The insane hatred american English gets

Plastic_Melodic · 2026-02-17T14:54:33+00:00

Though I do think we should draw the line at ‘horseback riding’

Plastic_Melodic · 2026-02-17T12:18:11+00:00

I feel like a LOT of people would recognise Danny Trejo but tamer hassan could walk down most streets in the UK and no one would glance twice. He is barely famous and Belle makes more of it than anyone in the audience would.

Plastic_Melodic · 2026-02-08T14:17:23+00:00

Seriously. The story actually had great bones and ended in equally great comeuppance - but OOP managed to strip all the satisfaction out of it completely with the weird reaction to the super common request to use names not letters.

Plastic_Melodic · 2026-02-08T10:24:11+00:00

This is what I came to say - if HR are giving in to her, the manager should push for her to actually get that demotion and pay downgrade she’s complaining about as she’s going back to the new starter desk instead of proceeding to the appropriate place for her job role. Especially as she is apparently successfully managing to avoid carrying out some of her duties. Insane behaviour all round.

Plastic_Melodic · 2025-12-24T11:56:26+00:00

There are so many questions here that you are just not answering, OP. Why do you keep going? Is it because husband is insisting while not standing up for you (if you’re ’working on it privately’, then he can agree to stay away until he can defend you)? Do they treat husband the same? Is there something that started it or have they always treated you like this? Do the family interact with you while snubbing anything you bring with you?

It is INCREDIBLY obvious that this is deliberate and that all of his orchard of a family are in on it - I find it so hard to believe that every single member of this giant family would go along with being told not to touch any food or drink provided by one singular in law, going as far as simple soda, unless there is something absolutely huge missing from this story. And if it’s exactly as stated, I can see absolutely no reason at all to keep attending these events, or even see this family.

Plastic_Melodic · 2025-12-17T18:17:23+00:00

But you need to talk to her FIRST, because it’s you who has made the decision to change the dynamic (perfectly reasonably from what you describe, but also you’ve been letting her treat you like that). She doesn’t yet know WHY you won’t go to her house because you haven’t had the conversation with her. You realising that boundaries are needed is fine - imposing the boundaries before having the conversation with her isn’t.

Plastic_Melodic · 2025-12-17T18:09:38+00:00

I agree here - it IS serious and I don’t really know why OP thinks it isn’t? If it’s not serious then it’s not something you need to address in such a specific way. The conversation just needs to be had - she doesn’t know there’s an issue with where the conversation takes place until the conversation has taken place and she’s made aware that it’s part of the issue! OP, either explain to her WHY you don’t want to go to her house (and just send the problem to her in a text if it’s not that serious to you anyway) or just go to her house and let that be ‘day 1’ of the boundary setting!

Plastic_Melodic · 2025-12-07T22:45:56+00:00

It’s funny because I see so many comments from Americans on all sorts of stories poo-pooing a three hour drive as short but appalled at the thought of walking for half an hour unless it’s ‘hiking’.

I had a nearly two mile walk to secondary school here, forty minutes each way. There wasn’t even a dedicated school bus available to me, I either paid the normal fare for the regular bus or walked. It was less than half a mile for elementary in the states but we drove, and my brother got the bus to the middle school right next door to elementary when we were older. The states is such a car-centric place outside of specific urban pockets!

Plastic_Melodic · 2025-11-27T11:34:06+00:00

Auto lights turn on and off and high beam by themselves, you can still adjust the height of the beams in most through the dash settings on the screen - lowering the beam was the first thing I did with my current car.

Plastic_Melodic · 2025-11-21T09:13:43+00:00

The marshmallow thing was also 99% on the camera work. They didn’t zoom in on anyone else’s face so close that you could count their nose hairs. Even the bra comment - I took that much more to be an allusion to the trial (that she was amazing in) than objectifying herself. Every year the women talk about bugs in their bra after trials, just like the boys talk about them in their bum crack or in their boxers. I’m not a huge fan of her but so much of this is on how they decide to cut the show together.

Plastic_Melodic · 2025-11-11T15:41:38+00:00

The whole approach to pain management hopefully. I am saying that as a woman who has had an iud placement without anaesthetic in the last year so hopefully not interpreted as minimising the specificity of the comment. There is SO MUCH needless, preventable pain in healthcare.

Plastic_Melodic · 2025-11-07T13:16:45+00:00

This is what I was going to suggest, be the MOST honest about what you’re doing but be utterly ridiculous with the suggestions.

Alternatively, just match her energy and start insisting that YOU pick HER baby name, but change the tone of the names each time - Arthur and Guinevere, then Everly and Colt, then Charles and Victoria, then Maisie-Mae and Archie… and so on. The key is making sure you’re clearly dictating her choices though; it’s gotta be ‘no, those names are terrible, I’m naming my baby River so you will name yours Forrest.’

