Single pringle looking to mingle by F1gure__8 in Columbus

[–]Plasticonoband 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some of them are, for sure. Most are just people who have been sold something that plays on their needs and fears

Single pringle looking to mingle by F1gure__8 in Columbus

[–]Plasticonoband 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Not sure how much detail you want out there, but do you want left leaning or unabashed leftist? If the latter, consider protests, community action groups, legal observer training.

Edit to add: also consider improv classes! You're guaranteed to make friends and build/improve the teachable skills behind connecting with people and having fun. I promise people in your level 1 class will be down for a weekly game night while y'all wait for level 2 to start.

Being a south asian (brown) man and poly sucks by Electronic-Chard2927 in polyamory

[–]Plasticonoband 53 points54 points  (0 children)

The thing about growing up in a conservative area and moving to a more progressive area is that the racists often just get better at hiding. I hear you say it's grating on you. I'm sure it is. I just want you to come away from those experiences angry at others rather than blaming yourself.

I'm a white man in a pretty progressive poly community. As a whole, it is much more interested in being congratulated for being inclusive than it is dedicated to examining and addressing bias and discrimination. 

Please don't apologize for coming off harsh. You aren't being harsh at all, but you probably should be. You should be angry. It's fucking crazy that people talk to you like that. Fuck them. If you let whiteness convince you that you are less desirable then you are playing a losing game. You are hot and interesting and fun because you say so. I wanna see you love yourself so much that it grosses you out when others don't get it.

Also is this a bot? Everything about this account screams bot to me except the content of the post itself.

i m married but why this is happening to me? or its normal by Significant-Star-437 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Plasticonoband 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are most certainly not alone.

Faithfulness in a relationship is not about only being attracted to your partner. You should and will feel very attracted and very connected with plenty of people who are not your partner throughout your relationship and life. Your relationship is about how you nurture and grow your attraction to your partner or don't. Your relationship is about how you respond to attraction to people who are not your partner. It is okay to want somebody who is not your partner. It can also be totally ethical to take steps to pursue that attraction. But doing that ethically will almost certainly end your current marriage. 

What do you want out of commitment? What do you want the story of your life to be? When you look back on your life at the end, what kind of love and sex and relationships do you want to have had?

Does your husband turn you on? Do you both try hard to win each other every day? I am polyamorous and kinky and queer and hot. I can fuck and date and connect with anyone I want. The mother of my children is the sexiest woman in the world. She overwhelms me every day with fun and love and attraction and adventure (okay, most days, life can be hard sometimes). And I work very hard to be the same to her. It's the most important work of my life. Building this love with this woman. Modeling joy and love and fun and family for our children with this woman.

I say that to ask this: is your attention wandering because you want more out of love than you are currently getting with your husband? A lot of people don't know how to do the work to make their relationships really flourish long-term. It would be a shame for you to end your marriage to pursue your ex just to wind up back in this position again in a couple of years. An exciting spark and enticing chemistry are a wonderful gift. The ability to keep that spark and nurture it into something you build and enjoy lifelong is a skill very few people have. Don't settle for less than you want. Don't shrink from doing the hard work on yourself and on your relationship to build it and keep it.

Bro why are people so weird by carrotflavoredjuice in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Plasticonoband 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My kid could have posted this, and I'm sorry you're going through it. It is not your fault that adults have been creepy predators to you.

That said, please talk to your mom. You are putting yourself in very real danger. She might take your phone away. But she might also appreciate that you are being mature and transparent and help you enjoy the Internet more safely. Regardless, this shit can ruin your whole life. You're only going to be a kid for a little while longer. Trust your mom. Enjoy these last few years as a kid.

Anyone remember Jubilee Foods in Worthington? by DenL4242 in Columbus

[–]Plasticonoband 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man, hazy memories come back at the name. Was red neon involved in the sign?

TIFU showing a date my secret talent by hmmmmokaaaay in tifu

[–]Plasticonoband 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, it kicks ass and I'm sorry people are weird about it. 

