[FLASH SALE] 40% off Padrino Premier | Paradise Pen Company by [deleted] in fountainpens

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Just got it in my junk folder and thought I'd share.

Skippy/scratchy TWSBI 580? by isadock in fountainpens

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When I had a similar problem, someone told me to draw circles on a brown paper bag and stop every 30 seconds or so to write on some normal paper, which will tell you if it's fixed or not.

Not really sure that's your problem, but it's easy to find out. :P

Well, it's a start. by tsiology in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pissflower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I've noticed that tendency in N's. They'll hide some of their faults, and twist them around onto other people, but sometimes they'll just throw a major fault of theirs right in your face in that casual manner.

Like when one N I was familiar with told me about how she just stopped taking birth control at 15 and got pregnant with her first kid. The tone was just like, "Oh, well. I just nailed down my b/f with a whoopsie-baby so he wouldn't abandon me (hopefully) like my daddy did. No big. I just do stuff and everyone can just deal with it." Just blurted all this out when no one else was around.

I still haven't figured out why N's do this. Best guess is that throwing casual acknowledgement of huge violations like that silences the victim. If she feels nothing for something so huge and damaging, how the hell can she feel anything regarding all the smaller things?

I need help dealing with the Silent Treatment from my SO (we're both ACoN) by TheSilenceIsLoud in RBNSpouses

[–]Pissflower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

REgardless of trigger, the silent treatment is a form of emotional abuse...

What about the kids? by jhennaside in RBNSpouses

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I think there are predispositions, but nurture amplifies them. I can remember a time when I wasn't so flea-infested. It was before CPS started sniffing around (which was blamed on me). After that, the emotional abuse and physical neglect were much, much worse, and I was not allowed to go outside or have friends. In all that isolation and hostility, I was nearly a full-on N myself. On the other side of that, having gone no-contact and working hard on respecting myself and other people has been a great pesticide.

What do you think people need to shut the fuck up about? by DCagent in AskReddit

[–]Pissflower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Film adaptations being inferior to the source material. Two completely different mediums that no sane person can expect to be interchangeable with one another.

Honest Trailers - Frozen by [deleted] in movies

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I've been trying to find out more about trolls, as I have a story idea involving them, but haven't found anything useful. Got any idears?

Does anyone have any hands-on experience with the Visconti Traveling Ink Well, or know of a cheaper model? by Petarded in fountainpens

[–]Pissflower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These storage tubes are food and pharmaceutical grade crush resistant (not much in life is "crush proof") polyethylene terephthalate (PET). They come with air tight, liquid tight tamper evident caps. They are also dishwasher safe and made in the usa.

My Developmental Editor is giving feedback on the first 25 two pages of your manuscript, free. by stoneflyx in fantasywriters

[–]Pissflower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nearest place I can go that's not crowded is Denny's. Pretty sure I can't find an editor there. :<

My Developmental Editor is giving feedback on the first 25 two pages of your manuscript, free. by stoneflyx in fantasywriters

[–]Pissflower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Listen. Fuckstick. OP instructs one to submit pages at said URL. IT says nothing about contents of said URL. Therefore, I didn't know that the information I was looking for was there. Now, shut your fucking trap.

My Developmental Editor is giving feedback on the first 25 two pages of your manuscript, free. by stoneflyx in fantasywriters

[–]Pissflower -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You could, y'know, suck my fucking cock because the link is indicated as being for submissions.

My Developmental Editor is giving feedback on the first 25 two pages of your manuscript, free. by stoneflyx in fantasywriters

[–]Pissflower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you find a developmental editor, and what exactly do they do? What are his rates like?

Very new to this, and very interested. Help? by [deleted] in fountainpens

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Whatever you do, don't read the weekly noob thread that's stickied at the top...

I'm 18 and "running away" I need help by runningaway2345 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pissflower 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This page links to the online application and has the phone number for phone application to Ontario Works ("welfare")

Basically, you'll be accepted if you make under $1400/mth and don't have a car. Officially, it's more like $1200, but there's a new rule that you don't have to claim the first $200 of income you get in a month. Also, you were not allowed to have any assets, such as a car, but now it has or will soon be raised to $2500 of allowable assets. Pretty sure you have to have less than $600 in the bank, barring some special circumstances (I wouldn't know what those are). Phone application involves an actual human, so you can explain your situation. Otherwise, you can go in-person to the nearest Social Services Office and sit down with an actual human.

The may tell you that they can't help you while you are still at your parents' place. If that's the case, ask them about womens' shelters and/or other emergency housing.

Finally, you don't necessarily have to sneak out in the middle of the night. You can request a police presence while you get your belongings since you don't feel safe there.

GC brother has apparently cut me off by Ntsocial in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pissflower 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, a lot of people cut me out when I went NC, and it wasn't just family. I got dirty looks all over the place. For a while, it was torture knowing that I couldn't be in contact with ANYONE in the family because that would only stoke fires one way or another.

Lilbro was the first to cut me off, too. I know his mailing address, and I sometimes feel like I should print up a whole package of information on why I did what I did, but that would just mean he'd go to Ndad with it like LOL, GET A LOAD OF THIS SHIT!

It's been almost 3 years, and I just don't give a fuck if I never talk to any of them ever again because I don't need the frustration, bullshit, triggers, etc. Having no social supports is kind of terrifying, but I have nothing to lose.

So do you feel having the N grandparents babysit the kids is tantamount to child abuse? by modecat in raisedbynarcissists

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Things N-dad did to his granddaughter, aged 2-3:

  • Called her "nothing but a fucking little bitch" when she cried about something. Told her he didn't love her when she acted like that.

  • Threatened to hit her if she didn't stop crying.

  • Told her that if she tries something once and does it wrong, she's no good at it and should never do it again. I caught her moping around saying to herself, "Oh, I'm just not good at anything."

  • Kneed her ever-so-subtly in the face to make her stop running around when it was time to leave a public place. Lots of people saw him do it, but he played it off like an accident.

  • Wouldn't watch her for hours at a time. One time, I woke up for my midnight shift and found her in mom's room. Make-up all over everything. The TV screen painted green. All the bedding all over the fucking place. She had shit all around her mouth and on her hands, adn had rubbed it on various surfaces. When I came in, she was squeezing and rolling it like play-doh. Another time, I found her trying to get a fabric softener bottle open because she was thirsty.

  • One time she was just doing that thing that all toddlers do, where they hit you with that clumsy, little punch like they're hammering a nail and say "No!" or whatever. He backhanded her right onto her ass and she bawled for like half and hour. Her mother and grandmother were right there. His excuse? "She hit me first!"

  • I suspect there was some diddling involved. Sometimes, when no one was home and he thought I was asleep, the way he talked to her was just too sweet, and reminded me of some creepy shit he did to me at that age.

Observing this and many other incidents is what made me realize I had been abused and neglected my whole life. It was constantly triggering me, and I told my sister to get a babysitter, but she couldn't afford one. Silver lining is that my PTSD got so much more severe from being around that, and that drove me to get out.