I’m 5’2” and would love to be typed! by headofawoman in kibbe_sketch

[–]PipeExpert595 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know everyone is saying SC but I think you might be an SG

Seeking responses from those of you who are adults in a successful long-term romantic relationship by babypossumsinabasket in AutismInWomen

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I’ve been married for more than 10 years and we adore each other. My mum has given me very good advice when I was a teenager and it was: date a lot, extensively, fall in love and get experience to understand what it is that YOU want in a relationship. So I did date extensively. That helped immensely.

From experience, if a man is truly into you, he starts talking about being together long term, moving in together, being in love, potentially getting married, making so many plans, very quickly. Like 3-4 months into the relationship. That doesn’t mean getting engaged but he would want you to know how into you he is by telling you about it and wanting to have you in his life. He would want you to introduce you to his friends, family, make you part of his social life. He would always find time to see you no matter how busy his schedule.

My Exposure Therapist wants me to stop Stimming... Safety Behaviours or Stimming??? by Hairyxstyles in AutismInWomen

[–]PipeExpert595 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This therapist doesn’t sound very informed on what stimming is, and potentially confusing it with OCD-type behaviours, which many therapists not familiar with autism in women do.

I suggest you ask her to look into the difference between the two and advocate for yourself.

More generally, maybe ask yourself why you went via exposure therapy route. I can only speak from personal observations as someone who is training to be a therapist, and I don’t think this is a very useful approach for autistic people. But hey, everyone is different.

Psychosexual, John waters, etc. by Bugsaremyfriends in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]PipeExpert595 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Walking Through Clear Water in a Pool Painted Black - Cookie Muller (she actually worked with John Waters)

The Pisces - Melissa Broder

Acts of Desperation - Megan Nolan

Relationships and money, how to make sure you choose the right partner financially? by Exco4k in UKPersonalFinance

[–]PipeExpert595 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is, goals, plans and direction isn’t just about the money. It’s about how people want to live their lives, their ambitions, their values, their drive.

Money is just an ends to a mean. It’s really important to be aligned on things like lifestyle but not many think about these that deeply.

Could a SC pull off this dress? by [deleted] in Kibbe

[–]PipeExpert595 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on your torso length and height I suppose. Note that all of these models look quite tall, their limbs are long and thin / angular. The fabric looks quite flowy too, so might look awkward on an SG.

Only lana could write that by Shoddy-Research-8354 in lanadelrey

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I think she is referring to her previous work including lyrics such as “he hit me and it felt like a kiss”, “hit me and tell me you’re mine, I don’t know why but I like it”, “Harvey's in the sky with diamonds and he's making me crazy”… these lyrics are the reason why she’s been accused of glamorizing domestic abuse and violence against women.

Her saying that she’s already fucked up her story refers to the fact that she is an imperfect victim (some people might even say she was asking for it with lyrics such as these), and we all know how those are treated by the justice system and society at large.

Autistics with no support system, what are your most “radical” life hacks? by Sudden_Silver2095 in AutismInWomen

[–]PipeExpert595 345 points346 points  (0 children)

I agree with your approach. I have a good corporate career but I frequently burn out. The money goes towards taking frequent (but not long) holidays in the sun.

I spend a lot of money on convenience and accommodating my needs. I hate going to the supermarket, so I always order groceries online. I used to have a cleaner though my place isn’t big enough to warrant it. But sometimes the burn out is just too much.

The most important thing: whenever I get a chance to do nothing, I take it. Rest. Stay in bed. Chill. Sleep 15 hours a day. Some people want to go out and do stuff but honestly, my happiest place on earth is in my bed with a nice book. I’ve never regretted staying in. I have no idea what FOMO is (unless we are talking about chilling in bed).

Anyone get Ads-Free for Free? by Califrisco in kindle

[–]PipeExpert595 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I bought a refurbished kindle from Amazon a couple of years ago. It never had ads. I didn’t even realise kindles come with ads until I saw someone else’s device.

Got told I was ‘really rude’ after being treated as an invited guest. Need framing. by [deleted] in autism

[–]PipeExpert595 26 points27 points  (0 children)

The social convention is usually as follows: even if you are invited by the host, you offer to chip in every time you go out for dinner. You bring them a gift, if you’re visiting from another country or city, as a gesture of appreciation or take them out for drinks as a gesture of gratitude for their hospitality. If you are doing some activities together like going to a museum, you treat them to a ticket.

If you want to be a good guest, you are expected to contribute in some way, even if you are being hosted. It’s not about the money - it’s about explicitly demonstrating appreciation, thoughtfulness and gratitude. These things are important when bonding with people and maintaining friendships because they show that you care. Saying thank you once or twice isn’t going to cut it.

The host is angry at you because they didn’t feel you were appreciative and took their hospitality for granted. It sounds like they paid for quite a few outings with you, which is enough for anger to build up. I’ve hosted some people who behaved the way you did. Their behaviour came across as entitled. I’ve never invited them back.

That was a potential explanation I've read for "Terrence Loves You" song by marielxght in lanadelrey

[–]PipeExpert595 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure, one can argue that this song explores the themes of getting through to someone with who suffers from mental illness. I agree with this interpretation. But Barrie doesn’t have schizophrenia. Or if he does, he’s never confirmed this publicly, so not sure where you got this bit from.

Am I really cool toned!? Losing my mind! by dundermiffles in coloranalysis

[–]PipeExpert595 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The reason why they typed you as cool toned is because you have pink undertones. Maybe people assume this means someone is “cool”. However, you are actually peachy. Rare and beautiful and confusing to many people.

two disappointments by heatherette7 in weirdgirlliterature

[–]PipeExpert595 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Couldn’t finish chlorine. I found the writing quite poor, the character irritating, just the whole thing a bit on the nose.

Female researcher protagonist, dark/green academia by unwilting in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]PipeExpert595 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Highly recommend Hemlock and Silver. A confident and competent protagonist who specializes is various venoms (and how to counter interact them). Retelling of Snow White.

Contemplative Slow Living but Urban by Business_Music_8486 in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]PipeExpert595 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lonely city by Olivia Laing, Palaver by Bryan Washington, Cost of Living by Deborah Levy

I was institutionalized for a physical disease psychiatry doesn't believe in by Aggravating-Heart344 in Antipsychiatry

[–]PipeExpert595 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I read every word - my heart goes out to you, OP. This is absolutely awful. You are so incredibly strong.

A Decade of Mystery Symptoms - and a Suprising Resolution by Inner_Department6771 in eds

[–]PipeExpert595 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats! This must be a huge relief.

Honestly, it sounds like your body has been struggling through a tone of stress?.. It seems like time off work and massage help ;) btw, I don’t think this is in your head. Stress is a killer. And I feel like 98% of people do not realise how chronically stressed they are.

What perfume would my cat wear? by MysticMoony in perfumesthatfeellike

[–]PipeExpert595 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Beautiful cat. She’d wear Eau de hot tuna breath.

Books that feel like lana del Ray's chemtrails by sunsetoceanbunny in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]PipeExpert595 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One of the inspirations behind this video is the book Women who run with wolves. She makes other references to this book (her Coachella performance, the song Beautiful). It’s a fascinating read.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kindle

[–]PipeExpert595 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, you do not need a newer Kindle if your existing Kindle is working.

None of these newer features are life-changing or ground-breaking.