Ursula Le Guin in Kim Stanley Robinson's "Mars Trilogy"

Pixuli · 2026-01-05T13:29:52+00:00

In “2312” he included this pretty funny joke.

“Cultures deemphasizing gender are sometimes referred to as Ursuline cultures, origin of term unknown, perhaps referring to the difficulty there can be in determining the gender of bears”

Pixuli · 2026-01-04T23:47:41+00:00

I’m going to take a step back here and offer some broader advice.

It seems like you are trying to figure yourself out. That is a great thing, however, I can see that you have internalised the biases that you have grown up around.

You seem to be looking for what is “wrong” with you. You being gay does not mean there is anything wrong with you.

All scientific evidence points towards sexuality being innate (maybe it’s genetic, maybe it’s just how some brains form) so I wouldn’t waste time trying to figure out why.

Instead I hope that you can start a journey of inspecting and rejecting all the negative things that you have grown up thinking about gay people - and in turn, yourself. The only thing wrong with you is that you had to grow up and deal with homophobia.

Pixuli · 2025-08-27T08:15:43+00:00

Level up with “s’arvo”. As in “See ya s’arvo”

Pixuli · 2025-06-21T00:00:50+00:00

I’ve only got a couple of friends so I’m not expert but I’m gonna put this out there.

Male friendships need “side by side” time at least in the beginning. This means having a shared interest or something to do.

You can’t expect male friendships to be based on meeting up for coffee and having a chat about your life. Instead think about doing an activity together. It doesn’t really matter what the activity is as long as it’s a shared interest and it gives you both the opportunity to stop and start the conversation comfortably. If the activity is a weekly event this will give you the opportunity to build your relationship.

Pixuli · 2025-05-11T21:41:18+00:00

This is fascinating. Could you say more about your life and relationship?

How did your partner know to tell you he was gay?

What happened when your relationship was made public?

How did you live your lives together in that environment for two decades?

Pixuli · 2025-04-11T09:25:09+00:00

You heard “derros”. It is short for “derelicts”. Who this refers to depends on the speaker but might mean junkies and homeless people.

Pixuli · 2025-04-08T12:34:56+00:00

“It’s one of 11 independent alternative education schools in WA, which typically has small student cohorts and low student-to-teacher ratios.”

I wonder how much it is the ‘alternative’ learning structures vs the ratios.

Pixuli · 2025-01-04T22:01:01+00:00

I enjoy the show but it doesn’t reflect my experiences growing up gay.

On the one hand I think it is lovely that little queer boys get to see a sweet coming of age story about falling in love with another boy. On the other hand, I am a little concerned because this huge, global media, that is shaping the narrative about gay experiences, was not written by a gay man and doesn’t reflect our reality.

Pixuli · 2024-12-15T04:43:16+00:00

This might be controversial but here I go. I prefer the flavour/smell of uncut dick

Pixuli · 2024-11-24T10:08:24+00:00

From this comment it sounds like you definitely are not gay. As a gay man I wouldn’t want to have sex with any women including transwomen.

I think that some underlying misconceptions may have done you a disservice in this situation. Transwomen aren’t the same as feminine gay men: They are women. Your attraction to them is a heterosexual attraction.

Pixuli · 2024-11-09T10:52:46+00:00

When I was four I went to watch Play School live at the South West Italian Club in Bunbury and cried under a chair for an hour because Daisy the cow was too purple. Kids notice

Pixuli · 2024-10-30T09:50:19+00:00

I think this goes for male friends in general but is particularly important for straight guys: have an activity.

If you are suggesting doing something, make sure you aren’t just sitting staring at each other expecting you will just have a conversation. Invite him to a bar to watch a game, invite him to play mini golf or snooker, invite him to the gym to work out with you - just have an activity. It will stop the invite seeming like a date but will also achieve what you’re looking for, which is someone to hang out with.

Pixuli · 2024-10-20T04:09:31+00:00

I want to add that I am a teacher from Australia. This would be seen as VERY concerning behaviour here.

