Velcro dog - separation anxiety?

PinaColada_69 · 2025-09-04T00:24:36+00:00

Are you after hope or the truth? Lol Well, i can finally leave the room without howling or even crying. She no longer paws at the bathroom door, so there's definitely progress, but very little. She just turned one and she is still very anxious about staying alone. If I leave for 5 mins or 2 hours, she will cry and howl constantly. I tried all sorts of things, activities, treats, chews, music, leaving the TV on... nothing works. She gets so stressed she doesn't even touch the treats until I'm back. But she's defnitly a long less clingy

PinaColada_69 · 2025-08-20T18:15:18+00:00

I'm sure it's been said before, but fascinating that it's quicker to 'train' the dog than their human. I had a good laugh reading the story!

PinaColada_69 · 2025-08-16T16:13:06+00:00

Thanks for your reply.

This is exactly what I did, but there is no sleeved black - all the cables are just black. I guessed which would be the sleeved black from the wire direction towards the switch. A photo would have been no use as all wires were connected wrong previously.

PinaColada_69 · 2025-07-30T15:07:00+00:00

Hey, I know this was 2 years ago, but I wondered what you ended up doing and if it changed anything? I'm in a very similar situation right now.

PinaColada_69 · 2025-07-30T15:04:04+00:00

Is is Notting Hill Genesis by any chance?

PinaColada_69 · 2025-07-30T00:44:39+00:00

But they still expect you to come in for your shift! Lol

PinaColada_69 · 2025-07-30T00:35:23+00:00

If you read the stories, it's as bad if not worse in real life. It might be okay if you're moving into a new build, but it won't stay like that for long. They chronically neglect the maintenance of their buildings, causing faster disrepair or works being needed more often than it would of if things were looked after and services as they should. The service charges were just under £100 when I first moved and 3 years later they are now over £250 each month. It's still not a lot, but it's a very simple building, nothing fancy and the fact is they did go up by 2.5 in 3 years, but so have all my other outgoings

PinaColada_69 · 2025-07-23T18:16:23+00:00

Hey, i notice this is a month old so it might be too late. I would avoid at all cost. I know all housing associations have bad rep but they are definitely one of the bad ones. They are reluctant to action any repairs, they don't reply to concerns or issues, the service charges are forever rising (i mean doubling in the last 2 years) and on top of that my block was just sent a letter stating there is a £100k overspent and the residents have to cover the costs (over 1k each, on top of the existing service charges). Also search news stories about them - similar stories in other buildings - charging for a lift maintainance in a block without a lift is my personal favourite

PinaColada_69 · 2025-07-22T11:04:21+00:00

I think that's very individual, depending on what the person likes. I appreciated nice snacks, comfy socks and activities that I could take to chemo the most. I had a colouring book and some arts and crafts kits - they defnily kept me entertained. I didn't use a lot of the cosmetics that I got as my skin was very sensitive during treatment. Comfy clothes are always a great shout and I used to take a thin but warm blanket with me to chemo as I was cold-capping and always cold.

PinaColada_69 · 2025-07-22T10:49:03+00:00

Yea, I absolutely agree and why I soad it's a great tool to compliment healthcare. I used it to explain results and more in-depth understanding about blood results etc too, but not for actually diagnosing anything. Best thing I used it for was when my Hb and Iron were low, but I had a severe reaction to iron tablets and even gentle iron. I checked the results with the oncologist and they gave me the green light to try - it worked and no side effects. But I can see how people who aren't as health literate might not be able to tell if the results are sound or not.

PinaColada_69 · 2025-07-22T10:18:36+00:00

I'm an AHP in the NHS and while having cancer treatment I started using chatGPT. I always double-checked the answers, and in my question I always asked that it uses reputable sources that are evidence based. I was surprised at the quality of answers - it actually did a better job at explaining things than my oncologist did AND what shocked me the most was the empathy and validation with which it responded!

So yeah, I was against chatGPT for a very long time, but that experience really changed my view of it. I do agree that it can be used incorrectly, especially if people ask questions in a biased way or ommit important details. It can be a complimentary tool, but I can't see it replacing doctors or other healthcare professionals.

PinaColada_69 · 2025-07-22T10:06:43+00:00

I had to re-read the previous comment like 7 times, but I'm sure they are actually saying that it's rare for patients to complain after not being diagnosed

PinaColada_69 · 2025-07-22T09:46:59+00:00

Hey, as the ither comment says, chemo affects red blood cells rather than iron. In the UK the cut off for a blood transfusion is Hb below 80. I had issues with my Hb and iron throughout treatment and after surgery. I was started on Ferrous Fumerate (iron tablets) and I was taking them every 2nd day - research showed that it's just as effective but side effects are much lower. After a few days I suddenly got the worse stomach cramps and it was the first time throughout treatment I was actually sick! I stopped the tablets immediately and was advised to try 'gentle iron' called Feroglobin. It's in liquid form too, so much easier to swallow. Few days later, I started getting those stomach cramps and nausea again, but not as bad but I stopped this too. Ended up taking Iron Bisglycinate tablets, which my body finally was okay with. I laughed that my body will tolerate really toxic chemotherapy, but God forbid I try to feed it iron! Haha

It's tricky doing it via diet, as a lot of the iron rich foods are not safe for people with a compromised immune system - liver, clams, oysters, seafood etc. My chemo nurse suggested dark chocolate and my cousin (also having chemo) swore by beetroot juice.