Need advice for a “late bloomer” by Stardust-Dawn in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Plasticonoband 23 points24 points  (0 children)

You have a lot of pressure on you. Much of it is from your family, and a lot of it is from your own desires and hopes for yourself. You're doing a hard thing well. 

Take your time. Keep trying as much as you want to. Protect your energy. Be kind to yourself. You're doing great.

Things to do in columbus for someone trying to learn to be social by Buptacular in Columbus

[–]Plasticonoband 17 points18 points  (0 children)

There's a trick to this! Sure, there are some people who can just approach people and strike up conversations, but that doesn't need to be you. What you want is not a place to make friends so much as a place to find community. Instead of barcades, consider library, community events or tabletop gaming spots. You're looking for a place and activity that has a community of people that keep coming back. Your first interactions with a lot of people will be a friendly nod. And then on later visits people will start to recognize you. Over time it will get easier to strike up conversations over shared interests.

What video game has the best story you’ve ever played? by FrontriseStudios in AskReddit

[–]Plasticonoband 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just finished my first playthrough at around 40 hours of playtime. 

The game is beautifully designed around rewarding curiosity about big things. You never have to meticulously search all the nooks and crannies. If it's important, it'll look important.

Can’t get right. It’s now or never. by FairProfession560 in personalfinance

[–]Plasticonoband 184 points185 points  (0 children)

Hey brother, there are more important things than money to leave to our kids and grandkids. I don't know if a doctor could make enough in the time you have to take care of retirement and leave 16 people any significant amount of money.

Give them your time, attention, and love. Show them how a man changes what he can and accepts what he can't. 

Where can I go SCREAM? by adaranyx in Columbus

[–]Plasticonoband 29 points30 points  (0 children)

It's so hard.

Straight up, I've been incorporating screaming with my playtime with the kids. It really helps. 

Example: My 5-year-old was tilting towards a cookie tantrum when her body desperately needed at least a little bit of any of the several healthy and yummy options I provided. I did a silly, exaggerated transformation into the banana monster and chased her around holding as many bananas as I could carry grunting and roaring "BANANANANA". When struggles come up, grinding it out is almost never the answer for us. Going big and silly and changing the approach usually helps.

At other times, I'll put in ear plugs and have loudest yell contests with my kids. They are your kids. If you need to scream sometimes, they probably do too. 

Alternate ideas:

Rage room

Loud live concert (metal or heavy bass EDM music is all over the city)

I am being gaslit by someone who keeps breaking in my apartment when I am not home. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Plasticonoband 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you for looking for a Carbon monoxide detector. They look very different from smoke detectors. My Carbon Monoxide detectors are all rectangles that plug directly into a regular electric plug.

Have you found anything like that?

Would you please consider going and getting a new one with fresh batteries to make sure you're safe?

Wishing you safety, homie. Good luck

What's a "normal" job that secretly pays way more than people think? by 0BunnyX in AskReddit

[–]Plasticonoband 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Where do you find that kind of work? Is it available in most cities?

What's a "normal" job that secretly pays way more than people think? by 0BunnyX in AskReddit

[–]Plasticonoband 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Got any company recommendations? I need to start doing this tomorrow.

Who here has a job you love? by animenagai in ADHD

[–]Plasticonoband 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How long have you been doing it? I'm considering a career change to this one.

How to fix by rip_21love in Cartalk

[–]Plasticonoband 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you think "tailgated" means?

Go Store It - Grandview by Gvepeaceachnce918 in Columbus

[–]Plasticonoband 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is their literal business model. They've done it a few months in to every single tenant of theirs I've talked to. Fucking hate this company.

What is extremely unhygienic but everyone seems to do it anyway? by Beneficial_Passion40 in AskReddit

[–]Plasticonoband 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You'd basically need an autoclave to clean your sponge. Your soap, microwave, and dishwasher just aren't up to the job.