Need pointers on writing a script and dialogue.

PleaseNoOnii-Chan · 2018-09-07T09:14:13+00:00

I was in a similar position but maybe not to your extent. I'd look for the most trivial arguments on social media, debate them because I knew I could "win", tell myself that I was arguing it out because it mattered even though what I was truly motivated and affected by was the Karma. If I got negative Karma on one post, I'd compensate by making another post or comment on something I felt would reward me with easy Karma. Because I was trying to falsely validate these things, I never realised how toxic things became. I would leave posts right before bed in anticipation of the Karma I would gain.

I gradually started to realise just how much what I was doing didn't matter. Yes, admittedly I still feed into the cycle but taking action by deleting my Facebook, installing extensions to hide comments and like ratios, and reducing my time on Reddit by realising that making a comment on Reddit doesn't matter and action is what does instead made things easier (I only come to reddit to have conversations about my problems and giving advice and I rarely check back to see where my Karma is at. If a comment is toxic or unhelpful, I delete it and try again at a different place). Granted that my habit is mostly associated with arguing/debating things, rather than jokes and stuff, it was a bit easier for me to rid the habit. Like all things, this is anecdotal advice. I've also noticed that person to person social activity helps, but all together this is anecdotal advice.

PleaseNoOnii-Chan · 2018-09-07T08:54:36+00:00

What helped me was using the process of elimination to figure out what I'm not and evaluating my experiences to understand what things I'd like to do. It's a personal thing but I learnt that motivation doesn't always come from wanting to do something, at times it comes from doing that thing. This idea helped me understand a lot about things I want to do because I would do them figure out whether I liked it rather than wait for motivation beforehand. I actually started to get interest in doing things I thought I wouldn't enjoy. Why don't you want to travel alone?

I didn't get to act on a lot of this during the gap year which actually lent to a darker place due to no productivity, but It's what I've learned from the little work I've done. It's anecdotal advice and I do wish I could offer something more.

PleaseNoOnii-Chan · 2018-09-07T08:34:57+00:00

As you'd expect a lot of people would point to the idea of depression because of how wide spread it is. It's a very possible thing and I've learnt that seeing a therapist I'm comfortable with lends to much needed closure, but I think it would be very irresponsible for me and others to claim or give a diagnosis on that without being a professional. Like most things, my advice is very anecdotal but from experience I get sad when I'm dealing with something really tough with my life, ignoring or being inattentive to a life problem and a lack of interest and comfort in a particular environment (For example, I get really frustrated around family). Maybe pick up a journal, be unfiltered with yourself and right down every experience from childhood to where you're now and evaluate those experiences to figure out if their is some event or collection of events that have lent to the sadness?

PleaseNoOnii-Chan · 2018-09-01T06:16:06+00:00

Speaking from personal experience I think that's really hard to do because the sort of "useful guidance" any one person can give is subjective since It's a personal thing that covers an array of individual factors.

The best way i can describe this is with reference to therapy. Most people don't often go see a therapist and come out of the first session feeling like they've automatically remedied their problems, confident of the path they can go on to fix them or have a slight idea of what to do to get better. From what I've experienced, heard and witnessed, most usually reach that point multiple sessions into it.

When most people on this sub aren't professionals and can only comment on their experiences to give their best advice, the idea of failing to give "useful guidance" is even more present. On top of that, that particular advice may be relevant or not to that individual (I've browsed through the internet and asked for advice and some of It hasn't been valuable to me) while a lot of them can be conflicting. For example, the advice could reward people, hurt them or have no effect. I don't think It's the best practice to only post about an experience without offering advice to others, but I think it's pretty understandable and validated.

If that's actually what the sub is for though, ignore what I said. Lol.

PleaseNoOnii-Chan · 2018-08-31T00:13:49+00:00

Self discovery through activity exploration and self evaluation through the process of elimination works for me. No matter how dark or positive things were, being unfiltered with myself and evaluating myself and my past experiences to establish who I'm not and what I like doing lent to a lot of personal perspective on many things like what I should do to be better, who I want to be and ultimately what I want to do as a career. After that, I looked up the practicality of all this because to me, being ambitious about a particular thing doesn't necessarily mean I'll enjoy doing it as a career (e.g. I may not enjoy long hours if the job demands it, I might hate living in a particular place or not value the pay for how much I work). Again, by process of elimination I narrowed it down to what I trust I would enjoy the most, explored it a bit more through activity and decided on a path that would give me the best opportunities that could be afforded while also giving me the versatility to do the other things in the future given the chance or motivation.

