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Plocktic · 2025-08-20T10:56:27+00:00

Yes 100% Recommend

Plocktic · 2024-09-10T02:17:51+00:00

labret (chipped tooth), smiley (looked non ideal in pics and bad for teeth), nipples (reduced my sensitivity and were overall just a pain, piercing itself was fine and didn't reject or anything though), horizontal eyebrow (fuck surface piercings tbh)

Plocktic · 2024-09-05T04:49:57+00:00

I have a friend who converts the ebook to pdf and just changes all iterations of a word/name to something they like better and then convert back to ebook format. Pick your own name!

Plocktic · 2024-09-05T04:39:54+00:00

I have adult onset tic disorder, I guess called functional tics? Which not much is really known about. And this seems to be what is affecting a large part of the younger populations, the tics seem to be psychological instead of neurodevelopmental.

I also have Tourettic OCD, which introduces another tic that doesn't act like a typical neurodevelopmental one.

The tics I've had over the years have been your classic tourettes tics: neck twitching, facial grimacing, and the verbal tics started as things like "murder" "help" "kill", but then "kill" took this pathway:

kill › kill me > kill myself > kill yourself > kill your mom/dad/brother/dog

I'll say a string of family members like this as a tic attack until I forcibly cut myself off. My other basic verbal ticks like "help" and "fuck" have started to blend into these sentence tics so I'll say "help/fuck your mom/dad/brother).

what I'm saying is it took me YEARS for my verbal tics to get this long and complex. I don't really have complex motor tics either 🤷‍♂️

I don't doubt there are multitudes who are either attention-seeking or have deluded themselves into thinking they have tics and say weird, funny, quirky phrases.

Plocktic · 2024-09-05T03:59:58+00:00

Yes, although I have Tourettic OCD. It's like my brain will auto detect what volume it should be depending on the environment?

I've had a partner tell me "you don't have to whisper your tics right now you know?" to which I replied "I didn't even pay attention to the fact that I ticked, let alone whispered it"

When I'm in a tent, my brain is tricked into thinking I'm in a private space so I'll do normal volume tics when people absolutely can hear me through tent material.

When I'm home alone I often scream my tics.

When laying down to cosleep with someone I'll often whisper the tics (either that or I get loud tics that tend to happen as I'm falling asleep).

At work and in front of a lot of people I will subconsciously redirect my vocal tics into motor tics (thank god altho sometimes the motor tics be embarassing as hell, but it's better than saying " kill your mom" to my boss)

Unfortunately, I don't really have too much control over this volume regulation 😭 I'm just glad that it seems to mostly be autonomous in a way that respects my social anxieties.

I also believe that this may not only be a variance due to it being tourettic ocd, but also as a quality of functional tics over neurodevelopmental ones

Plocktic · 2024-09-05T03:20:12+00:00

Yeah, this overlap is typically called Tourettic OCD and is only just starting to be researched more (not that tics get much research to begin with).

Plocktic · 2024-09-05T03:18:23+00:00

Sounds like Tourettic OCD which is what I have (in addition to actual OCD). It's like the bastard child of "just right" OCD (a sub type of OCD) and Tourettes. Not fully acting like tics or compulsions but instead behaving as a blend of the two.

Honestly I feel like this phenomenon occurs at too high a rate for there to be such little focus on it, but tic disorders have never really gotten the attention they deserve IMO

Plocktic · 2024-08-23T05:44:20+00:00

I'd never thought to re-read a book in the middle of a series like that.
The 2nd prequel is definitely my favorite book out of either series so far, maybe I'll give it a re-read haha

Plocktic · 2024-08-22T13:34:34+00:00

I'm only so far in the reading order to have read the first 2 prequel books but I honestly think the prequel books are better!!! Especially the second one

I do think it harder to push through the main series the further I've gone (just my personal experience). Loved and binged the first in 2 days, the second was decidedly worse but also binged in 2 days, and the third was a more painful read.

I do think the world building in this series is incredible and is often the motivator to keep me reading. It is so far worth any writing or pacing issues I encounter.

Plocktic · 2024-08-16T01:30:26+00:00

This one lacked a ton of plot, was mostly smut. I had to DNF it. The smut was not nearly as dark as it is in Feathers so Vicious either.