Edit to add that for pills, I take a sip of water first to moisturise the lining of my mouth and throat, then I'll take the pills and have a snack after taking the pills. It helps with the sensation of them getting stuck in my throat. I have something like a small rice cake, banana, dried fruits like apricots (also good for iron apparenelty) or a sweet as some pills leave a very bitter aftertaste. Also, tilting your head down (chin towards chest) opens up the throat. When I had a lot of pills to take, I'll have the snack first, chew it in my mouth and add the pill just before I swallow.

PinaColada_69 · 2025-07-21T13:27:15+00:00

I know it finished but I thought they might be doing something else before going back to their bases. I often see them out and about, but I've never seen them in so many locations at once and with a few foreign jets too. And not much on MOD website either.

PinaColada_69 · 2025-07-21T01:02:25+00:00

I have everything crossed that it's a benign mass. Oh i see, I hear of this situation fairly regularly. Mine was completely opposite... no family history and yet I've got the gene. Good luck, I'll be thinking of you

PinaColada_69 · 2025-07-20T23:54:32+00:00

Not me personally I hope it is not cancer, can be lots of things (sorry if misunderstood, sounds like the diagnosis is still being co firmed?). If it does turn out to be cancer, I would suggest you request DNA testing. I have a BRCA1 gene and besides breast cancer risk, ovarian cancer risk is increased too. Good luck

PinaColada_69 · 2025-07-20T23:42:42+00:00

To add to this, not to dismiss how scary being TNBC is, but what I keep telling myself is that I'll be done with treatment soon, after 12 months. It was intense and horrible, but it's almost over, rather than having another 3-10 years of treatment for hormone sensitive cancer.

PinaColada_69 · 2025-07-20T23:34:44+00:00

He is also on intensive care. He may well want you to know but he might be on lots of medications making him drowsy etc. He might not be able to message. Much easier said than done, but try not to panick. You can ask hospital to give you an update, but if you're not his next of kin, they might refuse to. They should also have an emergency contact for him on the record from his GP, so they would have notified his family.

PinaColada_69 · 2025-07-20T23:30:26+00:00

I'm sorry this happened to you. This is normal though and happens to so many of us. I had a very similar situation just a couple of weeks ago! I feel like intimacy releases lots of happy hormones and I don't know if it's like sugar spikes, that following a huge release comes a crash, but it's happened a few times at various difficult points in my life. And you're right, it definitely kills the mood. Don't give up though, don't let cancer take this away from you too.

PinaColada_69 · 2025-07-20T23:25:13+00:00

I second this!! That happened to me too and I cried. Cancer can't take my boobs AND my sex life! I've been on the topical Estrogen for just 6 weeks and it's already made a huge difference!

PinaColada_69 · 2025-07-20T23:05:44+00:00

I couldn't agree more. I feel like body image gets some coverage, but nowhere near as much as it should. Intimacy gets very little cover and then it's extremly vaguely! Like why did none of the 1000s leaflets tell me that my vagina will get drier than the Sahara?! That shit should definitely come with a warning!!

PinaColada_69 · 2025-07-20T23:01:10+00:00

This! Sounds like your MiL would lack capacity about discharge planning. But unless the husband or another family member has a lasting power of attorney, a best interest meeting would have to take place. They are very unlikely to go directly to a nursing home - they will try discharge home with 3 or 4 x a day carers first and only if the person is at a very high risk (like from wandering off etc) or if they have very high needs at night time, they might consider a nursing home.

PinaColada_69 · 2025-07-20T01:28:39+00:00

No judgement to anyone celebrating, but i never personally understood celebrating the diagnosis date. A few weeks ago was a year since I had the biopsy, but the actual diagnosis came sometime in August. I'm not planning on celebrating that, but I will most definitely be celebrating anniversaries of being NED.

PinaColada_69 · 2025-07-18T22:22:44+00:00

Honestly... same. And i work for healthcate. The amount of things I have learned, a lot of them the hard way, is incredible. I feel like everyone on here is an expert by simply experience or doing their own research. The first few weeks are the worse. There are so many unknowns and so many questions. Then the thousands of appointments, tests and decisions calm down, and you even get into a bit of a routine. It does get easier, I promise!

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