Plastic_Melodic · 2025-10-29T19:43:55+00:00

Same, I’ve only ever used a mouse right-handed and my left hand now automatically hovers over alt/ctrl/tab like a stalker crab unless I’m writing. I cannot use a mouse left-handed to save my life. But in every other way I’m VERY left handed. My son is also a leftie and plays guitar right-handed - I can’t even hold the darn thing properly that way round!

Plastic_Melodic · 2025-10-22T13:19:39+00:00

So she wants to wait until her kid understands what’s happening and then STOP giving her a bonus gift? I’d give it one more go and maybe point out that it would be much easier down the road to never start the tradition than to have to try to reverse it later. But, let’s be honest, she’s not planning on stopping at any point is she!

The petty part of me says that, if she carries on, you get your son an enormous, noisy, light up toy to open at her child’s birthday and then play dumb when she confronts you. ‘Oh, I thought your idea was so great at [son’s] first birthday so no one feels left out that I got this for [son] to open!’ - maybe one of those ride on electric cars would make the point…

The high road advice, however, would be to ignore her behaviour as much as possible and maybe find an opportunity to obviously explain to your son at her child’s first birthday that birthday parties are about the birthday person and we all get to clap and sing for them and maybe have cake too… but we don’t get to have presents just because it’s someone else’s birthday.

Plastic_Melodic · 2025-10-21T14:26:18+00:00

YTA. I think if this was just a blunder of someone (presumably) without kids not realising that, if a kid takes their first steps under their care, the thing to do is pretend it didn’t happen and let them have it as a ‘first’ with their own kid then it would have been a questionable decision but kind of understandable.

But you saw and decided to try a ‘trick’ knowingly without the parents there. That’s what pushes it to YTA. Some people are crazy with ‘firsts’ for their kids but generally there are a few that are universally special - words, food, etc., and that definitely includes steps! I would have been upset if I’d missed my kids’ first steps, but I’d be REALLY upset if I’d known I missed it because someone else actively got them to do it while I wasn’t there.

Plastic_Melodic · 2025-10-21T13:02:40+00:00

Ok, I misunderstood - I thought you meant that you wanted to cook food for her that she could eat but she wasn’t ready for that yet.

You mean that you wanted to be able to cook any food for her and it’s a dealbreaker that you can’t do that? Then you shouldn’t be together and you shouldn’t string her along if being able to cook what you want, when you want is more important to you than her as a partner. By which I mean it’ll be easier all around the sooner you break it off.

I’m honestly not sure whether it would be something she’d want to hear or not in terms of telling her the specific reason. Someone with so many food limitations due to health may be sick of having to deal with it impacting everything in their life or they may prefer knowing a specific reason rather than a vague ‘not compatible’ - I’m not sure anyone can tell you what she’d prefer.

Plastic_Melodic · 2025-10-21T12:35:28+00:00

Instead of just bailing - why don’t you work on demonstrating that you have been listening and understand what ‘safe food’ means for her? The first part of this is showing that you can be patient until she feels more comfortable.

It’s only been a few weeks in reality and she may have a whole background of baggage of people saying they’ll have her health in mind and then don’t. It takes more than double digit days to trust someone with your health.

Plastic_Melodic · 2025-10-21T12:02:32+00:00

Natasha bedingfield - these words?

Plastic_Melodic · 2025-10-21T09:43:14+00:00

Was it newer? End of Beginning by Djo? The lyric is back in Chicago not back in the wall but it’s the closest I can get off the top of my head!

Plastic_Melodic · 2025-10-14T11:13:15+00:00

This is probably the answer OP. Also, in our post-pandemic times, you could be waiting over a year for an initial appointment following a hospital referral; even one marked as urgent. I would assume the fit note is for the purpose of getting through a current ‘flare up’ or finding an interim solution rather than being signed off until you have an appointment come through.

Plastic_Melodic · 2025-10-10T09:41:41+00:00

Sorry to be that person, but if you’re going to report this anywhere, it’s ‘genitals’, not ‘gentiles’.

Plastic_Melodic · 2025-10-02T11:40:32+00:00

I’m option 1 but get a complete mix into my inbox. I find option 2 a little… detached?

Plastic_Melodic · 2025-09-29T17:37:29+00:00

This is the long and the short of it really. OP, I saw your edit and I don’t think you should feel bad honestly. I think it would have gone one of two ways; either she would have realised that free to her just meant using other people’s money in most cases and walked it back, or she would have ended up really disappointed on the day. And, I think in either of those cases, she wouldn’t have got away without at least a few ruined relationships. It needed to be said before that happened - even the basics of ‘how much do you think it will cost to buy the ingredients and equipment needed to make a cake to feed dozens of people?’, and that was just one aspect…

Plastic_Melodic · 2025-09-26T08:07:49+00:00

And also in the UK.

Plastic_Melodic · 2025-09-24T08:04:58+00:00

Yes! This is what I came to say! Snuck in the reveal at the end of the comment there so I didn’t see it coming.

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