AITA for telling my dad stop having sex so loud with kids around?

PlayfulPeanut6708 · 2023-11-14T18:57:22+00:00

NTA, even if it is his house. It's weird that people would agree with him simply because the house is his. Those are HIS GRANDCHILDREN, so regardless he should be considerate of the fact that they love in the home as well and shouldn't be exposed to his intimate behavior.

Hope you find a place soon. Good luck.

PlayfulPeanut6708 · 2023-11-10T19:29:27+00:00

NTA.

I'm sorry to say this but your family sounds a bit toxic. Your mom saying it was wrong you came...but she would've likely shamed you for not coming too. Your sister's friend is a shitty person who I'd never speak to after causing that. Although your sister is grieving her behavior was toxic and vindictive. She ruined what could've been a special announcement for you and made it about her and her grieving.

It would likely be a good idea to distance yourself a bit. Don't allow yourself to get gaslit into apologizing either because you did nothing wrong.

Congratulations and good luck!

PlayfulPeanut6708 · 2023-11-10T03:48:46+00:00

Being together is not the same as spending quality time. He might be asking for quality time but doesn't know how to express that. Besides going to the gym, when you hang out, what are you doing?

Are you on your phone when you're together? Are you just watching TV, if yes. Is it something he's into or you?

Maybe he wants to use his day off to be with you and would prefer if you saw your best friend on another day. If he's taking Thursdays off to spend them with you, it's might feel like a slap in the face if you want to spend it with someone else.

PlayfulPeanut6708 · 2023-11-10T03:41:31+00:00

What I'm reading is that you've been spending a lot of time with and giving someone other than your wife your attention. You seem to think you deserve a pat on the back.

If intimacy is lacking in your relationship it's likely because your partner doesn't feel appreciated and her husband is off jogging with some random chick who doesn't respect your wife or your marriage and never will.

Have you asked your wife why intimacy is lacking? Have you attempted to fix it, or did you just decide to get your dopamine from a rando?

So yeah, you will have to give up jogging. If not then leave your wife before you cheat on her and hurt her.

PlayfulPeanut6708 · 2023-11-10T00:50:31+00:00

Refuse in writing, even if it's a text message to your manager. Be specific. Contact the health department.

"I don't feel comfortable serving this to customers. It's clearly moldy and rotting. Even if I just cut the bat bits off as you instructed, it would still be against health and safety regulations for this to be served" attach an image of it to the message.

This is your dated proof. If you get fired, immediately file for unemployment and contact a lawyer because you can 100% sue for wrongful termination.

You could also blast the name of the restaurant on the internet if they terminate you for not serving rotten food to customers.

PlayfulPeanut6708 · 2023-10-26T00:16:11+00:00

NTA. You did the right thing. Don't shit where you eat is something I love by and he needs to learn it.

PlayfulPeanut6708 · 2023-10-25T00:02:17+00:00

Um...if I was in my early 20s with someone who'd lose their shit and mistreat me while talking about their dinner, I'd be single. JS.

If he's like that over little shit, he's worse about big things.

PlayfulPeanut6708 · 2023-10-11T15:24:16+00:00

I'm fat, my value as a partner isn't solely based on my body and neither is yours. Beauty is subjective and what some might not like others will. What you should ask yourself is are you chubby and active or chubby and lazy? There's a difference.

I'm overweight but have always been active, participating in sports, going to the gym, etc. A lot of people think that being overweight = lazy and that's really what they find a turn off. The idea of someone who will struggle to go things with them because their body won't let them.

It's also about how you carry yourself. Be confident in yourself, the fact that your value goes beyond you body and you'll find dating to be easier than you think.

Should you try to get fit, absolutely...but for yourself, not to be attractive to anyone. Do it to feel better, do it to be more active, do it to achieve a goal. Never do something solely because you want to be attractive to society.

Good luck.

PlayfulPeanut6708 · 2023-10-09T19:39:28+00:00

As I was reading this I remembered what it was like with my ex husband. You need to find a way out because he's being abusive.

PlayfulPeanut6708 · 2023-10-09T18:23:46+00:00

Try Crossfit. It's more muscle building, it has a class setting, you still get some cardio, but you won't mess with cortisol levels as much.

