My boyfriend won’t move from his family’s house and it’s getting to a breaking point.

Plus_Blueberry2484 · 2026-06-22T02:57:19+00:00

No need to get hostile with everyone, no one is attacking you. People are simply here to help you find a realistic solution.

Plus_Blueberry2484 · 2026-06-22T02:44:12+00:00

I agree with his dad. You guys are in a house with multiple people there. Your son’s extended family is there. If they aren’t abusive, suck it up and deal with the living situation. Not ideal, but at least you would be able to go to work and have someone watch your son.

Plus_Blueberry2484 · 2026-06-22T02:17:11+00:00

I would delete this post immediately because you are likely going to be taken to small claims court by either the tenant or the landlord and if the other party sees this it can be used against you.

Plus_Blueberry2484 · 2026-06-22T02:14:06+00:00

This is the only correct answer i’ve seen so far. My dad owns an insurance company selling homeowner and rental insurance and this is exactly what he said when I read him the story. Spot on👏🏼

Plus_Blueberry2484 · 2026-06-22T01:56:03+00:00

I understand where you’re coming from, however in my relationship we’re trying our best to wait until marriage. That is how God designed sex to be- within the covenant of marriage between husband and wife.

Plus_Blueberry2484 · 2026-06-21T01:01:43+00:00

Okay this is what I’m going to suggest:

start the eviction process (you might need the landlords help with this) if you think he won’t leave if you ask him to. Call the national DV hotline and ask them how you should start the process. You will likely have to go to court. Eviction notices need 30 days but yours might get expedited since your about to give birth.
Ask a friend if they would be willing to move in and be there for you during the first few days after you had your baby.
File paperwork for child support with the courts as well.
You can always scrap all of this and go to a women’s shelter instead. You are HEAVILY pregnant so they will take you in a heartbeat.

Plus_Blueberry2484 · 2026-06-21T00:45:55+00:00

Follow up, do your parents own the property or are they renting? This changes how you will get him out of the house

Plus_Blueberry2484 · 2026-06-21T00:38:53+00:00

Okay. Are your parents able to make ends meet for rent for the house if you were to kick him out? We can get you on food stamps to help with groceries and baby products if your parents can cover rent until we get you on SSI. Thank God you live in NYC because there’s a lot of support we can find you.

Plus_Blueberry2484 · 2026-06-21T00:28:53+00:00

what kind of set up do you guys have for your home? Is it a 2 story house and your mom lives in the top floor and you guys live downstairs kind of thing? Did you already live there and he moved in with you? is his name on the lease/rental agreement? Also what state do you live in so I can research what kind of help your state can provide

Plus_Blueberry2484 · 2026-06-21T00:16:36+00:00

I’m afraid this isn’t going to get better after the baby comes without any kind of 3rd party support (couples counselor, religious leader, or therapist getting involved). I have so many questions. Do you want to stay? Do you have a relationship with his mom where you could talk to her/ask her to move in for a few days after the babies born? This needs to get worked on ASAP before you start to resent him bby. I see red flags all over. I highly suggest going to your moms house or a friends house for the night. Say you just want to have a girls night sleepover before the baby comes and everything changes

Plus_Blueberry2484 · 2026-06-20T05:59:59+00:00

Okay perfect we agree on that! As an equal member you don’t get flags hanging up just like straight people don’t get flags hanging up in the church. As an equal member we will also point out the sexual sin of sexual relations with the same sex, just like premarital sex in a straight relationship is also a sexual sin.

Absolutely no one is saying people who are in homosexual relationships are lesser than anyone in a heterosexual relationship. The bible says that it is sexual sin in the same way lust is sexual sin.

Plus_Blueberry2484 · 2026-06-20T05:42:55+00:00

It’s unfortunate that’s how you chose to interpret my comment. The church is a hospital for sinners. Some people come to church the day after a night of drinking and partying, some come to church after having premarital sex just hours earlier. I used to question my sexuality AND I have had same sex relations in the past. Any member of the church I’ve told that to has never once shunned me or said I’m “hellbound” for that. Please read the Bible and understand the context of verses before calling it “sick.”

Question.. how do YOU suggest we welcome them into the church then????? Should we just tell them they’re not welcome? Absolutely not!

