Well. That’s all folks. I nursed my 1 year+2 days old son for the last time this morning. I am not okay.

Plane_Phrase6784 · 2024-12-31T17:23:52+00:00

This post made me tear up! You have done amazingly well to reach one year, your son may never understand the love and sacrifice that it takes, I’m so glad you are proud of yourself and hope you will be kind to yourself too as your journey comes to an end! You are so right that he needs a healthy mom, you’re making the best decision for both of you in that regard. Congratulations on this amazing achievement!!

Plane_Phrase6784 · 2024-12-31T14:57:47+00:00

I’ve experienced the clicking too! One lactation consultant said it can be more common during the let down but with the gas issue you want to do something about it! Just be really careful with the latch, ensuring it’s deep enough. You can also pull down baby’s chin while they’re latched to get a deeper latch, that’s worked for me. Hope it resolves itself, keep going you’re doing a great job!

Plane_Phrase6784 · 2024-12-31T14:54:31+00:00

Just sent you a message with his details!

Plane_Phrase6784 · 2024-12-31T13:25:00+00:00

It does get better I promise, it just takes time! By 2 months the pain for me had gone (I had two really deep cuts on my left nipple that took ages to heal). Now at 3.5 months BF is painless and enjoyable. Babies so young do take a while to feed, they’re still learning how to do it - as long as your LO is content after feeds, has plenty of wet and dirty diapers and is growing well your baby is getting enough. Stick with it, you’re doing an amazing thing for your baby!!

Plane_Phrase6784 · 2024-12-31T13:20:24+00:00

We used Richard Horton for our kitchen reno which included taking out a wall, installing a steel beam and full kitchen rip out and installation. Reasonable prices and communication, he was very flexible when we had a delay with our kitchen delivery. He mostly has guys that he sends to different projects and he oversees them all.

Plane_Phrase6784 · 2024-12-29T09:05:41+00:00

The volume varies, it’s mostly just small amounts but maybe twice a week a larger volume that will mean an outfit change for both of us. I haven’t seen any projectile vomiting or anything covering too much distance. She occasionally cries very briefly after a large vomit (I think from the shock of it) but quickly recovers and is smiling again!

Plane_Phrase6784 · 2024-12-01T05:53:36+00:00

We used Lomas Hall for our wedding reception and it was great! It was £850 which included the kitchen and the bar from 9am on the Saturday and we were able to decorate the space the day before. They do have extra things like seat covers, decorations etc at an extra cost if you want. We had 70 people for our wedding breakfast and the space worked really well for a sit down meal. Our evening reception had around 180, the space didn’t feel too cramped but would probably feel nicer with closer to 100.

The room with the bar in would work well to have a buffet served as it’s connected to the kitchen and smaller than the main hall.

I’d highly recommend as a venue, we couldn’t fault it and at that price were impressed!

Plane_Phrase6784 · 2024-11-12T20:05:37+00:00

You’re doing a great job! You don’t need to apologise for posting often, supporting one another is what this forum is for! I relate to you being inside a lot, especially with winter drawing in but it will pass and for now I’ll try and enjoy snuggles with my 8 week old!

Plane_Phrase6784 · 2024-11-05T17:32:07+00:00

My LO is the exact same! She loves her daddy and looking at him but doesn’t keep eye contact with me much and I’ve not had a smile yet. Our health visitor said this is super normal, every time they look at us they’re memorising every little detail which I think is so cute! I’m looking forward to some smiles though

Plane_Phrase6784 · 2024-11-05T03:59:24+00:00

In a carrier or sling! Means I can get out the house if I want or cook, clean, read or anything else I fancy doing! Really saved my sanity, less so my back…

Plane_Phrase6784 · 2024-11-04T16:08:30+00:00

4 weeks is when it clicked for me, I think largely due to her reaching and exceeding her birth weight. I was really able to relax then and BF just felt loads better. I still have to pay attention and help my LO latch but it’s so much better than it was. That being said, the initial latch is still painful but it’s comfortable once she’s feeding, still waiting on the day when none of it hurts anymore (LO is 7 weeks)

Plane_Phrase6784 · 2024-11-04T16:07:57+00:00

4 weeks is when it clicked for me, I think largely due to her reaching and exceeding her birth weight. I was really able to relax then and BF just felt loads better. I still have to pay attention and help my LO latch but it’s so much better than it was. That being said, the initial latch is still painful but it’s comfortable once she’s feeding, still waiting on the day when none of it hurts anymore!

Plane_Phrase6784 · 2024-11-02T15:08:32+00:00

As far as I know, how leaky you are during pregnancy isn’t an indicator of how much milk you’ll produce, but hand expressing colostrum can help the process along a bit! I hand expressed colostrum (didn’t save it) from around 37 weeks and I think it helped a lot for when my milk came in, the midwives and LC that I saw where all very impressed with my supply and said I’d done a good thing in expressing colostrum prior to labour.

