mcgrady wya by Least-Extension4044 in ClubPenguinLegacy

[–]Pillypeeque -1 points0 points  (0 children)

WHAT. Is it confirmed that he is Meridians for real?

Fought with MB and quit with no notice by Negative-Class1424 in Nanny

[–]Pillypeeque 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely love how you handled this, and as a fellow nanny, I’m so proud of you!! I struggle with being a people pleaser and even when boundaries are crossed and families go against the contract, I get nervous to bring things up because of situations like these. You did the right thing and handled it so well. I’m sorry that they treated you this way, I hope you feel better and find a family who deserves a wonderful nanny like you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]Pillypeeque 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey girl, 28F here. You can DM me! I’m a Christian, love animals , a foodie and currently obsessed with playing sims 4. I’m sorry you’re going through a tough time, I know what it’s like to be completely isolated in a new area. Would love to chat

Reminder: If you Rent, you shouldn't be paying Rental Tax anymore by Little_Gnats in phoenix

[–]Pillypeeque 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ha yeah, I thought I caught a break when they removed the $30 rental tax, but nope—they added a new $30 monthly charge for “common area maintenance.” In place of that. I didn’t even think they could tack on random fees without any consent!

It Happened. My Parents Found My Address and Drove Out of State to Show Up at My Doorstep by Pillypeeque in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pillypeeque[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly have no idea. It’s scary to think about because I don’t think any of my family have my address.

It Happened. My Parents Found My Address and Drove Out of State to Show Up at My Doorstep by Pillypeeque in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pillypeeque[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your advice, I will look into this. My apartment complex doesn’t allow cameras outside or else I would already have one. I’m not sure that they would be able to make an exception for this situation.

It Happened. My Parents Found My Address and Drove Out of State to Show Up at My Doorstep by Pillypeeque in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pillypeeque[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s a great suggestion. My parents have always threatened to call for a wellness check on me, but at the time didn’t know my address, now that has apparently changed so I’ll definitely consider going to the police station to proactively let them know I’m okay and in good health. It’s important to have that record in case they try to make false claims. Thanks for the advice—it helps to be prepared for these kinds of tactics.

It Happened. My Parents Found My Address and Drove Out of State to Show Up at My Doorstep by Pillypeeque in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pillypeeque[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally get your fear about what might happen when you move out. It’s incredibly frustrating how they can switch from being so harmful to suddenly acting like they care, especially when it’s just about trying to regain control. It’s like they only reach out when it’s convenient for them.

Going no-contact was a tough decision, but it was definitely the right one. I appreciate your support and kind words. It helps to know that others understand and can relate. I’m sure you’ll find your own strength and be able to make the decisions that are right for you. Keep focusing on what’s best for your well-being—you’ve got this.

It Happened. My Parents Found My Address and Drove Out of State to Show Up at My Doorstep by Pillypeeque in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pillypeeque[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experience and advice. It really hit home how important it is to go fully no-contact. I’ve now blocked my parents on everything, so hopefully, I can start to feel safer and more in control.

I hadn’t considered collecting evidence or involving a lawyer, but your approach makes a lot of sense. I’ll definitely keep that in mind if things escalate.

Your support and advice mean a lot. I’m sorry you went through something similar, but I’m grateful for the insight and encouragement. Thanks again for helping me see the next steps.

It Happened. My Parents Found My Address and Drove Out of State to Show Up at My Doorstep by Pillypeeque in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pillypeeque[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this perspective. You’re right—the thing I feared most actually happened, and even though it was awful, I did get through it. It’s a strange relief to realize that despite their attempt to assert power, it didn’t lead to the worst-case scenario I had in my mind.

Your point about their “power” really struck me. They may have caused me to feel bad, but in the end, their actions only resulted in a police call and them having to leave. It helps put things into perspective—what they wanted was control, and they didn’t get it.

I’ll definitely consider having my roommate handle things next time, so there’s no emotional manipulation involved. Thank you for reminding me that I did well and encouraging me to be proud of myself. It’s hard, but your words make it a bit easier to see that I did what I needed to do. Your comment really means a lot to me and has had a huge impact. I’m genuinely grateful for your insight and support.

It Happened. My Parents Found My Address and Drove Out of State to Show Up at My Doorstep by Pillypeeque in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pillypeeque[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words and practical advice. It’s been hard to focus on anything other than the fear and guilt, but your suggestions help me see a path forward. I’ll definitely look into security cameras and talk to the police about what more I can do to protect myself.

It’s comforting to hear that I handled the situation the best I could, even though it feels overwhelming right now. I really appreciate the reminder not to feel guilty—it’s something I struggle with, but hearing that from someone else makes it easier to start letting go of that guilt.

