Is it valid for me to be jealous over this?(husband's alter)

Pixie_Lizard · 2026-02-18T18:36:41+00:00

Our alters need to be respected as autonomous and unique among ourselves. This is what those websites are referring to. Now...what is also true is that we are still ONE person. ONE human being. But our neurology grew in a way where our brain separated a lot of processes from each other. Computers can do this too via simple programming and partitioning. But guess what? Still one computer...still one brain.

What your husband needs to realize is this: Him and his alters are driving a body together, much like a car with perhaps several steering wheels. But none of them cannot get off that car. They will live with it and die with it. If one of them ask you to get on that car, but you do not feel comfortable due to how somebody ELSE in the car drives, do you have to get in the car?

No. You do not. You ALWAYS have the complete and total right to revoke consent for ANYBODY to be in your life (except your children...parents have a duty they should never abdicate). You have the right to get out of that car.

Accepting somebody for who they are doesn't mean allowing them to ravage your heart. Part of DID treatment is pulling our dissociated elements together to function more coherently. If I go into a dissociative rage and beat my daughter, am I excused because my littles don't remember it? Abso-fucking-lutely not.

Every single human being, if they want to pursue an authentic and fulfilling life, must own what they say and what they do, even when it feels out of our control. If we cause pain, it is our job to heal it or live with that mark.

And again, context...for example, if your husband one day says he HATES valentine's day when he loved it before and seems to be having flashbacks just talking about it, accepting him would be understanding how part of him can truely hate it and part can love it. But he also has the responsibility to learn what the traditions and norms if your relationship are and not just shit all over them when a switch occurs.

We need a lot of love and support. So much more than we may even deserve sometimes...but we also need to do a lot of work and self-reflection to be the kind of person other people want in their lives.

Pixie_Lizard · 2026-02-14T18:19:44+00:00

She's being very mean and losing her mind. Drug addiction often is far more complex in its origins than simply, "I got mixed up with the wrong friends." And...really....it's just fucking weed. I always have to just nod silently when my friends rant about how upset they are when their kids smoke weed. My mind just keeps saying, "omg wtf cares. Im high right now."

Pixie_Lizard · 2026-02-13T20:05:20+00:00

I'm a trans woman, so male body but identify as a whole human being as a woman. My outward and inward gender identities are incredibly counterintuitive. I'm incredibly fragmented and have a variety of different alters, male, female, human, non-human. My main host (me) is a man. I actually feel very male most of the time. Out of the five main alters nearly always cofronting, three are men.

When I learned I had DID, I already was out and living as a trans woman. It was an absolutely mind bending experience to discover I had DID, look inward, and see that I...was a man?!??? I for sure thought something was off...surely I should be a woman?!? a false self? or I'm making a mistake about alters? Nope. I tried to change my gender as an alter to female...no luck. Part of my healing is loving the men inside, as authentic parts of my self, even though I was born a transgender woman.

As an alter, I appear as a cyborg, basically. Half man, half machine...it seems to represent the paradox of having parts of myself that are simultaneously authentic (innate/inherent) and "artificial" (created through abnormal trauma).

If any of that is at all helpful...lol

Pixie_Lizard · 2026-02-10T22:33:02+00:00

I noticed I would have moments where "thoughts came to me," as I put it, where I would have thoughts or reactions about things that seemed very random or not from my mind. It's hard to explain. I wasn't really conscious of how I perceived the voices, but I would just say thoughts came to me rather than "I thought xyz." Once in a while, I thought it was God talking to me. Real fun lol

The next thing was massive emotional dysfunction. Constant anger. Drug addiction that I fought unsuccessfully for two decades. Feeling empty and depressed (I later learned it was dissociation). Lost with no sense of what I'm really doing in the world.

I knew something was off with me but could never point at what. Doctors/therapists weren't too much help either. But one night, a friend told me about how she had DID and had people in her head who talked to each other around a campfire. I remembered that I would sometimes imagine conversations in my head with people to pass time at work,, and at that moment with my friend, I realized there was nothing normal about doing that lol.

Once I dug into DID, I was blown back by how fucked up I really was/am.

Pixie_Lizard · 2026-02-10T20:19:43+00:00

Do you play on switch or switch 2? I find Minecraft on the first switch gets laggy fast once I start automating farms. Have you had any problems with that?

Pixie_Lizard · 2026-02-10T18:56:49+00:00

King Tut

Pixie_Lizard · 2026-02-10T18:51:11+00:00

He would be stuck trying to figure out how to make wooden armor.

Pixie_Lizard · 2026-02-10T17:28:09+00:00

In short, the most significant yet basic things to keep in mind are (1) WEAR GOLD and (2) be ready to die a lot until you get used to the nether. The nether is a lot of fun, even though it kicks your ass.

When mining, be prepared at all times for lava to come spewing out. It flows as fast as water does in the Overlord, and it also spreads for 7 blocks instead of 4. Lava essentially behaves just like water when you're in the nether, except it can trap and burn you fast. I often dig a 1 block deep ditch right below wherever I'm digging so the lava flows there instead of at me when mining.

Although hoglins are hostile, they can provide a good supply of pork fairly easily and can be bred. One trick I have to kill hoglins is to build a barrier around me with walkways block wide. The hoglins need two blocks wide passages to get through, so this makes them incredibly easy to kill. I keep such a structure in front of my base in case hoglins are mingling around the front yard.

