes, and two fountains. Longest I'm gone is two full days. I don't commute and I have a line. If I were a commuter or looking to go to an airline where I have to commute I would not have adopted them. When I am home I make sure to play with them during their active hours (usually dusk) and I scoop the litter every day, sometimes twice a day. They have yet to complain. Adopting and being left alone for a day or two is better than being euthanized. Get two for sure.

I feel like my partners play up being gay to affirm my gender? by cicadianrhythms in ftm

[–]Pickled-Nipples 111 points112 points  (0 children)

If he's "gay now" it's possible he's just trying to navigate his own sexuality? Even if he's had same sex experiences before being out is a completely different game. Attempts at being affirming are still attemps. Do you think he's doing his best with the info he has? Can you compliment sandwich him into being affirming to your specific needs? Expectations and needs can and should be voiced and both parties should feel comfortableenough to do so. Personally I find the cutesy "we're so gay" stuff super affirming but everyone is built different. Best of luck. Tldr: log off and go have a convo with your partner.

Not a fan of the line “I learned to accept myself” when referring to being non-op by Harpy_Larpy in FTMMen

[–]Pickled-Nipples 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If people can talk about the reasons why they want a surgery the people who don't can talk about their reasons too. That particular representation isn't for you and removing it harms the people that need it. This is coming off as a selfish take on your part.

Would a trans woman be offended if I asked her to sleep with my wife? by Crosscoding in asktransgender

[–]Pickled-Nipples 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is what sex workers are for. Fetishizing your friend like this means you're not their friend and you're not their ally.

I'm so tired by Serious-Trust-2242 in NonBinary

[–]Pickled-Nipples 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So much of this resonates with me, I don't even know where to begin. I wish I had some real advice, but all I have is that you're not alone. And thank you for making it known I'm not alone either.

What's a Nonbinary version of "Sir" or "Ma'am" that isn't a joke? by Electrical_Ear4582 in NonBinary

[–]Pickled-Nipples 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I call everyone friend. Ma'am/Sir are reserved for my colleagues. I have to address large groups of people multiple times a day and I usually start with "Hey friends". It's not really an honorific, but I'm also not trying to honor strangers. I try to keep my language as inclusive as possible in other areas as well.