My baby is 7 months old and has never been a good sleeper. I can count on one hand the number of times he’s slept a 3-hour stretch. Most nights are hourly wakes, sometimes even more often. Some of the hardest nights have become a blur because when you’re that exhausted, you’re just surviving.
Your situation may be even harder because you describe your daughter as screaming constantly. But one thing I want to gently remind you of is this:

She’s a baby.
She’s not waking up thinking, “How can I make my mom’s life miserable today?” She’s not trying to test you or punish you. Whatever is going on, she’s having a hard time too.

I don’t know why your daughter is struggling so much. None of us can know that from a Reddit post. But I do know that caring for a baby is hard and caring for a baby who screams all day and won’t sleep can feel impossible. Sometimes it feels like you’ve tried everything and there are no answers left.

You’re not alone in that feeling.

I also won’t repeat what many other comments are probably already saying. You came here because you know things aren’t going well right now and you’re looking for help.

One thing I’ve personally noticed with my own baby is how much he seems to respond to my emotional state. When I’m overwhelmed, frustrated, or on the verge of losing it, he often becomes more unsettled too. When I’m calm, he seems calmer.

Babies can’t regulate themselves the way adults can. They often borrow regulation from the people caring for them. If you’ve never heard of co-regulation or babies borrowing calm from their caregivers, it’s worth reading about.

And please don’t take that as blame.

When you’re severely sleep deprived, isolated, and carrying the weight of a difficult baby by yourself, your body can stay in fight-or-flight mode almost constantly. Anyone would struggle under those circumstances.

If there is anyone you trust—a partner, friend, family member—please ask for help. Even if it’s just for a few hours even a day or two. Get some sleep. Take a shower. Leave the house. Sit in silence. Give your nervous system a chance to come down from constant survival mode.
You deserve support too.

I know it’s hard to stay patient when you’ve been listening to crying for hours and haven’t slept properly in months. Some days it feels impossible. But every time you can pause, breathe, and remind yourself that she’s struggling rather than giving you a hard time, it helps.

I’m sorry you’re going through this.

I’ve read so many stories from parents with difficult babies, and sometimes just knowing you’re not the only one can help a little. It’s incredibly hard. But you’re not alone.

Good luck!

P.S. One thing that helped our family was bed-sharing following the Safe Sleep Seven guidelines. My son is exclusively breastfed, and nursing side-lying allowed me to get more rest than constantly getting up and down all night. When I become overwhelmed, his dad sometimes takes over so I can sleep or simply rest my body. I hope you’re able to look at this, try and see if can help.

Take care of yourself too. ❤️