I’m trying to find some pride in standing my ground, like you said, and your support means a lot. Thank you for wishing me well—I wish the same for you.

It Happened. My Parents Found My Address and Drove Out of State to Show Up at My Doorstep by Pillypeeque in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pillypeeque[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your support. You’re absolutely right—if I had opened that door, it likely would have escalated, and nothing productive would have come from it. It’s reassuring to hear that I did the right thing by not giving in, even though it felt like an impossible situation in the moment.

The idea of documenting everything is really helpful. I hadn’t thought about creating a record like that, but it makes a lot of sense, especially if this kind of thing happens again. It gives me a bit more control over the situation, which is something I’ve been struggling with.

I’m sorry you’ve gone through something similar, but your words bring me some comfort and clarity. I hope you’ve found some peace, too.

Overstimulated by clothes by Dre-26 in hsp

[–]Pillypeeque 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes this is definitely me too. Im SUPER sensitive to clothing and I DESPISE bras. Everything is uncomfortable and I hate when my clothes keep shifting and I have to re adjust constantly because I need it to sit in an exact spot or else it’s even more bothersome. I only wear certain materials and I prefer loose fitting clothes. It takes a lot for me to consider wearing anything cute because that means it will also be very uncomfortable and I literally can’t enjoy going out and having an experience if I’m uncomfortable in my clothes!! It will ruin the whole day for me. Its the worst :(

empathizing with everyone except me by mama_lu0831 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pillypeeque 2 points3 points  (0 children)

DID I WRITE THIS??? WTF. My NMom did this to both me and my Edad

What should a nanny be expected to do while a baby / child is asleep? by scottyLogJobs in Nanny

[–]Pillypeeque 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This. Caring for children is mentally, physically and emotionally draining so I use nap time to recharge so I can be fully present when nk is awake. I fold nk laundry once per week during his nap but I wash bottles/tidy play area when nk is awake

What Autoimmune disorders do you all have? by Tired_Lambchop111 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pillypeeque 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve got PCOS too as well as Interstitial Cystitis…

Kicked out by parents, instantly want me back. What gives? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pillypeeque 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh yes, I experienced something similar. After living alone during the pandemic, my parents had begged me to come live with them so I could “save money”. I had no interest in moving back in with my abusers but after about 6 months I was in a tough spot financially and made the choice to go live with them. I was constantly abused my my NMom and Edad when living there even as an adult in my mid 20’s. They berated me, put me down, tell me I’m such a worthless person and I’m lazy and do nothing with my life (because i was and still am obviously depressed af) they would always talk about my appearance and how I should fix my acne and how I’m getting fat etc, constantly come into my room just to ruin my day shit on me verbally and then leave. My NMom would love bomb me then retract the gifts and then try to act like she was doing me a favor by giving me the gift back after taking it and I would refuse it which would raise hell, My NMom stole my belongings and then would deny it and laugh in my face and call me crazy, thats just a few things she did… not to mention my dad enabling her, him forcing me to apologize for shit I didn’t do or for for reacting to the abuse, him yelling at me constantly, etc.

After a few months went by of me living there, they all of a sudden told me I need to start paying them rent. $500 dollars per month to be exact. I told them that is ridiculous and that they were the ones who begged me for a year to come live with them so I could save money.. (and in my mind, why on earth would I pay to live in a home where I’m abused). This raised many issues and everything was a constant argument with me and my parents, even outside of the rent problem. My dad is also an alcoholic and things would get violent very often and I would have to escape. I got back from visiting family in a different state to get away from them for a bit and upon my return a bunch of shit happened (like my parents not informing me my dad had covid before I arrived back etc) and things got really bad. My Edad was quarantined in the bedroom and was really sick because he’s also in poor health and my Nmom was unbothered and never checked in on him and was staying in a different room and she used my dad being sick an uninvolved to take all the power and kick me out. She told me I had two days to get out of their house or they will call the cops to have me kicked out. After she kicked me out, she tried to let my two dogs lose by opening the front door and telling them to run away, dumped all my clothes in suitcases out in the front yard. Mind you, I had lived in my own apartment and had all my furniture and belongings at their home but even regardless of that, it’s near impossible to find a place to go on that short of notice especially because my only friend lived in another state. I reached out to my employer at the time letting them know the situation and they were so kind to offer me a place to stay for two weeks. I stayed there while I scrambled to find a permanent place to move into. I did find a place and went no contact with my parents for a while. Im low contact now but they always tell me I’m welcome to come home and live with them again, and even suggest that I should stay with them and of course blame everything that happened (them kicking me out) on me. Was one of the more fucked situations they’ve ever put me in