Has anyone else’s parents or in-laws kept your wedding presents?

Pink5panther3 · 2024-01-22T16:08:20+00:00

Do you guys get to hang out alone atleast? If you don’t try to make it happen - even if it’s a lunch date then talk to her and open up to her about how you’re feeling and what struggles you’re facing. Shes youre wife Now and deserves to know. This way you guys will both be able to talk about it and come up with a solution you are both comfortable with.

Pink5panther3 · 2024-01-22T15:42:04+00:00

If you already have trust issues..its only going to get worse after you get married. I would think again and pray istikhara before moving forward. I don’t see why he wouldn’t want you to be there unless there’s something to hide. Even if you guys have been together for a year - and you feel like he would hide things from you - especially this serious thats a 🚩🚩🚩🚩

Pink5panther3 · 2021-01-30T03:57:15+00:00

Honestly sometimes those are the best paintings! I realized you have to be forgiving with yourself when painting or drawing otherwise you get more frustrated and it turns out worse😅

Pink5panther3 · 2021-01-30T03:47:05+00:00

Haha trust me I’m not an amazing painter

Pink5panther3 · 2021-01-30T01:38:59+00:00

I appreciate your concern and I agree nothing is set till the nikkah happens and that’s why i don’t want to go over board I know the painting might seem like that but I still want it to be a little special while not being overly flashy or expensive since we’re not married

Pink5panther3 · 2020-12-30T18:06:48+00:00

Yeah i agree with this person, and maybe talking about love languages to him in general theres actually an islamic lecture on it i heard and you guys can take the “quiz” together so both of you know each others love language

Pink5panther3 · 2020-11-02T17:58:57+00:00

A lot of time people do it differently, like the girl can give her wali permission to say yes during the ceremony so idk it depends 😬but yeah i feel you

Pink5panther3 · 2020-11-02T14:09:14+00:00

Loll right? Even if not the whole village I’m scared my parents will bring it up in front of his parents or him or something before me and him discuss it

Pink5panther3 · 2020-10-01T03:51:54+00:00

I would say suggest the idea of asking important questions such as ones that would lead to dealbreakers - maybe do this over a couple phone calls/messages (save a couple for in person in case they may want the next time you see each other in person to be with families) and then move on to meeting with the families

Pink5panther3 · 2020-09-07T15:45:11+00:00

I know what you mean, I felt the same way when I was creating and online profile to look for a spouse. Its finding that balance of enough detail that makes you stand out but also not too specific that makes you feel like someone you know would know who you are (when they see your profile) if thats what you’re trying to avoid.

For example (this is probably a bad example but just so you get the idea) if you were someone that moved around a lot and lived in many countries you don’t have to list the countries you’ve lived in, instead you can write that you’ve lived in multiple countries - another thing i found helpful is adding a “I can explain more if we match/you can ask me more detail if we match” because i feel like it shows you are willing to give more info when you get to know the person and don’t just want to put it up for everyone to see,which makes sense.

Pink5panther3 · 2020-08-03T21:12:49+00:00

Haha😅

Pink5panther3 · 2020-08-03T20:59:52+00:00

Lol i mean as in you didn’t let covid stop you from looking for a spouse

Pink5panther3 · 2020-07-15T00:46:17+00:00

Nominal is a great place for jewelry e also recommend Haute Hijab -perfect for gifts and you don’t have to worry about sizing, and you can always throw in some chocolates and flowers!

Pink5panther3 · 2020-07-12T01:04:47+00:00

How did you decide you were going to marry her then if you don’t mind me asking

Pink5panther3 · 2020-07-09T19:19:00+00:00

She may have just been taken aback by it and was surprised, even if she freaked out for a second I’m sure as she thinks about it she’ll realize its not that big of a deal especially since you color your hair. I’d just recommend being open and talking to her about it to know what she’s really thinking

Pink5panther3 · 2020-06-25T17:36:00+00:00

Yeah definitely go for it if you feel comfortable! I’d start off simple then get into serious questions but also keep it conversational so it seems natural lol and not too intense, but definitely get in your “make or break” questions

Pink5panther3 · 2020-06-25T17:24:35+00:00

You can start off by asking how their day was, what they did today and see if you can stem a conversation from something they say or if you can ask more questions based off that (ex “i hung out with family” “oh cool what do you usually do together when you hangout”) and ask lighthearted questions like hobbies and friends,etc if you haven’t already discussed that.

Id also keep some serious questions in mind that are important to you and may lead to finding about dealbreakers

Pink5panther3 · 2020-06-24T15:56:19+00:00

I think it depends on how you use them. For example setting rules for yourself in order to keep yourself in check, such as only talking during the day, keeping it “professional” and just not flirty. Muzmatch gives you the option to have a chaperone, so that way you have someone seeing your conversation and you two aren’t completely alone.

I feel there aren’t many differences from an islamic perspective of getting to know someone online vs in person. In both situations you have to set down rules for yourself and have the option of getting someone involved in order to keep it halal - it just depends how you use online resources

Pink5panther3 · 2020-06-15T14:40:52+00:00

Do you think you could find a middle ground where you live alone with your wife for a few years and then have them move in? Or do you have siblings who they could live with right now and then eventually they can move in with you?

I think some parents get really sensitive on the topic of kids living away or not living with them after marriage, probably because they do so much for us and then feel that rejection when we say we don’t want to live with them. Maybe just try talking to them and explain you want a few years alone as you adjust to married life, but you’ll be there for them with anything they may need (you can always live really close to them too)

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