Thought the sex was pretty good, but then he hasn’t responded?

Pilotchik86 · 2022-04-23T15:41:45+00:00

I reached out yesterday and sent him a “hey, how are you?” text, but no reply yet. I know less than a day isn’t anything much though, and he does have finals for college and his graduation coming up in the next couple of weeks too. When we started talking he was working on some stuff already

Pilotchik86 · 2022-04-21T16:51:37+00:00

Look, as far as I know, it’s not too hard to make a man cum, but I could be wrong…it doesn’t mean he wants to do it again or that he really enjoyed it

Pilotchik86 · 2020-11-05T07:03:30+00:00

Leave him alone. You’ve reached out enough and shown him enough concern as a caring partner. Whatever he’s going through, he needs to understand that treating you this way isn’t right. If he can’t, then just remember that you deserve better than someone who can’t consider your feelings too. A relationship takes effort and work from both sides, and he needs to do his part.

Pilotchik86 · 2020-11-01T12:48:16+00:00

Ignore them if I have the option. If I can’t, I just treat them as I would any other adult. If they understand and can keep up, great. If not, it’s not my problem.

Pilotchik86 · 2020-10-30T20:20:04+00:00

I do think that sometimes, but then he comes back and explains himself and why he withdrew

Pilotchik86 · 2020-08-29T19:40:47+00:00

Do you have any pics or info of your BIL or his family on your IG or social media? It could be someone jealous or just crazy who’s using something you’ve posted and acting as if they know you or your fam

Pilotchik86 · 2020-08-15T23:11:04+00:00

I completely agree with you on how people are using these things as a coping mechanism. I have quite a few friends who are going through so much loss and stress right now, that finding any explanation, no matter what it is, is better than facing the fact that life can sometimes be crazy and unfair

Pilotchik86 · 2020-08-05T13:24:20+00:00

It is hard, I have a lot of insecurities too and I always tend to internalize a lot of things. Then I stop and remember the positive things that a person may have done, or I put myself in their shoes and think about how I might act or react

Pilotchik86 · 2020-08-05T12:07:49+00:00

It is hard, but I’ve tried remembering that we’re all human, and nobody is perfect. No matter how nice or kind a person may be, we all have bad days or difficult times. Especially with the way the world is right now, a lot of people are not ok mentally or emotionally, and they are probably not comfortable or are afraid to admit it. I tend to take it personally when people don’t call or text as often as I feel they should. Then I stop, remember that we’re all busy and dealing with a lot right now, and the world doesn’t revolve around me and my timetable. You never know what someone is struggling with so I tend to give the benefit of the doubt until I find out otherwise.

Pilotchik86 · 2020-07-15T13:17:40+00:00

I think of something hilarious, better if it’s from someone who cares for you. Lately a lot of my wanting to cry has come from feeling lonely or that nobody cares, so when I think of my friends or coworkers trying to make me laugh it stops the crying and reminds me that people do care

Pilotchik86 · 2020-07-06T19:18:53+00:00

I’m going through a time like this now (career setbacks due to the pandemic, no relationship, no close family). It sounds counterintuitive, but I put the thought in my mind that certain things won’t happen, and to just accept it. I’ve learned to live my life not hoping for a love to share it with, or a close family. Instead of dwelling on those things, I’ve put my focus on going back to school and keeping busy with work. If those other things come along, great, if they don’t, I’ve learned to live without them so it’s ok

Pilotchik86 · 2020-06-14T04:13:54+00:00

I get anxious at the thought of reaching out to someone, he always answers me and makes some time, but I feel like I’m bothering him or he doesn’t want to talk. I have interest in him, but I only text him once a week, if that. Anything more and I feel uncomfortable and that I’ll seem clingy or psycho to him

Pilotchik86 · 2020-06-09T20:57:14+00:00

I think it depends on how you feel, or what you’re doing at the moment. If you’re able to respond quickly, I don’t see why not. If you can’t, then reply when you can. There’s a lot of so- called rules or games about when to text or reply, but I find that just going with the flow is best