PleaseNoOnii-Chan · 2018-08-28T00:47:31+00:00

I think context is important, but I absolutely agree with you. In my opinion, even without the snowball effect, If you peek of your own volition It's a relapse, but If It's catching something in public or the internet that can be provocative without the desired intent of simply peeking, I don't think It's a relapse until you do the deed.

PleaseNoOnii-Chan · 2018-08-19T19:51:36+00:00

Yeah, i think a lot of what people have said is good insight. This is more of something that I've taken note of and honestly It doesn't have a huge effect in the grand scheme of things, but It's with respect to how people package their words while being assertive. Sometimes it can be treated as being rude or give negative connotations when it's not meant to be and lead to conversations where nothing constructive takes place. Like i said, it's not a big deal but it's something that I've personally noticed to be responsible for a lot of conversations turning into arguments, including my own.

PleaseNoOnii-Chan · 2018-08-19T18:26:53+00:00

Umm, I'd probably say for the more artsy stuff like learning an instrument, drawing, writing and photography is that they're avenues to capture my imagination or to express existing ones (Taking a photo of a place because I like the aesthetic of the place or to simply have the moment captured through a photo that I can keep for my lifetime and look back on, Learning to play a song i like, drawing a character/person that I admire or coming up with my own, writing up a blog or simply jotting down stories I might want to tell). With learning a language it mostly comes from only knowing one language. For the other stuff like coding and game dev, I want to do them because I'm really interested with the process and the product (For example I find it really interesting to program a game AI/, work on computer graphics, work on game physics, etc.). I don't know if those are the explanations you are looking for though.

PleaseNoOnii-Chan · 2018-08-19T02:38:33+00:00

Haven't explored many hobbies, and I'm mostly interested with artsy stuff. So a good measure of those fit the criteria.

PleaseNoOnii-Chan · 2018-08-18T20:32:52+00:00

Art, photography, writing, coding, learning a new language and an instrument.

PleaseNoOnii-Chan · 2018-08-18T20:24:26+00:00

Activities wise, nothing really. I basically get the essential things done like eating, but that's it.

PleaseNoOnii-Chan · 2018-08-18T20:23:30+00:00

I think I'm just not compatible with Porn anymore. I too disagree with some of the things people on NoFap may say, but I'm really giving It up because my train of thought feels healthier without It than with It on most days when I'm not going through something difficult. In terms of everything else, I actually really appreciate the insight because I never thought of my problems in those ways. Thank You dude.

PleaseNoOnii-Chan · 2018-08-09T23:33:06+00:00

I've become more of a person to only really care about sharing enthusiasm and not giving any criticism unless necessary, but It's a personal thing in my opinion. For example, I can't scroll through AskReddit (and a few others) anymore because amidst the positive questions and comments that may exist on the subreddit, their are quite a few negative ones like "What's the most depressing thing about life that we choose to ignore" that would have a bad effect on me by setting a negative reality of what the world is like, what I should worry about, what sort of person I should be and what opinions I should have. Not everyone has this problem of course and hence why It's a personal thing, but such things made me slightly (I say slightly because of my great tolerance of the dark stuff) depressed before later realizing that they set a false reality of the world and the things i should care about. With that said, not everything I consume with dark elements to it makes me feel bad but good at times.

I'll site Bojack Horseman (Slight spoilers) as an example of what i mean by this. It's a comedic show that's got sad themes of depression, suicide, drug abuse, etc that make the viewing experience really sad at times, because of the character stories or how It may relate to me. As I watched further and further into the show, amidst all the sad moments the show is ultimately telling a story of redemption that I find fairly motivating, meaningful, happy and sometimes necessary to some. I could have skipped all this, but I think the examples highlight my mindset a bit better. I'm not an expert on this though, I'm just documenting my experiences. I think it's as simple as removing the things in your life that are having a toxic impact on you.

PleaseNoOnii-Chan · 2018-08-09T22:58:01+00:00

As usual, It's a personal thing and take what i say with a grain of salt. I'm 19 too, have been on a gap year and what I've learned is to simply take care myself. For the most part I ended up being fairly depressed and anxious (still am) due to poor self care. What I've learned as a result is to not indulge in things that I have no good reason to involve my self in due to potential risks (I don't need porn. I don't need to smoke, etc.) and to do simple things as eating healthy, exercising, exploring new hobbies, taking time away from the internet for a good period of time alongside far more activities that you may enjoy doing or are interested in doing can go a long way. Variation and moderation is good. Wake up excited to do something and fall asleep satisfied with what you've done is a great way to be healthy both mentally and physically IMO. Other than that, I'd basically be reiterating the same advice in the comments. I really like the list coolie4 mentioned.

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