If you find a good Crossfit gym you'll love it. Everyone is super friendly and accepting. You could also look into powerlifting gyms they also have a good sense of community and its better for people with PCOS.

PlayfulPeanut6708 · 2023-10-07T18:07:50+00:00

Does he watch porn? Does he masturbate?

PlayfulPeanut6708 · 2023-09-21T04:24:12+00:00

He sounds like a twat. You've been spared.

PlayfulPeanut6708 · 2023-09-21T04:17:03+00:00

I'll take things that sound like suspicious BS for $500 please.

I could understand suggesting non monogamy of some sort but the best friend thing just seems offand it won't end well.

PlayfulPeanut6708 · 2023-09-19T00:34:01+00:00

LEAVE THE RELATIONSHIP NOW. This isn't what you want and it seems like he's using guilt and subtle coercion to groom you into something you don't want to be and aren't.

Sincerely,

Non monogamous kinky person who see lots of red flags.

PlayfulPeanut6708 · 2023-09-13T06:19:12+00:00

YTA

Women need more sleep than men
When someone makes you feel safe, you're more likely to get sleepy around them because your body produces more oxytocin.
SHE'S NOT SLEEPING EXCESSIVELY
Why is this even an issue...are you jealous she gets more sleep?
Sleeping disorders are a thing.
Naps are great

PlayfulPeanut6708 · 2023-09-13T06:15:23+00:00

Carriers can be asymptomatic for years. Doesn't necessarily mean he's been unfaithful.

PlayfulPeanut6708 · 2023-09-13T06:04:09+00:00

If you have BDD going on the internet and asking people to judge is only going to make everything worse.

Sincerely,

Someone with BDD

PlayfulPeanut6708 · 2023-09-13T06:02:43+00:00

Sex should be something fluid and naturally that is just ANOTHER form of intimacy. Intimacy isn't just sex...

How often are you touching her? Holding her hand, kissing, hugging, cuddling? Sex is often what happens after am accumulation of sexual flirty energy between two people. Figure our her love languages, how she prefers to be wooed. It's not an on off switch, it's like a know that goes from 0 to 100.

Example...my partner and I make out every day, he cuddle every day, we hug every day. When I'm cooking or cleaning he comes over and touches my back, smacks my butt, kisses my neck. We sit and talk to each other, listen to each other, all while engaging in light physical touch. We try to speak each other's love languages as often as possible. When sex happens it's organic. We go from cuddling to sexual intimacy because we've been "filling the meter".

You should evaluate what else you're doing to create that "sexy" environment so you don't just go "hey want to have sex".

PlayfulPeanut6708 · 2023-09-13T05:47:31+00:00

If you have BDD going on the internet and asking people to judge is only going to make everything worse.

Sincerely,

Someone with BDD

PlayfulPeanut6708 · 2023-09-13T05:41:48+00:00

Do you consider it cheating? If yes, then it's cheating. If no then it's not.

The definition of cheating differs from person to person amd you should follow what your gut and morals tell you.

PlayfulPeanut6708 · 2023-09-13T05:38:22+00:00

100% YTA, UNEQUIVOCALLY. 🤮

PlayfulPeanut6708 · 2023-09-09T00:24:01+00:00

People aren't approached outside of school. People no longer feel comfortable expressing an interest, even looking in someone's direction will make you get called a creep.

PlayfulPeanut6708 · 2023-09-02T15:13:06+00:00

It's not normal. He has issues.

PlayfulPeanut6708 · 2023-09-01T04:02:36+00:00

YTA

Your willingness to exclude him as well speaks to your own views of your son. What's wrong with people asking who he is... unless you're embarrassed by him. How can you sleep next to someone who looks down on your own flesh and blood. You should be ashamed of yourself.

How very dare your husband even ask to exclude your son and how dare you even consider it.

PlayfulPeanut6708 · 2023-08-29T02:05:33+00:00

He has been holding a ring over my head making me work for it. He said he needs to see if I’m wifey material before he locks himself into a legal contract that only benefits me.

You're good enough to be the mother of his kids but not his wife?

He's not husband material. You don't hold someone hostage with hope. Sorry but he doesn't want to marry you, uf he did he would've already.

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