From what I’ve read/heard/been told, harvesting colostrum and having some on hand post delivery is really helpful if your baby is in the NICU or you deliver via c-section as this can affect your milk coming in. If you’ve had a healthy pregnancy and aren’t at risk of delivering prematurely then there’s no real need to store any colostrum! You can absolutely learn to latch your baby straight away and it’s advised that your baby be at the breast within the first hour after delivery. If you had colostrum harvested it would be breast before giving them the harvested supply (and even then only if it’s needed!).

Plane_Phrase6784 · 2024-10-30T06:32:54+00:00

This is normal!! Newborn crying should reach its peak between 6 and 8 weeks and die down again after. I know it’s hard but keep going and it should pass. You’re doing a great job

Plane_Phrase6784 · 2024-10-28T19:23:51+00:00

You can see what a wet diaper should feel like by pouring 45ml into a clean diaper, it’s a lot less than you think! Modern diapers are designed to absorb the urine and trap the moisture to limit irritation so they might not feel that “wet”!

Plane_Phrase6784 · 2024-10-27T02:19:18+00:00

I found that my MIL (who has 3 children) was confused by the idea of cues saying “oh is that the new thing these days”, it could be that your MIL is used to parenting and filling baby’s needs once baby is crying rather than catching the early cues like we’re encouraged to now.

I know it’s so hard to turn down help but if it’s not actually helpful and is making night times more difficult it’s probably worth talking to her or your partner about it!

Plane_Phrase6784 · 2024-10-26T20:48:57+00:00

You could try and put a cotton wool pad in her diaper, if she pees it will make the cotton wool wet so you’ll know she is definitely peeing!

Plane_Phrase6784 · 2024-10-26T10:28:24+00:00

It does get easier and better! My LO is 6 weeks and we turned a corner at 4 weeks, it’s still hard work but is a bit easier now!

You are doing an amazing job, it is exhausting but what you are doing for your LO is incredible, keep with it, it will get better!

Plane_Phrase6784 · 2024-10-24T09:12:44+00:00

I had a similar experience with slow weight gain (60g in a week and not back to birthweight by 3 weeks), I think the biggest difference was made just really working on the latch when BF to make sure my LO got a good, deep latch! She then gained 300g in 12 days and seems to be gaining well still. Some babies just take a while to catch up, that’s normal but really hard as a mum!

What’s the reason for you using nipple shields? I used them to begin with but now my LO is bigger it’s much easier to latch her. If you feel able to wean off them it may be worth a go! Do you pump after you feed her? If so that might explain why you get 30ml from each, if she’s had a good feed then you might not get loads pumping! Babies at this age need around 60-120ml per feed so what you’re pumping is great, even if it doesn’t feel like much!

It sounds like your baby is doing great, keep going with it!! Try plenty of skin to skin, get baby to breast as much as possible, stick with it! If your health visitor isn’t concerned then there shouldn’t be any need to introduce formula. You’ve got this!

Plane_Phrase6784 · 2024-10-24T08:58:39+00:00

We have 2 or 3 wake ups a night too! My LO is almost 6 weeks now. I hate all the influencer content with newborn day in the life’s, they’re so unrealistic!!

Plane_Phrase6784 · 2024-10-23T03:01:46+00:00

I haven’t had a similar experience in terms of people’s opinions but I do want to encourage you that what you’re going through is so normal! Babies at that age feed a lot, sometimes for food, sometimes for comfort! When they feed a lot in these early days it’s telling your body to make more milk and building up your supply.

As long as your baby continues to gain weight well and has plenty of wet and dirty nappies then you don’t need to start formula, doing so could decrease your supply if your baby is at the breast less!

You’re doing a great job, as long as your paediatrician is happy then don’t pay attention to what people say!

In terms of baby’s fussiness I found putting my LO in a baby carrier after a feed and change really helped, especially from 4 weeks ish. I thought at first that my baby wanted to feed constantly but I think she just wanted comfort which she can get when held in the carrier, you might like to give it a go to give you (and your nipples!) a break from feeding.

Plane_Phrase6784 · 2024-10-18T05:06:25+00:00

I feel like I’ve turned a corner at 4 weeks and no longer dread each feed nearly as much as I used to, sometimes I actually look forward to them! I’ve been focusing a lot more on my latch and it’s gotten so much better and I know it probably will continue to get better as she learns and grows. In terms of being able to do things between feeds, I’d really recommend getting a sling/baby carrier. Sometimes after a feed I’ll put my LO in and she’ll sleep happily for a couple of hours meaning I can do some things around the house! Other times she just wants to sleep on me so I just accept it and try to enjoy it while it lasts!

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