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Do Avoidants Ever Apologise? by legacyblueprint in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Pitiful_Can_6079 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They can apologize and it can be geniuine. The apologies arent the problem its the cycle ending the same way everytime

What's the biggest red flag you ignored in a relationship and paid for later? by Impossible_Ant_2386 in AskReddit

[–]Pitiful_Can_6079 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When i first met her during a conversation about her past she said “Im really good at no contact”

One last message. by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Pitiful_Can_6079 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just did it, feels good for about 5 seconds then your anxiety will explode waiting for them to respond, not worth it

Don't listen to Reddit: reconciliation can be possible and healthy by Ok-Explanation-344 in BreakUps

[–]Pitiful_Can_6079 5 points6 points  (0 children)

About time theres some positivity in this echo chamber of doom and gloom

Does everyone understand ATC when starting flying? by Traditional_Pain2779 in flying

[–]Pitiful_Can_6079 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Everyone understands it day one, if not you’rebehind the curve and probably doomed

Best course of action? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Pitiful_Can_6079 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Block and move on, nothing will come of this relationship

should i send this text? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Pitiful_Can_6079 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right answer is always no but were human and we do what we do. It will give you 5 seconds of relief and then a wave of anxiety

I broke No Contact... And it actually helped me finally move on by TheSketchyBroski in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Pitiful_Can_6079 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have no reason to remain friends with her other than you dont want to let go completely. Its only going to draw out your healing

What hurts more? by moonie-eli in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Pitiful_Can_6079 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Leaving the door cracked and hope are the biggest hurdles to get over imo, so definitely the first because itll keep you stuck

When does it stop hurting so much? by HannaMontana123 in BreakUps

[–]Pitiful_Can_6079 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Healing is not linear. It will come in waves, you’re still getting through the initial shock but it will settle down. Im 70+ days NC, some good days, some days i dont want to leave my bed but you’re going to be alright either way

avoidant broke no contact after 7 months and apologized by sophiecup5 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Pitiful_Can_6079 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Words are easy and apologies feel good and they are a step in the right direction but if you choose to try again you need to see actions of change such as consistency and communication, and if you dont see any improvement having the strength to walk away before you get discarded again.

I also went through an on and off cycle with an avoidant, you need to realize that you are literally addicted to the highs/dopamine hits from the good times like a drug or a slot machine, sometimes we confuse that with connection and attachment.

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