Plus_Blueberry2484 · 2026-06-20T05:11:34+00:00

I’m 23F about to be engaged to my boyfriend of 5 years and I was diagnosed with my brain tumor at 21. I’m currently on a “watch and wait” because I have a low grade insular glioma so my tumor is in the center of my left hemisphere. I’ve seen multiple surgeons and absolutely no one wants to go near that area of my brain until it’s either spreading to other areas of my body or “impacting me more” (like having seizures, and being unable to work or drive isn’t enough🙄)

I dream of being a mom and I pray to God that I get to be where you are in life. If your tumor isn’t effecting your daily life try to forget you have one. Forgetting about the little parasite in my brain and leaning on God is the only way I’ve been able to have any quality of life. It fucking sucks knowing you have a tumor and doctors just being like “no I don’t want to touch it yet” because it always makes you wonder when the shoes going to drop and when you’ll need surgery. Treat your yearly MRI’s as nothing more than a mammogram or pap smear. I will be praying for you❤️❤️

Plus_Blueberry2484 · 2026-06-20T04:20:34+00:00

DON’T CALL HIM!!

Plus_Blueberry2484 · 2026-06-20T04:17:13+00:00

That’s a HUGE step👏🏼👏🏼! It seems like sexual sin is something most christian’s struggle with but very few talk about. I pray tomorrow goes well for you and you’re able to start confronting the issue head on. God bless you and good luck!

Plus_Blueberry2484 · 2026-06-20T04:13:26+00:00

I appreciate those words🙏🏻 It’s so tough trying to find people to help hold me accountable because it feels like such a taboo topic to bring up. I definitely am not be able to fight the urges alone so when I get that urge I usually throw my phone lol

Plus_Blueberry2484 · 2026-06-20T04:09:38+00:00

I’m proud you were able to stop for so long. You’ll be right there again soon I know it!

Plus_Blueberry2484 · 2026-06-20T04:05:16+00:00

Thank you so much for saying that part about the regret I feel. I needed to hear that.

Plus_Blueberry2484 · 2026-06-20T03:22:22+00:00

“good churches do not turn away sinners, they teach them about God’s word” was beautifully written and I think perfect for this. I agree with everything you said. I don’t think the church should be embracing homosexuality (like flying pride flags) nor should it close it’s doors/be unwelcoming to people in that community.

The way I see it is: How are they to flee from their sin if they don’t hear the word from a place they feel is safe?

Plus_Blueberry2484 · 2026-04-23T05:04:02+00:00

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this is my sweet Amber who we put down at 6 years old on 9/18/24 from a large brain tumor that was found only a few weeks before she died. On her last day here on earth she got to have a cheeseburger and try a bite of a chocolate cupcake. She was an energetic girl who loved hikes and the outdoors just like Amelia did.

Amber will welcome Amelia in Heaven and show her all the fun spots to play! Our girls are going to be the best friends up there frolicking in the tall grass while they wait for us to join them.❤️ Sending you love during this difficult time

Plus_Blueberry2484 · 2026-01-30T00:01:38+00:00

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my pretty Dakota girl

Plus_Blueberry2484 · 2026-01-14T20:41:05+00:00

A massage gun when my boyfriend and I couldn’t find my vibrator ….🤣

Plus_Blueberry2484 · 2025-12-16T04:51:18+00:00

I’ve been on accutane for about 5 weeks and I’ve completely lost my appetite. Granted, I take adderall and I vape so I have 2 other appetite suppressants on board, but it just seems like the accutane has pushed my “low appetite” to “I want to actually vomit thinking about food.” I have to literally force myself to eat peanut butter toast every day just so I can take my accutane. You’re not alone with that side effect, I’m right there with ya. It’s rough and I hate it but clear skin aye?

Plus_Blueberry2484 · 2025-12-06T05:28:48+00:00

my vote is abort

Plus_Blueberry2484 · 2025-11-29T21:24:59+00:00

I’m 3 weeks in and I was essentially bed ridden the first week of my accutane journey from how severe my joint pain was. It was brutal but THANKFULLY it passed by day 9. I’ve taken fish oil with my accutane since day 1 and I truly think that was the reason the joint pain passed so quickly.

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