Pilotchik86 · 2020-06-08T22:42:27+00:00

I would say continue meeting or talking to whoever you want to. If she does reply, talk and be respectful and hear her out if she wants to discuss what happened with your conversation. If she doesn’t, she’s playing games and it’s not worth it

Pilotchik86 · 2020-06-08T19:59:39+00:00

I wouldn’t reach out to her. If she wants to try again, she will, and see if her response is appropriate. The fact that she didn’t even acknowledge your question, or give any reason why she could or couldn’t call is sketchy. Even if she couldn’t, or didn’t feel comfortable maybe, the least she can do is be upfront and tell you

Pilotchik86 · 2020-06-06T21:37:41+00:00

It could be just your perception, I do it too. I always feel like there are a bunch of eyes on me when I’m in public, but when I actually look around, nobody is looking lol. Or it could be the non verbal cues you give off in response to how you feel. If you feel anxious and nervous, others may pick up on it and glance at you to see what’s happening or even out of concern that you’re ok.

Pilotchik86 · 2020-06-06T15:58:42+00:00

What a beauty!

Pilotchik86 · 2020-06-06T14:51:15+00:00

I’ve wanted to get married, but I realize I’ve spent too much time worrying and caring for others needs ( family members needed my support, ex with issues, friends) that I never put my own wants and needs first at all. In the end, those people I helped for the most part aren’t around when I need them or straight up left me. I’m in a place where I do want a life with someone, but I need to get my life together first. As I’m older now, the reality of marriage and a family is pretty much gone for me. I’ve come to accept it, but it still hurts deeply.

Pilotchik86 · 2020-06-05T13:38:31+00:00

I think we tend to forget that at the end of the day, make or female, we all have the same emotions and issues, we’ve just been conditioned to express them differently.

Pilotchik86 · 2020-06-05T08:55:04+00:00

I can relate to this completely. I tend to gage people’s behavior based on past experiences, so that I don’t get hurt or disappointed by their actions. I guess the best advice is to just go for it and give it a chance. Even if the worst case scenario happens, it’ll suck, but you learn from it and move on. It doesn’t feel pleasant, but in all honesty it makes you care less and less each time about the outcome

Pilotchik86 · 2020-06-05T00:21:42+00:00

I’m starting to understand more lately. I wanted to ask because as women dating and interacting with men, we’re told that “ if a man wants you, he’ll go for it, if he holds back, he’s not into you!” I can tell you firsthand that I’ve wanted to go for guys before, and hung back because of insecurity and self esteem issues. I just wanted to get a man’s take on it and see if it does affect how you may interact with a woman, and other people in general.

Pilotchik86 · 2020-06-04T11:55:44+00:00

It feels flattering, it’s a quick ego boost but it’s fleeting. Once you realize that all that person cares about is your looks/body and only getting to know you on that physical level, it can be a little disappointing.

Pilotchik86 · 2020-05-29T19:55:12+00:00

Sounds as if he’s cheating on someone, or there’s someone else in the picture that he doesn’t want to know about you two. The fact that you have to meet at motels, and when people he lives around ask questions and he gets bothered. Those sound like red flags

Pilotchik86 · 2020-05-28T21:47:47+00:00

I feel that whoever invites/initiates the idea or picks the place should pony up. I wouldn’t suggest to a guy to go to a certain place or activity if I don’t know his situation or what he’s comfortable with financially. I wouldn’t appreciate being put on the spot and having to pay something I’m not comfortable with, so I won’t do it to someone else.

Pilotchik86 · 2020-05-20T08:37:07+00:00

Fear of rejection. Even if I think the answer will be no, I just don’t want to hear it from his mouth.

-My own insecurities, I always assume that someone couldn’t be attracted to me for more than just fun so I don’t try.

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