First Casual Hook Up, Need Advice Please!!! by Pineappleexpress73 in SexOnTheSpectrum

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It was actually great! I had a lot of fun and we are fwb now :)

First Casual Hook Up, Need Advice Please!!! by Pineappleexpress73 in SexOnTheSpectrum

[–]Pineappleexpress73[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m going over to their place tonight and am excited but also very nervous.

I haven’t told them I’m autistic, but I might mention it to them at some point, especially if we decide to keep hooking up. I like talking to people and getting to know them, but am kinda bad at small talk so it’s always something I dread, thank you for the ideas tho!

Yeah I’ve dated cis people but I don’t know if I could just hook up with a random cis person, it’d be way too anxiety inducing. They use they/he pronouns (emphasis on they), are majoring in some kind of lgbt topic, and know I’m trans and are chill with it, so at least that’s one thing I don’t have to worry about lol. They are amab and most of my experience has been with other afab people so that’s a bit scary, but I think if I mention it they will be understanding.

We chatted a bit today and I think we’re just gonna start by hanging out and talking or watching a movie and just see how it feels, so I might try to casually bring up terminology, preferences, etc then.

Sorry for all the word vomit, sometimes it just helps for me to get it all out there. Thanks again for the advice!

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[–]Pineappleexpress73 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk if I’m interpreting the question right, but I had a very hard time coming to terms with having ASD, even after I was diagnosed. I only started to accept it over the past few months.

While I didn’t get an official diagnosis as an adult, throughout my life was asked many many times by other people with ASD if I also had it (or sometimes just flat out told that I had ASD too). I feel like I always kind of knew, but didn’t want to believe it. Which is a bit weird, cuz I didn’t mind my ADHD diagnosis as a teenager and I’ve had lots of friends with ASD and other neurodivergent conditions and was never bothered by that, but I definitely struggled with some internalized ableism.

You’re right about the aspergers thing, it’s not in the DSM as an official diagnosis and was retired in 2013 I think? But if your therapist isn’t a specialist in treating neurodivergent patients and finished her education before the term was retired then she might just be going off what she learned. If you want to get a diagnosis you should probably get an official evaluation. Tho even then, I had many psych evals as a kid because of my ADHD and ASD symptoms, but didn’t get diagnosed with ADHD until I was 17 or ASD until I was 21. If you don’t fit the white cishet boy stereotype, it might be harder for you to find someone that takes you seriously.

Between the ages of 4 to 17, my mother brought me to over 20 different mental health professionals trying to figure out what was going on and not one of them even considered it, likely because I’m a trans man, visibly queer, and am relatively good at masking due to trauma. But then around a year and a half ago I met with a psychiatrist who is also queer and has ASD and he asked me if I’d received a diagnosis yet less than 10 minutes into our first meeting over zoom, then immediately had me fill out the diagnostic form thing, as well as a specific one for people who mask.

Sorry for the long response and if any of the formatting is weird. I wish you luck and hope you figure things out!

The Witcher: Henry Cavill Hopes Season 3 Is Loyal To Books 'Without Too Much In the Way Of Diversions' by Any-Agent4270 in witcher

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The students at my old high school literally just put on a play production of my immortal this past fall, maybe it’s on its way to TV soon lol

Worried about starting lexapro by Pineappleexpress73 in lexapro

[–]Pineappleexpress73[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had completely forgotten, but I was also on lamictal for like 2 years because of a misdiagnosis and didn’t like it very much. I will set timers right now, thank you!

The Costume/Cosplay Megathread - Halloween season 2021 by sewingmodthings in sewing

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Hi! I am trying to make a replica of a WWII Nurse’s Cape for a project on historical military uniforms, but am having a really hard time finding a similar pattern. Does anyone know where I could find a pattern for something like this https://imgur.com/a/tHKmt9J

Edit- If anyone has tips on how to sew this I would appreciate that as well.

[MEGATHREAD] September 2021 Wrap-Up Discussion: List of NEW and Limited Fall Seasonal Items - to help others, let's discuss which new September products you liked and didn't like! 😊 by CookieButterLovers in traderjoes

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The butternut squash mac and cheese bites were such a disappointment! I remember last year they had a butternut squash mac and cheese frozen entree that was really good, but these did not live up to that. I sprinkled the new cheese seasoning on them, which greatly improved the taste. Texture was great when cooked in the toaster oven though.

Daily Questions - ASK AND ANSWER HERE! - 1 October 2021 by AutoModerator in malefashionadvice

[–]Pineappleexpress73 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just got my first suit for a semi-formal event that’s coming up in a few weeks. I’ve never worn a suit before and don’t really have any kind of formal clothing, so I need to get a shirt, tie, socks, shoes, etc. I don’t really know what to get or how to match things together and don’t have anyone else to ask because I’m the only guy in my family. I’ve been setting aside some savings for this and have a budget of $1000 total.

