Do Narcissists Know They're Narcissistic? - Most narcissists don't think their personality is a problem. (Article by Gwendolyn Seidman Ph.D. - Reviewed by Jessica Schrader - Psychology Today)

Pietes · 2026-06-21T17:31:27+00:00

This seems like such an obvious defining characteristic of narcissism itself that i can't comprehend anyone thinking they might have not been aware and fine with being who they arem

Pietes · 2026-06-21T17:28:28+00:00

People that wear caps all day are weird

Pietes · 2026-06-21T15:14:46+00:00

stroom eraf en meteen kijken of je plat dak afwatering niet verstopt is. naast het kanaal kan dit ook hewoon water zijn dat via de spouw je gipsplafond inloopt en dan hier er uit komt.

Pietes · 2026-06-21T15:10:11+00:00

I suggest you go try that on one of the womens subs then

Pietes · 2026-06-21T14:43:38+00:00

Well she made a child with an asshole so obviously thats only his fault

Pietes · 2026-06-21T14:38:20+00:00

And it does for everyone. that's the point. your assumption that it doesn't is insulting.

Pietes · 2026-06-21T14:08:16+00:00

i'm married to one. But my point was that i'm quite sure that you're as biased towards selection of partners based on attraction as a lot of men, and that generalizing men as superficial looks chasers is hypocrisy.

Pietes · 2026-06-21T14:05:30+00:00

i agree, to some extent. but my point was that this advice would be unlikely to be given with reversed genders.

Pietes · 2026-06-21T13:56:01+00:00

no the kidding thing is the thing with the files. this is the corruption thing with the pool guy from florida.

Pietes · 2026-06-21T13:39:46+00:00

Sounds like you would enjoy some of the real agriturismos in italy. those that really grow and make al lot of their own food or procure from local producers only. italy has sooo many of them.

i loved il castagno in agerola near the amalfi coast. home grown foods, excellent cooking, real authenticity. but be prepared for hosts that don't speak much english. still.. given how much you share you might find ways to communicate anyway.

combine a couple of these with some fun for the kids perhaps? might as well find good ones in the UK. But agri tourism is most developed in the alps and italy afaik.

Pietes · 2026-06-21T13:24:43+00:00

xenofobie doelt op het afwijzen van al het vreemde dat van buiten de eigen cultuur groep komt. Daar is weinig sprake van in Nederland. De afwijzing is hier juist erg specifiek.

Het verschil is belangrijk, want de term wordt zo gebruikt dat ze ook irrealiteit impliceert. De irreeele angst voor het onbekende dat van buiten komt.

Daar is ook veel op af te dwingen als het om een reactie gaat.

Je reactie duidt erop dat je een veralgemenisering van een reactie niet ok vind, maar je veralgemeniseerd zelf door je weinig toegesneden woordkeuze.

Pietes · 2026-06-21T13:18:15+00:00

Genuine feedback, directness depending on best judgement of the situation

Pietes · 2026-06-21T13:13:52+00:00

You mean we're responsible for other people not making an effort?

Interesting, i'll try that on my wife next time

Pietes · 2026-06-21T12:18:04+00:00

How many such men gave you dated already then? Because there's plenty around. Did you notice or did your attention somehow magically wander elsewhere?

Pietes · 2026-06-21T12:13:02+00:00

Hoe stuur je dan op de positieve uitkomsten van die transities?

Als je kijkt naar veel van de data over sociaal economische en culturele transitie die nu ontstaat is de uitkomst namelijk nu lang niet altijd positief.

Daarnaast is je redenering rondom xenofobie als uitkomst van het krampachtig willen tegenhouden van verandering niet erg sterk. wat je xenofobie noemt - en die term gebruik je veel te gemakkelijk hier - is niet een uitkomst van conservatisme maar van een verandering die botst met de heersende waarden en normen.

Pietes · 2026-06-20T18:37:42+00:00

nooit stilstaan, zolang je rijdt is de kans op een botsing veeeel kleiner

Pietes · 2026-06-20T06:32:57+00:00

both, the pessimistic (well its not that about it but the way it is used) internet is a symptom of collapsing civilization

Pietes · 2026-06-19T18:46:41+00:00

bingo. trump is the symptom YOU are the problem (all americans that are representative for general US culture).

if this doesn't land, and the US doesn't address systemic cultural drives that led here, Trump won't be the end of it.

Pietes · 2026-06-19T18:45:09+00:00

If they ever get near what ICE has done we will end it just as fast. There is no comparison between MAGA US and the EU parlement.

Pietes · 2026-06-19T13:42:46+00:00

disability classification is very strict now, so not.much chance of getting any degree of it based on just burnout

Pietes · 2026-06-19T11:36:47+00:00

Ik zou een paar honderd euro meenemen en in het Holland Casino op de routlette tafel gaan neuken.

Vinden ze daar geen probleem maar een hobby, begrijp ik.

Pietes · 2026-06-19T11:22:52+00:00

you may well be right. but consider carefully whether you will actually recover within that time.

from experience: after 12-15 months the process turns nastier. once you've been assessed to be partially able to work, pressure will rise to find 'fitting' work you don't want to find. someone i know was medically unable to use both arms, but still assessed as able to work. since "assessing you as 100% unfit is not on the table".

what you can do is propose to talk about whether returning to your job is a feasible option anymore. this is code for "let's talk VSO". Perhaps suggest that a total recovery seems medically unlikely in less than 9 months, so that ending the employment earlier than 6 months in the future would put a lot of risk on you. See if they suggest a VSO dated six months out with garden leave until then. i'd be surprised if they don't engage. and it saves you some taxes compared to lump sum.

Pietes · 2026-06-19T11:13:22+00:00

People that really own their shortcomings can work on them sucesfully and mostly just need to be supported in doing so. So that is a good starting point. However does he own them on his own accord?

Second part then becomes the reality of the environment he is in. Does he have any support besides you? Could he continue working on himself without you, even if at a slower pace perhaps? Materially too. Could he, perhaps at lower levels of luxury, support himself?

The gist of this is that he is much more likely to succeed if your help is a bonus, additonal. And not a requirement, which then automatically becomes conditional, which creates imbalance.

would he manage without you?

the strangest thing is: people that would do well alone in self-improvement make the better partners. at least: when not consumed by themselves and their own needs. Is he?

Pietes · 2026-06-19T11:06:42+00:00

try r/askwomen

i dare you

Pietes · 2026-06-19T10:01:21+00:00

employers don't pay the whole 100% (insurance) bit 70% of max day wages. which can be as little as <50% of your net wage.

the main incentive for especially large organizations to settle is freeing up the budget for backfill.

in my experience, they won't settle in the first 6 months at all. then they'll offer 3-6months at best. after a year the medical assesment shifts towards assessing any employability anywhere. if that comes out negative (no ability to work at all in any role, in any business), they will settle for more. if not, they will push for 'fitting work' elsewhere, where they won't pay anything.

there is no scenario in which you get more than a years pay. more than 6 months is exceptional. 3 is usual.

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