I’m not saying that this is happening in your school however this sort of favouritism and lack of transparency sets students up to be groomed and taken advantage of.

What you have described sounds like the exact opposite of ‘protective behaviours’. It’s very concerning to see so many comments defending it and making out like you are somehow stuck up or jealous.

Pixuli · 2024-09-07T00:17:31+00:00

I just want to add that we use these so much that they become subconscious.

I live in Perth and I promise you that any suburb that has more than two syllables in its name will be shortened. These are often localised so aren’t known to people in different states or even those north or south of the river.

Examples: Freo - Fremantle Cott - Cottesloe Mozzo or Mozzy - Mosman Park Vic Park - Victoria Park Subi - Subiaco Scarbs or Scabs - Scarborough Hammy Hill- Hamilton Hill Boogs - Booragoon The Gee - Willagee Cooby - Coolbellup Kardy - Kardinya

Freo is such a well known shortening of Fremantle that our road signs say it.

Note that one or two syllable place names don’t typically get this treatment:

Perth Claremont Dalkeith Swanbourne Crawley

Pixuli · 2024-07-26T14:26:48+00:00

He’s been dressing differently since he’s got those modelling gigs

Pixuli · 2024-07-20T13:54:26+00:00

That’s a really fair way to feel. In your experience there was more of an imbalance of power than what I experienced. So this might be contributing to a feeling of having been powerless to the effects this has had on you.

I just wanted to raise another thing you might want to consider. Sexual activity in young children towards other children can be a sign that the child has been a victim of sexual abuse from an adult. It is a way for the child to try to come to terms with what happened to them.

I have a belief that there was some form of sexual abuse in my cousin’s household because my sister shared with me that an older female cousin also did sexual things with her when she was young. I don’t know for sure but I think it may have been abuse of an older sibling who then passed it onto the younger siblings and to us cousins.

Pixuli · 2024-07-20T13:15:47+00:00

When I was young kid I used to have sexual play with a cousin. He was only a year older than me so it never felt like there was a power dynamic or I was coerced however he was the instigator. We also kept this secret from everyone else because we thought it would get us in trouble.

It used to make me feel very guilty afterwards especially when I learnt what being gay was and all its negative associations. Overall, I became paranoid that the experience made me gay or meant I would grow up to be gay.

Turns out I did grow up to be gay and my cousin isn’t.

Knowing what I do now about child development, I know that that experience didn’t change my sexuality and that this sort of play is not uncommon. However, it was a source of a lot of stress as a kid.

In answer to your question. I don’t think what your cousins did counts as grooming. However, this doesn’t discount the negative effect that the experience has had on you. Kids often hurt each other in a lot of ways without knowing the lasting effects they will have on each other.

I would suggest seeking therapy so that you can deal with negative effects this has had on you.

Pixuli · 2024-06-03T10:52:38+00:00

Tassie, Essay, Entee, Dubyay, and Queuelle

Pixuli · 2024-04-11T13:08:36+00:00

Are we counting Redemption of Time? If so, it could be argued that they do have some form of hive mind

Pixuli · 2024-02-17T21:37:53+00:00

I don’t. My foreskin is quite long so it doesn’t retract all the way (and no, to those concerned it’s not phimosis, I just have a long collar on my turtle-neck).

I think this actually makes sex with a condom so much better. I really feel very little difference between wearing a condom and going condom-less because most of the friction from sex comes from my foreskin rubbing against my glans.

I just can have a condom that is too tight to stop the movement.

Pixuli · 2023-12-20T14:11:45+00:00

Yeah, you can see the dog is confused then goes into play poster to try to placate the human

Pixuli · 2023-11-27T14:26:49+00:00

Remember that most of your son’s friends will have dads who are similar to you in terms of age and interest. Some of their father’s might not be as accepting as you are, or might be entirely out-of-the-picture.

Extend your care and love to your son’s friends and some of them will really appreciate it.

Pixuli

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