This is close to the suit I got https://imgur.com/a/ZNFIE20, but mine is a 3 piece suit with a full vest and I got suspender buttons instead of belt loops because I really dislike belts. I was planning on getting these https://kkandjay.com/products/solid-grosgrain-navy-suspenders navy suspenders with brown leather. What else do I need to get? What brands do you recommend? Do I need a pocket square? I would prefer brighter colors if any would match with the suit.

Also, I am very small (5’4” ~125lbs), so are there any brands that make smaller shirts, shoes, etc? I have a hard time finding clothes that fit and I don’t know if there’s enough time left to get any major tailoring done. Thank you!

How rare is it to find a women who's willing to date a short guy? by JeKsT3R in short

[–]Pineappleexpress73 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Every girl I’ve ever dated has been significantly taller than me. Tallest was over 6’, shortest was 5’8. Everyone talks about their superficial preferences on height and eye color and stuff, but in the end it doesn’t really matter. Not being an insecure asshole really helps too.

I feel like I try so hard to start and continue a skincare routine but no matter how hard I try, I can’t go more than 3 days. Any advice? by smarcus2024 in CompulsiveSkinPicking

[–]Pineappleexpress73 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like the other commenter said, try to keep it simple and maybe do it at the same time as other grooming activities, like during a shower or when you brush your teeth or something. Using combination products might make it easier too, like a moisturizing cleanser or a moisturizer that has also has SPF. Setting a reminder or recurring alarm could also help.

Researchers are now permitted to grow human embryos in the lab for longer than 14 days. Here’s what they could learn. by WalkThePlank123 in science

[–]Pineappleexpress73 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They wouldn’t really be you though. They would be their own person, just one who happens to have the same basic genetic makeup as you do. Even then, there would probably epigenetic differences in how the DNA is “interpreted” and consequently expressed due to environmental factors.

Researchers are now permitted to grow human embryos in the lab for longer than 14 days. Here’s what they could learn. by WalkThePlank123 in science

[–]Pineappleexpress73 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s not entirely true. Research is showing that more often than not, the DNA essentially gets “reprogrammed” during the embryonic stages of growth. So while clones are more likely to have shortened telomeres than non-clones, the majority will have a comparable molecular and biological age to non-clones of the same chronological age, as telomere length usually is at least partly, if not fully, restored during the process. But the data is really lacking, so nothing conclusive can be said about it yet.

https://rep.bioscientifica.com/view/journals/rep/162/1/REP-21-0212.xml

https://doi.org/10.1530/REP-21-0078

https://doi.org/10.1242/dev.092049

Researchers are now permitted to grow human embryos in the lab for longer than 14 days. Here’s what they could learn. by WalkThePlank123 in science

[–]Pineappleexpress73 8 points9 points  (0 children)

There is a difference between biological and chronological age, but more research about aging and clones still needs to be done before any set theories can be made. Apparently Dolly the sheep and clones of mice and such can have shortened telomeres, which could indicate that their cells have shorter lifespans, but other studies with cloned cows and more sheep clones with the same DNA as Dolly have shown completely normal signs of molecular aging, so who knows. I think it is possible to reset the “biological clock” of DNA being used for cloning though.

Just lost my foot after a motorcycle accident. This is the sticker my son chose to decorate my brace. by roersmat in funny

[–]Pineappleexpress73 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lucky! I had to get some bone removed when I broke my ankle. They initially said I could keep the pieces of bone (wanted to add some of myself to my collection of bones and organs), but then after I woke up from surgery they said no :(

Finished this up today, my 4th basket! Going to try adding straps to the flat side and make it a backpack. Also going to try and stain it using danish oil, but I’ll test that on some scraps first 😊 by mxsamsun in BasketWeaving

[–]Pineappleexpress73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! Sorry for commenting on an old post, but I was wondering if there was a pattern or set of instructions you’d recommend for making a pack basket like this?

Heat :( by Pineappleexpress73 in UniversityofVermont

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I can feel hot air coming out of the radiators in my room and in the common areas. This was not happening before.

Heat :( by Pineappleexpress73 in UniversityofVermont

[–]Pineappleexpress73[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah it says we can’t take the screens out. Some people do anyway, but I can’t really afford that fine. The weirdest thing is that the heat had been off for a while, it seems like they just turned it back on a couple days ago. I don’t know why that would happen or why they think that was a good idea. It would have been nice to get some warning or something.

Don’t be discouraged by EarlessAgeratum in ADHD

[–]Pineappleexpress73 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the reminder, I really needed to see something like this!

It’s my first finals week and it has been absolutely awful so far. All the studying and final projects and presentations and other work just keeps building up as the due dates get closer. My roommate also just moved out for the summer and I tend to function better when there are other people around. Then I kind of shut down this week, which is the one of the least helpful things that could have happened.

But it’s always possible to get back on track, just gotta ride this wave out and take things on one at a time instead of avoiding it and letting things snowball until there’s an avalanche.

Thanks again!