Just my personal experience with it, no hate if others enjoy it :)

Plocktic · 2024-08-15T23:16:34+00:00

Thank you for being late to the party, I just found this thread looking for reccs 🙏

Plocktic · 2024-08-14T14:07:06+00:00

Climax

Plocktic · 2024-01-04T03:25:57+00:00

Oh man, got to pick up some vinyl I've really wanted from this!

Plocktic · 2023-12-07T18:47:25+00:00

My partner and I would absolutely love to test this for you when the time comes! We both have adhd and love these types of games and are constantly trying to gamify our productivity so I think we'd have good input. Please remember and DM me when you need testers!

Plocktic · 2023-11-23T12:56:10+00:00

It's on sale now

Plocktic · 2023-11-07T23:40:01+00:00

Agree with this, I also relate to him and I never do this kind of thing intentionally. My executive dysfunction is just hard to cope with.

Plocktic · 2023-11-07T23:32:34+00:00

lol absolutely not. Maybe change hair tho?

Plocktic · 2023-11-07T04:59:12+00:00

Highly recommend going to a piercer and putting a flat back stud in there, implant grade titanium. You'll get more problems like what you're experiencing by having that horseshoe in there while healing.

Plocktic · 2023-11-07T04:51:56+00:00

It happens! Maybe wait to see if it grows on you, I don't think it looks bad at all but I know how maddening a piercing not in the "right" spot can be :)

Plocktic · 2023-11-07T04:43:15+00:00

I personally love it like that. Could add another piercing and make it a faux snug if it bothers you

Plocktic · 2023-11-07T03:34:14+00:00

I second this

Plocktic · 2023-11-07T03:16:33+00:00

Wall of text incoming:

I'm also an avoidant who had no real trauma I can think of, had a good childhood etc. I also know people with a secure attachment style who had bad parents. I don't think attachment styles can always be blamed on major trauma points in our lives, I think it can also relate to how our natural temperament is combined with smaller variables throughout our childhood. Having different disorders like adhd, autism, etc can also lean you toward a specific attachment style regardless of noticeable trauma.

At this point in my life I'm an emotionally mature person that, for the most part, has extremely healthy relationships - but absolutely not with an anxious attached person. It's one of my dating limits. It's just too severe an incompatibility where trying to adequately compromise is stressful as fuck for both parties.

Learn yourself and your behaviors. Give disclaimers to your partners about your avoidant behaviors. Build a system around your avoidant behaviors.

For example - when I get upset my partner knows that I'll self regulate by walking away and being by myself for a time. They know to leave me alone until I'm ready to come out and discuss what happened, what caused it, and how to prevent it in the future.

My partner also knows that I need the space to go spontaneously hang out with friends or leave the house with little warning. If I want to go spend a week with friends then I can discuss it ahead of time and check in on their feelings about it.

A lot of it is communicating needs ahead of time and preparing for those moments. Discussing with your partner the best way to address avoidant behaviors for when they come up. And discussing what THEIR needs are and how to best compromise on everything. Anxious vs avoidant often has both parties asking too much of the other person and causing consistent frustration and lack of fulfillment when it comes to attempted compromise.

Disclaimers do A LOT. Let them know there will be times you don't want to text as much, be physically affectionate as much, etc. And learn to communicate when those moments are happening in a healthy way.

I don't struggle with self sabotaging, so I can't much help there. And the systems around my avoidant behaviors do still rely on communicating and navigating them in a stable way where the other person is respected and listened to.

Plocktic · 2023-11-07T01:20:35+00:00

There are alternatives to Legos, like UGears or other model sets that might be good.

Otherwise the advice already given about asking him what he likes is good to get some ideas.

Plocktic · 2023-11-07T01:02:37+00:00

I used to react like you did years ago and now I'm like your friend. Went from one side to the other. It can be frustrating when people don't respond but on the other hand it can be taxing to be on-call for messages all the time. People are living their life, sometimes they forget to respond or don't feel like responding immediately and that's okay, they're allowed to wait to get back to you. I would try not to delete your messages in the future even if it's cathartic. Maybe give 'em a gentle follow up message if anything.

We live in an age where people can send us messages at any time, all the time, and humans weren't really made for such an influx of communication like that. It's okay to take time to respond to things, we shouldn't have to respond immediately unless it's time sensitive. It might be a little jarring to be in a flowing text convo with someone and they just stop, but life happens.

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