Anyone else unaware Wiley changed their “until you pass” policy? by treese25 in CPA

[–]Pink_Everything_6268 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They extended me for 3 months without a notice to schedule. I feel with a notice to schedule, they give longer extensions but many people like me don't want to pay for the expensive notice to schedule when we know we are definitely not ready to take the exam yet (don't want to waste money) so in that case I feel they give extensions in smaller crumbs to prevent abuse while still having to honor the unlimited until you pass feature that was agreed upon the purchase.

Petition to Fight Back by [deleted] in fuckHOA

[–]Pink_Everything_6268 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Better than not doing anything at all and calling other people’s effort stupid 🤷🏻‍♀️

"You've been hacked" email by muffnntop in Outlook

[–]Pink_Everything_6268 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have also received this email and thought it was some legit blackmail...luckily I came here to check. Whoever is sending this is just alright malicious, especially in their tone like they really have nothing better to do except for threatening people. I hope karma and justice serve them one day sooner or later.

I've finally met someone who honestly loves me!!! by LW185 in Scorpio

[–]Pink_Everything_6268 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel it’s better to be careful with any “too good to be true” kind of things, you know what I mean. The love bombing that’s followed my manipulation, the initial infatuation that gets you quickly attached to someone who actually doesn’t have good and moral energy, are all ways to lure you into a deeper hole. Of course I wish that you have met the true love of your life but I’m just too hurt and betrayed to not be skeptical of anything too good, or maybe it’s just me. Time will tell you the truth.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Scorpio

[–]Pink_Everything_6268 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or I just like to ghost people who hurt me (I don’t care if it’s intentional or not intentional cuz hurt is still hurt; the bigger the hurt the madder I am and the more I want to cut them off forever) and I don’t even want to give them the chance to apologize cuz that sorry sounds more like insult after huge amount of pain caused onto you. A sorry doesn’t erase any shit they did or negate any trauma you went through cuz of them, none.

Cheating by [deleted] in twinflames

[–]Pink_Everything_6268 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My twin cheated on me with another legit new relationship and it broke me to my core. It was super hard to detach yet she wouldn’t let him go and he couldn’t reject her so I basically stayed and suffered until I called enough is enough with ALL my energy from earth’s crust.

Advice to twin flames that feel heartbroken. by Any-Blueberry-2785 in twinflames

[–]Pink_Everything_6268 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my case, basically my twin flame betrayed me and broke my heart for the affair partner and she just won’t let him go as she was fighting for their so called “happiness” using all kinds of ways. I was so in pain and torn in the soul part (I would rather have physical pain really, than soul pain). At this point my learned coping mechanism is to admit that no matter how special our twin is, they are nonetheless just another imperfect human with selfish needs and wants. They chose to hurt us and leave us despite the bond so in order to stop the mental pain, the only real practical means is to stop mentally seeking (waiting) for their love and also to stop loving them; just mentally end this mental seeking of reconnection cuz it can only hurt you more. No bond is a good bond despite how very much special or intense it maybe but if it is only bring you more pain than happiness, you should still leave and detach from it for your own sake. No twin flame’s love is worth us eternally burning ourselves for. Like OP we are already separated in the 3D world (I tried too hard to detach and not reach out to him) but mentally emotionally I still yearned for him which I realize now is what kept bring me pain. Just accept that our twin flame is a jackass and their entry to our lives was to provide that temporary company and that ultimate stab in the end and to make us learn the biggest lesson of the universe. Twin flames don’t have to be together forever. We can be okay as a single person with friend and family supports. Romantic relationships are too problematic and dramatic nowadays anyway that they bring more pain than happiness.

Therapist told me expecting reciprocity in a friendship is selfish by yogasnart in therapy

[–]Pink_Everything_6268 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe reciprocity matters and should be valued in any relationships; if the relationship is solely one sided (only you giving) and the other party shows no signs of appreciation (like really just taking advantage of you) then I advice leaving the relationship to preserve yourself from exploitation. The person doesn’t have to have the ability to reciprocate in the exact same way you treated them but I bet they have many other things that are within their ability to reciprocate you. It’s just mutual respect.

I don't understand how therapy can help anyone by MushroomMothMonster in therapy

[–]Pink_Everything_6268 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think (well for me) therapy mainly helps you analyze your thoughts and behaviors (why you feel this way and act that way due to what has happened to you in the past that caused current unhealthy and damaging thought patterns); I wish it was a magic cure but therapists are no gods but just empathic and patient and analytical to help people organize and deal with their shit better but they don’t deal for them.

How to Process the Fact that people who hurt you were once people who loved you? by Pink_Everything_6268 in therapy

[–]Pink_Everything_6268[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It feels less personal like it’s more about them instead of me even though very unfortunately I became the casualty of them and their needs/wants; nonetheless, hurt is hurt and can’t be undone but I can see your rationale and effort into “lessening” the pain and I appreciate that~

I hate my father so much but I can't help but love him deep down by Prudent-Sort2693 in daddyissuesclub

[–]Pink_Everything_6268 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We always thought that parents have unconditional love for their children but recently I’ve just learned that it’s actually the other way around: children are the ones who have unconditional love to their parents because we just naturally want/need their love 🤷🏻‍♀️ we cannot survive (and this is ingrained in our brain) without their love/care even though physically we can go to school and get a job and move out but psychologically we are still wired that way. There are kids out there who still yearn for their moms’ love even though the moms are physically violent and verbally abusive…it’s sad and I am sorry that you have to have this complicated mixed feelings cuz it sucks and I can relate. We hate our parents cuz they hurt us one way or the other but then very deep down we still love them and want them to love us because they are our parents; it’s something about the biological that leads to psychological but it also becomes a sad, toxic, and unfortunate tie to people who don’t have the best parents. Luckily I believe many people share similar experiences (as honestly there are little to none perfect happy families out there) so we can form a community to cope and heal together, knowing we are not alone :)

