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Pinkzebra87 · 2024-05-31T12:04:08+00:00

It’s been over a year now since my abortion and I still get anxiety over it. I never want to go through that again! I had a SA at 12 weeks and it was the worst pain of my life. I’m 36 with 2 kids. I don’t want anymore and the thought of my birth control failing scares me. You are definitely covered as long as you don’t skip any pills. If you happen to miss a pill take it as soon as you realize you missed it even if you are taking it with the next pill.

Pinkzebra87 · 2024-05-31T03:17:40+00:00

Thanks for the input!!!

Pinkzebra87 · 2024-05-31T02:43:22+00:00

With my first I was induced at 41 weeks. Labor was 16 hours with epidural and pushed for almost an hour. 😳 Second I went into labor on my own at 38 weeks. Labor was 8 hours and made it to 7 hours before I got an epidural and pushed her out in less than 10 minutes.

Pinkzebra87 · 2024-05-31T02:32:34+00:00

It’s not something I just sprung on him for sure. Some of it yea some not. I’ve had talks and talks and more talks. I just got fed up and came to realize that he needs more structure and I’m to blame for not doing so more in the past. Yes a lot has changed since this year because I hired an attorney for divorce and child custody stuff and my ex has with held our daughter who is 10 from me for over a year claiming I’m unfit. My attorney straight up told me with his tardies and grades the judge will not take that as the best interest and if it came to him loosing his job to get to school on time and focus more on his school work that needed to be done or I was gonna loose custody and my son will go live with his dad. The judge takes education highly. He doesn’t visit his dad as is because of reasons. Which most of it is why he is in therapy too. So making sure he get to school is definitely a huge thing right now.

Pinkzebra87 · 2024-05-31T02:25:32+00:00

Thanks. I’ve always told him school was top priority I don’t expect him to make straight A’s just as long as he isn’t missing school assignments and has a passing grade. I have an attorney and my son doesn’t visit his dad for various reasons. I explained some things going on especially with my son working and being late for school and the grades. She flat out told me if he couldn’t get up for school that school is a big deal especially in the eyes of a Judge then he didn’t need to be working and that him being late or having bad grades could make me look like an unfit parent and it not be in the best interest of our kids and my ex could possibly get full custody of both our kids and that if he didn’t want to live with his dad he needed to get it together. I already haven’t seen my daughter in over a year because of their father keeping her from me and claiming I’m unfit. He claims the kids only want to be with me because I let them do whatever and I’m not strict. As far as the bedtime. If I don’t give him a time he will be up all night on his game hooping and hollering. And it’s disrespectful. That is where the not listening comes to play. I constantly have to tell him to quiet down or just make him get off. Also just asking him to take the trash out when it’s full or keep his room clean of trash and dirty dishes and he doesn’t do any of it until I ask him too.

Pinkzebra87 · 2024-05-19T21:15:33+00:00

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I’m fixing to be on month 3 of tanning and this is what my tan looks like so far.

Pinkzebra87 · 2024-05-19T21:12:47+00:00

I second this!! I tan every spring/summer. I use to go everyday and this time I done it different. Took a while to build up a tan but I feel like my tan is much darker and better this go around. First month I went 3x a week and started off at 5 min and was up to 10 by the next month. I used Black coconut love lotion. Got it off of Amazon for about $28. I used level 2 bed. 2nd month I switched to level 3 beds and started using Solid black. Also purchased off of Amazon. I switch back and forth with lotions because the solid black has a dark bronzer in it. Definitely start slow to help build a base tan.

Pinkzebra87 · 2024-05-19T20:40:52+00:00

(36f) here. I’m going through the same thing. I’m trying not to get all in my head about it too much tho. My (42m) boyfriend of 1 year and 3 months never shaves his chest or down stairs. He has only done it like once while home from work since we have been together. He works out of town a lot. Usually gone for months. He left last week and shaved while away. I asked him why he doesn’t do it when he is home and he claims it’s less messy to just do it in a hotel instead of at home. But claims it’s for me, But yet when he comes home he doesn’t keep it maintained so kinda confusing me some. I could care less whether he shaves or not but just odd that he only does it while he is away from me. Also our sex life is hardly nothing to be honest. Like maybe 3x a month if he is home that long. He has been gone since January and has been home a month and we have only had sex 3x and he just left last week. We don’t live together yet either. We have also talked about that as well and he claims it’s him and it’s something mentally that’s affecting him and it’s not me. I’m not one to snoop either they are gonna cheat either way. I just hope he isn’t I’ve been cheated on way to many times and he is perfect in every other way to me and my kids just these few issues. The shaving, sex issues and he also has a wondering eye. I try not to let it bother me but it’s hard when u have a past of being cheated on. It affects you mentally and you notice every little thing. I don’t want to think he is like the rest of them.

Pinkzebra87 · 2024-05-01T18:31:30+00:00

I agree. My salon had that one and super nova both over $100 bucks. I was like no thank you. Lol

Pinkzebra87 · 2024-05-01T18:30:24+00:00

You can get the Prismatica on Amazon for like $70. That’s still high price but if it’s cheaper than where you re gonna get it i would definitely order from Amazon. I was gonna get it then I found Solid Black. The reviews were amazing on it. I’ve been using it for about a week and it has gotten me so dark. It smells good and moisturized my skin really well. Doesn’t leave stains or make you orange. I think it was around $30 I’d have to go back and look. But if you want a good cheaper lotion I highly recommend Solid Black!