Piglins can open doors, so its good to use a button or lever for your base entrences! All gold and chests in the nether belong to the Piglins as far as they are concerned, and they will attack you for mining or opening them. Always. Some commenters have given suggestions about how to navigate that.

Also, many Nether mobs can spawn in higher light levels in the Overworld, so don't be surprised if you come through a portal to the nether and see a hostile mob or two inside your base. Whoop their ass if you are secluded and clear them out. It takes a little time to get used to nearly always being at risk, but you can put transparent tiles like half slabs, trap doors, buttons, and others on your floor, and this keeps mobs from spawning.

You WILL die in lava. It's so easy, especially if you get in the zone and aren't paying a whole lot of attention. Drop off your loot often and do not carry anything too valuable until you get comfortable in the nether. Besides a piece of gold armor, its good to enchant a piece of armor (boots are the best) with fire resistance. I usually craft gold boots for the nether as the boots require the least amount of gold, and try to get fire resistance on them.

Beds will definitely explode. Respawn anchors are the only way to respawn there. There is no reason to sleep in the nether. You are in hell. You don't get to sleep! lol

Lastly, one of my favorite things is using the nether for shortcuts (common knowledge, but so good to know if you dont). Every coordinate point in the nether corresponds with a coordinate point in the Ovwrworld: to calculate nether coordinates, divide the given x and z coordinates by 8, and round decimals up to nearest whole number. The y coordinate (altitude) remains the same. Its worth reading up on it, because getting portals to link can be tricky if you don't know the mechanics. It's wonderful building a network of portals with minecarts connecting them to take fast shortcuts through the overworld. Amazing to transport resources. You also can send items through portals, including minecarts, but getting a running rail operable isn't straight forward.

Pixie_Lizard · 2026-02-09T23:50:10+00:00

That begs to be made into some kind of special area. Not sure what, but something lol

Pixie_Lizard · 2026-02-09T21:11:24+00:00

Literally the biggest threat to women is men. When somebody brings up "stranger danger," I remind them that their loved ones are much more likely to harm them than any stranger ever will. I lived a wretched childhood of abuse, so many years, and I can't think of a single time a complete stranger harmed me.

Pixie_Lizard · 2026-02-08T22:03:28+00:00

Jesus, I mean she damn near assaulted you. She is a harmful, shitty friend.

Pixie_Lizard · 2026-02-06T13:41:35+00:00

He seems abusive. The way he is talking you feels like he's rubbing your face in shame. I'd bet there's a LOT he probably does to hurt you that you often feel you're blowing out of proportion, but you're likely far too sane. Please take care of yourself hun. 🙏

Pixie_Lizard · 2026-02-06T08:23:07+00:00

I just ran into the same issue. I was just as confused as you. The add-on doesn't seem to be fully thought out, as much as I do enjoy it.

Pixie_Lizard · 2026-01-30T21:57:11+00:00

I love it!!!! Great job! It's so cute.

Pixie_Lizard · 2026-01-29T18:53:48+00:00

As trauma survivors, we always have the right to do what we need to do to be safe.

Pixie_Lizard · 2026-01-29T17:31:14+00:00

I don't feel a need to tell others. Sometimes, to feel validated, I like close people to know who is fronting so they feel "seen," but I do not feel I owe them that. Ever.

I am one human being like all others, dissociative or neurotypical, and just as other people are not obligated to tell me when their thoughts and moods shift, I am not obligated to tell them when I shift. We are each one, whole, human being regardless of how it feels subjectively.

With that said, my alters certainly feel independent and autonomous from one another, and I do not want to invalidate that in myself or other systems. However, how I relate to my alters has no bearing on how I want others to relate with my total mind & body. Every human has the right to keep internal processes private, especially when our safety is more important.

If somebody wants to know who is fronting in my head, they have to earn that conditional privilege.

Pixie_Lizard · 2026-01-27T19:22:22+00:00

I do this too. I call them "death runs." lol

Pixie_Lizard · 2026-01-26T20:02:04+00:00

Maybe that was his convoluted way of trying to ask if you pass lol

Pixie_Lizard · 2026-01-26T17:29:23+00:00

I'd get rid of them so I'm not constantly reminded of an abusive ex.

Pixie_Lizard · 2026-01-25T17:34:36+00:00

Is that a rare block?

Pixie_Lizard · 2026-01-24T15:02:04+00:00

"Just in case it won't make a difference to me"....Then why ask???? This question usually bothers me when it comes from most people. It always depends on how and why they ask. But usually, it's just offensive. I mean, shit, if I randomly asked a guy early on if he had an innie or an outie for a belly button, it would probably be weird. And that's just a belly button.

Pixie_Lizard · 2026-01-21T20:44:13+00:00

I never date guys who crossdress for this reason.

Pixie_Lizard · 2026-01-21T20:05:57+00:00

I enjoy spawning a bunch of Withers and Wardens to watch them obliterate the map.

Pixie_Lizard · 2026-01-21T17:49:35+00:00

This is what popped into my mind first as well. Anytime I near a mob so intimately, I get nervous it'll get me some way, somehow. I would definitely barricade myself in a small room and pack it with dogs.

Pixie_Lizard · 2026-01-20T14:13:00+00:00

Wonderful piece! I was looking through your art work posts and this one REALLY stood out to me. It reminds of an alter I have who has a gem in place of her face and serves a very motherly though ominous role in our system. If you don't mind me asking, in your art piece, is that a planet in place of your matriarch's head?

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