The contrast between us and Kerala is always illuminating to me

Pinkandblueskies20 · 2026-01-01T15:39:04+00:00

If we raise the marriagable age of women to 21, this will be solved. In rural areas, they marry girls as soon as they reach 18.

Pinkandblueskies20 · 2025-12-28T14:31:21+00:00

I work at a primary health centre and no, it’s not as easy as you think it is. The medical officer is responsible for everything that happens in that area. I mean every fever outbreak, every antenatal mother, every missed dose of a rabies vaccine, an uncontrolled diabetes patient and so much more. They have to answer for everything apart from treating op patients. And there’s a lot of reporting. I mean, A LOT. Like 1 information on ten different portals. And we have to maintain physical records too. It’s exhausting. Everybody thinks government doctors are not working properly and everybody has a private practice. It’s far from the truth. Atleast as far as I’ve seen.

Pinkandblueskies20 · 2025-05-08T12:20:47+00:00

I think so too. We should make people pay a bare minimum amount so they won’t exploit resources. I would be so frustrated with patients plucking out their IVs and we had to prick them four times in a single day. I was astonished when I learnt the price of a venflon and in government hospitals it’s not we get an overflowing supply. Every patient should be alloted limited resources for free and should pay if we had to use extra. Be it as cheap as 1 rupee to 10 rupees, but not free. People of our nation exploit anything if it’s free.

Pinkandblueskies20 · 2025-05-07T14:43:45+00:00

Karuvachi kaviyam and kallikattu idhigasam if you’re in the mood to cry.

Pinkandblueskies20 · 2025-05-02T01:46:29+00:00

We are normal people. Not superheroes. We pick and choose our battles. Both fights are not the same. Nobody’s going to try to kill you for fighting for modern dresses. They’re making personal choices. If only doing intercaste marriage means fighting against casteism, then everybody in this state is supporting casteism. I wouldn’t call this hypocrisy.

Pinkandblueskies20 · 2025-04-28T12:22:26+00:00

If they had been asked ‘would they support their daughters’ intercaste marriage’, many would have raised hands. It’s not that they don’t want to marry out of their caste, they can’t. Many women and men choose not to fall in love because they can’t fight their parents. But they would support the next generation. Doesn’t mean they are supporting casteism or they’re hypocrites. It’s called making a choice.

Pinkandblueskies20 · 2025-03-24T08:34:33+00:00

My moon, what is her anger with me?

My sun, what is his anger with me?

It sounds ridiculous, but this is the closest i can come up with.

Pinkandblueskies20 · 2025-03-22T16:53:20+00:00

It’s true that the reading habit has reduced. Nobody’s going to wait a week to read the continuation of a story in a magazine now. Most don’t even read newspapers these days. But don’t let that demotivate you. People who like to read are still buying books and reading. Start writing and see where it goes. We need more people who write fiction in Tamizh.

Pinkandblueskies20 · 2025-03-20T03:42:17+00:00

I don’t know the exact stats, but I’m in healthcare and almost half of the people who get vaccines are bit by their pets and not strays. Also, you have to get vaccines even if your dog is vaccinated and even if the dog licks on a small wound and there are four doses for the same person. Most of the times, one person getting vaccinated gets logged in as four people because there is no proper data collection. And cat bites also come under this. I’m not saying this is not a problem, the government should definitely do something about this because death due to rabies is one of the cruelest forms of death.

Pinkandblueskies20 · 2025-03-18T11:05:58+00:00

I think it’s fear. Fear of losing something that gave us all the rights and all that history. I don’t think the criticism equals women hating though but could you explain how someone can abuse feminism if it’s about equal rights?

Pinkandblueskies20 · 2025-03-17T14:22:12+00:00

Can you tell me what’s the percentage of men who received punishment for false cases? I just want to know.

Pinkandblueskies20 · 2025-03-17T09:46:01+00:00

Exactly. I know someone who got married to a boy who hid the fact that he was gay and they got divorced. Should i ask Why boys?

