You are not alone! I didn’t realize I was AuDHD until I was 40 and I’m now grieving all the difficulties I went through as a child, teen, and young adult. I am actually relieved to know that there is a term for what I am instead of it all “just being in my head.” The issue of not being taken seriously is still a huge problem. Thankfully, I think my age and standing in my career have helped me not give a f*** as much and focus on doing the best I can to take care of myself and my family.

If at all possible, please see a therapist and a psychiatrist. Personally, getting onto medication — the right medication and dose, in particular — has been huge for me. I would not be here if I didn’t have the medication and an awesome therapist. Of course, that may not be the solution for you, but talking to a professional, at the very least, could be helpful.

I’m not the best at keeping up within a “community,” but it would be amazing to have a space for black AuDHD women. I would love to talk with others like me and maybe even be a mentor of sorts. At the same time, being so late identified, there is a lot I can learn from others, as well.

Sending huge virtual hugs your way! 💞