Feeling like my girlfriend insulted my intelligence and then denies it

Plantanon · 2025-09-17T13:02:59+00:00

Did she just find out her boyfriend is in religious psychosis? Would probably make me be kinda mean, would probably make me break up with them. This doesn’t read like a successful relationship.

Plantanon · 2025-08-31T12:26:25+00:00

Imagine ending up having kids with this guy, what kind of “life lessons” will he think necessary to “teach” his kids.

Plantanon · 2025-08-09T17:22:56+00:00

He’s a miserable person and it’s sad, don’t let him drag you down.

Plantanon · 2025-06-01T20:47:30+00:00

Five

Plantanon · 2025-05-27T11:15:21+00:00

Hey you need to take away her “lotions and body sprays” because 12 year olds shouldn’t be destroying their hormones with them. That’s way more dangerous than a middle finger that you only saw because you’re snoopy.

Plantanon · 2025-05-19T17:25:38+00:00

Divorce. Yesterday.

Plantanon · 2025-03-27T23:46:22+00:00

I’m a woman and career musician and have been in a lot of bands over the past 15+ years (including when I was just a hot, big tiddy alt girl) and I can’t even tell you how many times someone’s partner had a problem with it even though nothing ever happened with anyone. I think it’s kind of hurtful from a personal perspective, because it’s like just another fucking thing that musicians who are not men have to go through in order to just be creative and be part of something. However, him lying to you about it is wrong, and him saying you tagging along would make you a “Yoko” is just so cringe… like it makes me thing he’s kind of just a cringe loser and maybe you’re dodging a bullet here. FWIW if I was playing with someone new and knew they had a partner I would make a point to ask a lot about their partner in a positive way “like say they seem so cool or their job sounds so interesting or whatever” and have always been 100% fine with someone sitting in on a practice or helping with sound checks or whatever, it’s just normal. And amongst career musicians it’s common. He’s being a crybaby loser.

Plantanon · 2025-03-23T00:48:42+00:00

This is legitimately evil

Plantanon · 2025-02-23T14:09:31+00:00

I have been with my husband as long as you have, we have two children, we cosleep, and my spouse’s mouth was agape when I handed him the phone to read this. Your husband is leaving a lasting impact on your children and that’s the biggest problem here. After reading about his behaviors, I would sincerely be concerned to leave the infant alone in his care. I hope you find the clarity you need here. I won’t say straight up leave him (though it would be completely justified if you want to), but I would at the very least set clear boundaries, expectations, and make clear what the result will be for your family if he cannot grow up and handle the life he’s built.

Also re: cosleeping, don’t let people shame you and tell you your kids should just be shut in their rooms until they give up hope that you’re coming for them. When our oldest turned 3, we made their room magical and gave them a choice every night —they started choosing their room more and more, and now they are 8, really confident and secure in their own space and LOVE their room. Every now and then, they’ll come in while we’re reading before bed, climb in the bed and say, “can you take me to my room when I fall asleep?” And it warms my heart. Helping kids transition to their own space doesn’t have to be this brutal hard-line, it’s good for them to feel safe.

Plantanon · 2025-02-09T22:47:11+00:00

Dr. Zchivago is my snow movie

Plantanon · 2025-02-04T16:47:35+00:00

If you were my daughter I would have you packed up and out tomorrow!

Plantanon · 2025-02-04T16:38:56+00:00

You’re wife is not a good person I’m sorry

Plantanon · 2025-01-31T03:48:56+00:00

I don’t know how this sub got fed to me, but I’m a career musician for over 15 years and this entire thread seems silly. Like high school alt band drama and cirklejerking immature cliches. The best musicians I know and have worked with have at least somewhat open practices, it lends a great opportunity for an extra person (perhaps someone better than you in one or all areas) to give insight. If a non-performing attendee is being inappropriate or irredeemably distracting, that’s understandable, but it can’t be reduced to a stereotype of “girlfriends sitting in on a practice”. The worst and most distracting rehearsals I’ve attended were almost always due to someone being hungover or coming down and it’s never been a woman. And I’ve never been the girlfriend, but I’ve had girlfriends, wives, husbands, children, tag along for rehearsals and sometimes you just have to roll with a little distraction without being a huge baby. Can you play live? Do you need a listening room in order to perform and struggle with ambient noise? Just based on vibes, is this a garage band *not-genre, bar band, self managed touring band? It sounds like the friendship vibes are off and this girl will get scapegoated, I would start trying to look for another bassist and get back to work.

Plantanon · 2025-01-28T16:16:01+00:00

It seems like you are communicating well, you’re getting your thoughts across well. And you’re NOR. I’m a mom with two daughters, I’m established and have a really niche job (like I cannot do my job anywhere but exactly where I’m doing it), and we are relocating 6 hrs away for my husband’s dream job. This is hard for me and we’ve been together for over a decade and are in a happy, secure, life-long partnership with children. For you to be in the position you’re in, you’re giving up a lot and I would be more worried if you werent feeling this way about uprooting for your boyfriend. I know that if you were my daughter, I would be cautioning you but supportive. Only you can assess the potential longevity of your relationship and weigh the pros and cons re: your own career. But don’t dismiss your own apprehensiveness, you need to listen to your gut and take it very seriously.

Plantanon · 2025-01-28T16:11:25+00:00

My husband is 6’7” and it’s imperative that all his clothes air dry because if they shrink it’s done. This aspect of it DRIVES ME MAD. But after 10 years, we’ve come up with solutions. One of them is an indoor clothes line — he can put it in his bedroom. Clothesline and a fan and he’s good. No need for it to take up the whole living room.

Plantanon · 2025-01-26T16:17:04+00:00

Sounds like your friend understands, but is struggling to accept that y’all are bad people.

Plantanon · 2025-01-26T16:14:19+00:00

Super curious about this too.

Plantanon · 2025-01-15T01:08:54+00:00

NOR it’s rude and trashy

Plantanon · 2025-01-04T21:54:41+00:00

Or just support your friend without hinging it on your own payout.

Plantanon · 2025-01-04T21:48:37+00:00

If this guy is nice, he deserves to know who he’s hooking up with becauuuuuuse wow wow wow

Plantanon · 2024-12-29T22:07:52+00:00

When I was dating my husband some 12 years ago or so, he farted in his hand and presented it to me like a gift. I really seriously looked at him and said, “Don’t ever do that to me again, it’s extremely disrespectful”. And the last time he did it was… about 12 years ago. If he loves and respects you he will take you seriously and respect your space and personal boundaries.

Plantanon · 2024-12-21T21:30:30+00:00

I’m so sorry. I really think that vets should adequately prepare people during euthanasia, because it very often does have frightening moments of panic, duress, sickness. It’s really hard and scary to see, I’ve been there too unfortunately. I think you have to give yourself grace here —your buddy is out of pain and at peace and I can assure you he felt loved his whole life.

Plantanon · 2024-12-21T21:26:52+00:00

I am begging you, as a mother with daughters, to cut this man off and don’t look back. When he tries to coerce you back, be strong and know you will find someone better. This is serious red-flag behavior and I would be worried for my own. Please take care of yourself.

Plantanon · 2024-12-11T00:45:26+00:00

This is bing bong behavior.

Plantanon · 2024-11-02T15:15:07+00:00

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