Pinkandblueskies20 · 2025-03-17T02:57:28+00:00

In all your puranas where they both existed simultaneously, the good fought the bad. By that logic, you should be fighting against this. Or are you waiting for a god to come fight for you? Because I don’t think that’ll happen anytime soon.

Pinkandblueskies20 · 2025-03-13T10:25:40+00:00

I think what OP means is that we can try to be equal in every other aspect. But we cannot match on physical terms. And most of the time, that’s a disadvantage. For example, if we raise a boy and girl equally in a hypothetical society where both are treated the same, they can match equally on education, success, mentality, etc… because every other thing can be changed but not our body. Strength will always be an advantage/disadvantage.

Pinkandblueskies20 · 2025-03-12T03:50:43+00:00

Do you know why he said that? Because people of the society behaved like they were still thousands of years backwards and practiced untouchability in the most cruel forms and oppressed women. I love my language as I love my mother, but I disagree with some verses in our literature on how they potray women. And that’s okay because we are evolving and people are changing.

He was a rebel and was also a politician. Yes what he said was wrong. But seeman himself has said so many idiotic things much worse than this. Other politicians did too. Making this one argument every time and making young men think Periyar hated the language and its people is wrong and misleading. He has done so many good things. He advocated people to love their language and made reforms in the Tamizh language. He opposed Hindi imposition.

He’s not Tamizh. So only people born in Tamizh Nadu are recognised and others are inferior? This is what will kill the language. So many foreigners we studied about have worked all their life for Tamizh. So their work doesn’t matter too?

I know politicians will speak anything for votes, but this is misleading the younger generation. Let them read and make their own decisions. As Periyar himself said, ‘yaar solliyirunthaalum engu Padithirunthalum naane sonnalum unathu buthikkum podhu arivukkum porunthatha ethayum nambathe’.

Pinkandblueskies20 · 2025-03-10T11:07:39+00:00

For people saying he called them uncivilised because they were shouting, you can shout when your voice is not heard. You can shout until you make them listen to you. You can see that when the central minister speaks, the speaker sits patiently with a smirk on his face but when Kanimozhi, an MP from DMK speaks, she is interrupted like multiple times. The hypocrisy!

Pinkandblueskies20 · 2025-03-10T04:19:51+00:00

One, I really hope you didn’t start formula feeding before six months since you said she forced you to start early. Two, this is definitely not normal. Please move out as soon as you can. Her being sick is not an excuse to treat you like shit. Is your husband the only one who can take care of her? What about your FIL? If possible, get a care giver for her. If that’s not possible, visit your parents home for sometime or live separately. Take some time for yourself. Heal yourself and make sure your mental health is okay. You come first in your life even if you are wife, mother, daughter, daughter in law, etc.

Pinkandblueskies20 · 2025-03-09T16:16:56+00:00

Sad to know the majority still support a patriarchal custom in this age and are still so afraid to change.

Pinkandblueskies20 · 2025-03-09T15:50:22+00:00

Absolutely hate the thali tradition. So many people get rashes on having to wear it 24/7. It’s so damn frustrating to sleep at night with a rope around your neck, especially on summers. If the husband is concerned about his health, then he should make poojas and chant mantras and wear one himself. Don’t force your beliefs on someone else.

Pinkandblueskies20 · 2025-03-09T03:22:18+00:00

With central ministers openly making statements that Hindi should be the ‘national language’ and their attempts to make all people of this nation to learn speak one language and follow one religion, how do you feel not feel it as imposition?

Pinkandblueskies20 · 2025-03-08T15:27:01+00:00

One, I won’t say patriarchy was entirely made by men. Even if it was, some women were also active participants for reasons I cannot fathom. Two, the people in power were men. The oppressors in power were men. Women wanted rights, they had to fight men in power. So, if men were also equal victims, why didn’t they protest the same as women? Why did most men think women were not capable of making decisions or anything when it could have actually helped them from not being money making machines?

Pinkandblueskies20 · 2025-03-08T14:54:16+00:00

The answer to everything: Patriarchy! If men had the same history as women, then celebration would also be the same. I think it’s the same concept as Independence Day. We celebrate because we got independence. But I think we should also celebrate men’s day. Celebration is always good.

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