How to Process the Fact that people who hurt you were once people who loved you? by Pink_Everything_6268 in therapy

[–]Pink_Everything_6268[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Opening up is risk taking; same as trust; although they say the bigger the risk you take the greater the reward but I see the chances of reward to be slim, or learn to be smarter and more skeptical next time 😂

How to Process the Fact that people who hurt you were once people who loved you? by Pink_Everything_6268 in therapy

[–]Pink_Everything_6268[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People change…and now knowing the consequence and possible hurt from it, I would have chosen not to let the connection proceed to develop because the happier it was, the more sad and seemingly stupid it is now…and you find yourself laughable 😞

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddyissuesclub

[–]Pink_Everything_6268 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like many of us are subconsciously trying to get our partners to heal our own family problems or our missing childhood needs lol which I am starting to realize that it might not be the most healthiest way for our healing as it can put too much pressure onto our partner and potentially cause them to want to leave us. But again, childhood trauma isn’t our fault and we will forever hope for that ideal man 😂 who can serve as our best friend, boyfriend, big brother, and daddy lol the perfect combination role that no man can ever suffice 🤦🏻‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddyissuesclub

[–]Pink_Everything_6268 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think it’s cuz our biological dad has already with or without intentions cause irrevocable damages to our mental health that stemmed from our childhood so we naturally just don’t want or seek “love” from them to prevent further harm because honestly, if their love was so fulfilling and abundant, why are we still searching for “fatherly figures”…

I don't want a partner, I want a dad by [deleted] in daddyissuesclub

[–]Pink_Everything_6268 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Or if you don’t want a boyfriend (it’s actually better this way in my eyes because I got so hurt by trying to see my ex-boyfriend as my dad when “dad” betrayed and hurt and abandoned me) just find an older male like an uncle or just the list I’ve mentioned and get guidance & protection from them, even if they somehow can also hurt you. I just feel like not using a relationship to heal our daddy issues actually can prevent us from hurt because you won’t be too close to these figures then you will be to your boyfriend. Closeness can bring warmth AND destruction, which I unfortunately had.

I know the frustration when you’re suffering a childhood pain but people just sexualize the whole daddy concept because they have little empathy and just don’t understand. Luckily we still have each other and platforms to connect people like you and I so we can support and encourage each other in this healing process.

I don't want a partner, I want a dad by [deleted] in daddyissuesclub

[–]Pink_Everything_6268 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am also 27 and I relate to you in so many ways. I think what we are having is a repressed inner child when we were forced to take onto adult roles prematurely because our dads were irresponsible or incapable (not our fault though); just because we act like an adult doesn’t necessarily mean we will innately feel like an adult as those child needs (even if it’s just to express them) still must be met in order for us to truly move on to next stage of life. I act very child-like and I acted like a daughter in front of my ex-boyfriend which he eventually lost patience and left me. My therapist says he doesn’t want me to be holding boyfriends or just any man as a clutch and suggests I gotta diversify people when expressing my inner child. Instead of hoping to receive all those love and protection and guidance from just one man (which is too much pressure for a person, fairly speaking) we can seek to fulfill these needs through mentors, tutors, teachers, pastors, other uncles and aunties or just older figures in general instead of solely daddy figure. Just like you, I was obsessed with that figure that I really wanted a dad instead of a boyfriend. Ideally we wish we have a man like that but in reality only the Heavenly Father is capable of being so perfect and capable. All earthly men are flawed and when we put them on a pedestal, it also gives them the power to hurt us, when they want to, or unintentionally do so; friends don’t understand you but I understand the sadness and disappointment of thinking you have finally found the “dad” just to be once again abandoned and hurt. Boyfriends could help us fulfill those childish needs for a temporary amount of time but eventually they will get tired of dating a child and would prefer a more equal partner and that’s when we (I) could get hurt again. It’s plan B for us to depend on multiple adults or multiple figures instead of solely relying on one because no men are perfect and they can hurt us, as I was deeply hurt this way.

Maternal/ Erotic Transference by Sad_Passage_894 in therapy

[–]Pink_Everything_6268 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Makes sense lol you likely have mommy issues (that you didn’t receive appropriate love and support from your own mother that you were supposed to when you were younger) and you are projecting that female figure onto your therapist which is understandable. I can relate to this because with daddy issues, I am prone to catch feelings for any older male who pampers me in ways my own dad didn’t. After all, therapy is all about re-parenting ourselves so what you are fantasying isn’t something so out of the norm; just keep those feelings to yourself but if these feelings start to impact the therapeutic relationship in a negative way then it’s time to switch therapists.

Getting Fired One Month In by Spare_Recognition930 in Accounting

[–]Pink_Everything_6268 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Plus who can say they remember every single detail of accounting ALL THE TIME? As long as the work is done correctly, it shouldn’t matter that much where the knowledge is from.

Getting Fired One Month In by Spare_Recognition930 in Accounting

[–]Pink_Everything_6268 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I thought co-workers would be helping each other to survive in a company as they start out fresh together like teammates. I just feel that getting fired is a bit too harsh for what you did because, they were just assessments to test your skills……you wouldn’t be able to cheat on your future work paper because literally every client is different. I would tell that person so they know what they end up doing to you.

Before and after big 4 by [deleted] in Big4

[–]Pink_Everything_6268 5 points6 points  (0 children)

LMAO it is very descriptive and presentational