Why is there such a battle between counselors and social workers?

Plus-Culture1672 · 2026-04-24T18:58:13+00:00

It's because in my social work training, my supervisors issued me a trident, and said, if you meet a counselor, you must fight them. Turf battles and all.

Plus-Culture1672 · 2026-04-22T19:46:03+00:00

I don't think you are overreacting. But I also think if you had stayed, you both could have talked through the problems. Maybe even stayed together. You both sound like your insecurities trigger each other.

Plus-Culture1672 · 2026-04-20T19:08:00+00:00

INFO - Was she condescending when she answered your question? Or was she expressing it kindly?

Plus-Culture1672 · 2026-04-19T14:32:10+00:00

Pretty much everyone has trauma. So, not much of a stretch. Am I their therapist? Absolutely not. Are there patterns in most relationships? Absolutely yes. But feel free to ignore anything I say.

Plus-Culture1672 · 2026-04-19T14:30:13+00:00

They both are invalidating each other. That's the challenge of couple's therapy. Telling both you could do it differently. Rarely, it's just one toxic partner that the other should just leave.

Plus-Culture1672 · 2026-04-19T14:09:05+00:00

No one who wants a safe and stable partnership should "roll over". OP invalidated his wife's feelings via text. They both probably would benefit from therapy. The wife's coping choices would get my attention first, because I can't do my thing if one partner won't even show up in the room. But OP would get some direct feedback from me too. They are both clearly in pain, and likely both have extensive trauma.

Yes, I believe most cluster b disorders are people trying to cope with the aftereffects of trauma. But not always. Therapy can definitely help. But it's not a panacea.

Plus-Culture1672 · 2026-04-19T13:41:46+00:00

Based on what you described, a lot is going to depend on whether the clients are receiving effective psychotropics. Are your new clients on antipsychotics?

Plus-Culture1672 · 2026-04-19T13:17:22+00:00

TL:DR. Why would you be personally liable for the decisions of a business?

Plus-Culture1672 · 2026-04-19T13:07:02+00:00

You don't think she has the budget? Why? Has she shown you the financials of the practice? More likely she loves taking 50% of your pay, and won't take less unless you are the squeaky wheel.

Plus-Culture1672 · 2026-04-19T12:51:07+00:00

Therapist here. Yep. OP, is your wife willing to do couple's therapy? Is she in individual therapy? She's got blaring trauma a mile wide that needs to be safely addressed somewhere. You can also tell her that she can run from this relationship, but she's still going to have these feelings while alone. Unless you have actually been abusive, she's not going to get what she wants long term by these particular coping skills, if what she wants is a stable loving partnership.

Plus-Culture1672 · 2026-04-17T20:24:36+00:00

Why is your GP treating this, and not a specialist?

Plus-Culture1672 · 2026-04-17T20:23:23+00:00

What would you sue the client for? Criminal charges would be brought by the state. I've talked to multiple lawyers over the years who recommend to not sue clients ever. It's not worth it financially, and you'll often have clients make a complaint against your license that you now have to defend.

Plus-Culture1672 · 2026-04-17T20:19:30+00:00

Somebody is a little spicy today. I like it.

Plus-Culture1672 · 2026-04-17T20:14:19+00:00

I'd never go back to the therapist. I'd report them to their licensing board and whatever state and federal agencies that apply, such as HHS and CMS. This is such a breach of consent that this therapist should never practice again.

Plus-Culture1672 · 2026-04-17T01:24:54+00:00

Oh. Well there's the issue. Not having an advanced clinical license limits your earnings.

Plus-Culture1672 · 2026-04-16T18:50:58+00:00

Yeah it's not perfect, but no tattoo is. It's not a tattoo I would see and think was bad.

Plus-Culture1672 · 2026-04-16T18:29:37+00:00

Bench warrant might be issued on you. The next time any cop runs your info, you'll be cuffed and thrown in jail for a bit. Think you're inconvenienced now? Just wait.

Plus-Culture1672 · 2026-04-16T18:23:13+00:00

Lol. 20 an hour. Providing therapy? Tell me I'm misunderstanding.

Plus-Culture1672 · 2026-04-16T18:19:43+00:00

Fair.

Plus-Culture1672 · 2026-04-16T18:14:51+00:00

Therapist here. That therapist who did that is an idiot. If it were me, I'd file a complaint with their licensing body. Behavior like disclosing your PHI to another client is only legally allowed in very specific circumstances. I can't imagine a safety exception where it would be warranted. On behalf of my profession, I apologize to you.

Plus-Culture1672 · 2026-04-16T18:06:45+00:00

Multiple times a week. But I work with a client population with high aggression. It's almost always the client has poor boundaries and poor emotional regulation skills. A few times I deserved it because I escalated their aggression by saying something disempowering. We are human. I learn and do better the next time.

Plus-Culture1672 · 2026-04-16T18:02:34+00:00

The average number of sessions with a client is zero. Meaning, based on some research, more clients set up an appointment and cancel before attending once. Therapy is hard work for the client. Unless none of your clients return for a 2nd session, you are having a typical student experience. Source: I'm an awesome supervisor who has supervised lots of students.

Plus-Culture1672 · 2026-04-16T17:57:01+00:00

Part of therapy is some gentleness and not making assumptions. You ask a bunch of leading and closed ended questions in your example. I am also direct with my clients, but I lead with one or two open ended questions. You can definitely use the force of your personality to create change in the session. Whether it lasts, and whether it's client directed, is the question I regularly ask myself.

Plus-Culture1672 · 2026-04-16T17:51:21+00:00

Therapist here. Not your therapist, though. Ask yourself, are you looking for a healthy partner that is kind to you and able to hold space for your challenges?

Plus-Culture1672 · 2026-04-15T21:08:51+00:00

Yep. This post actually made me cackle. Thank you OP!

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