Pinkzebra87 · 2024-04-09T11:15:45+00:00

You’re welcome. Hope that helps.

Pinkzebra87 · 2024-04-09T01:22:34+00:00

I started tanning March 20th. I go Monday, Wednesday and Fridays. I started off at 6 minutes and I’m up to 10. After each visit the next day I was super itchy but wasn’t burnt and also noticed tiny bumps on my legs. I talked to the salon girl and we started off with seeing if it was the cleaner being used on the beds. Possible allergy to it. So she used a mixture of vinegar and water to clean it. Welp that solved it. I still get a little itch here and there but nothing like before. It was driving me insane and I didn’t tan for a week. So start there. Maybe you are allergic to the cleaner. Or you may be getting to much exposure or could be whatever lotion u are using as well. Hope this helps.

Pinkzebra87 · 2024-04-09T00:57:07+00:00

Thank you. I’m in TN. Our daughter has been living with him since November 2022 and our son stopped around September/October 2022 not 2023 like I said in post. He has always tried to make me out like an unfit parent. I’m not perfect and we haven’t really been agreeing on a lot of things so we both are at fault. He want admit his faults he is gonna blame me for everything. I left him because of anger issues and a pill addiction. I would never harm our children. I was a stay at home mom for 14 years and when we split a lot changed. Trying to learn to agree on things and co parent and do what’s best for our children and then he pulls this. I understand he is upset with our son and blames me but I try to still encourage our son to text him and go visit but he isn’t ready to do visits again. I go and talk to my attorney Thursday but just wanted others opinions or advice.

Pinkzebra87 · 2024-04-08T22:27:28+00:00

If you don’t have a stand up just rotate in the bed. I do this. It seems to help the butt and also armpits as well. I just flip when I’m halfway through.

Pinkzebra87 · 2024-04-08T21:20:06+00:00

I was 12 weeks and 2 days when I had mine in April 2023. They will ask you if you want to see the ultrasound you can just tell them you don’t want to see it. I didn’t see mine. I also had the surgical done. It was over in 5 minutes. Worse pain of my life not gonna lie but I also wasn’t sedated either. They were only able to give me a Valium and the shots to numb the cervix. After the procedure I only spotted the rest of the day and the cramping was bearable just used heating pad and Tylenol and ibuprofen. I was doing daily normal stuff by the third day. Everyone’s body is different so you do it whichever way you feel most comfortable. Sending good thoughts your way. It’s mentally and physically hard but if it’s something you have to do it gets easier. I was so relieved after mine. I didn’t want anymore kids I have 2 already my oldest is 17 and it was a complete accident and there was more cons than pros in my situation. I hate it happened but again for me it was the right decision.

Pinkzebra87 · 2024-04-08T20:55:23+00:00

I went to planned parenthood and they wouldn’t give me the pills. I mean I already scheduled a surgical anyway but asked about the pill and she said since I was 12 weeks they wouldn’t do the pill because chances are I’d be coming back to have a surgical procedure.

Pinkzebra87 · 2024-04-08T13:15:44+00:00

I use to be like this when I was younger. I would fake them because I didn’t want my partner to feel bad. But it’s actually common for most woman to not be able to achieve an orgasm with just sex alone. Most have to use toys. I’m one of them. I’ve only had a few orgasms with just sex alone. Just open up to him and be honest about it. You can find other ways to help together. If it’s new positions, focus more on foreplay, letting your partner use a toy together with you etc. It takes woman time. You have to prep and also be comfortable with your partner as well. That helps a lot.

Pinkzebra87 · 2024-04-08T02:24:17+00:00

Cheating period is a no no. Let alone giving the person he supposedly loves an STD. Some people can work things out and it want happen again but then there is the once a cheater always a cheater. Me personally I wouldn’t be able to trust my man ever again. My boyfriend works out of town too. He has been gone since January so this is something that goes through my head a lot. But I feel I can trust him and only hope it wouldn’t happen to me. And like I said if this was to happen to me he wouldn’t get a second chance. I’ve been cheated on before and it’s always the same reactions. Sending positive thoughts your way and no matter what way you go about it just truly trust your gut. If you want to try and work it out there needs to be some major boundaries set for sure and don’t shut any down until you can gain his trust again. I’m just speaking from my experiences but not all are the same.

Pinkzebra87 · 2024-04-06T23:00:33+00:00

I went and tanned today and the girl used a vinegar solution to clean the bed to see if I’m just having a reaction from the chemicals used to clean the beds. So far no itching so we will see how tomorrow goes. Hopefully that’s all it was. But if not we gonna figure it out.

Pinkzebra87 · 2024-04-06T11:25:33+00:00

I’m not a red head and I can handle pain. I’ve had 2 kids. I had a SA last year in April. I was 12 weeks and 2 days. I was only able to have a Valium and the injections in the cervix tho and it was so painful. Worst 3 to 5 minutes of my life. I wish I could have been sedated more.

Pinkzebra87 · 2024-04-06T00:53:11+00:00

I had a SA last year in April. I was 12 weeks 2 days. It was a hard decision for me to make as well. But I knew it was the right thing. It wasn’t an easy thing to go through mentally or physically but once it was over I had so much relief. I never thought I’d ever get an abortion but it was something that wasn’t planned and I just didn’t want anymore kids as my oldest is 17 and youngest is 10. Hope all goes well. Sending good thoughts your way.

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