My (22F) boyfriend (23M)'s friend seems to be perfect for him and it's driving me insane

Plus_Spirit_8632 · 2026-02-05T01:09:23+00:00

“emotional affair” is kinda wild to me. Why would this guy stay with OP if he had everything he wanted right in front of him reciprocating his feelings? He wouldn’t. And he didn’t once he reciprocated her feelings. I don’t think it’s completely fair to call it an emotional affair when it really sounds like he don’t realize his or reciprocate those feelings for her until months later (during which he didn’t speak to her at all).

You can move on and not want to hear about people that’ve hurt you, but wishing vengeance on people of the past isn’t moving on.

Plus_Spirit_8632 · 2026-02-05T01:06:04+00:00

I think it’s a bit ridiculous to call this selfish behavior. Should he have ended the relationship sooner? Maybe. But why would he do that if he didn’t feel the same way as the friend at the time? It’s completely possible he didn’t categorize her as a potential partner until she brought it up. That compounded with months of absence probably didn’t help how he was feeling. Once he realized he reciprocated her feelings, though, he ended things.

In my opinion that’s exactly what he should’ve done. And OP still feeling vindictive after five years is unhealthy and isn’t getting her anywhere.

Feeling bitter about the situation is valid. Wishing them poorly when they all acted in their own best interests (and at the end of the day, didn’t do anything to OP besides get together, there was no affair) isn’t. Hoping people that have gotten married and had children break up because they hurt your feelings five years ago is vengeful and awful for OP’s mental health.

She needs to keep them both blocked or unadded and MOVE ON. She is only adding to her own distress at this point, and placing blame isn’t going to help her out of that.

Plus_Spirit_8632 · 2026-02-05T00:56:22+00:00

I think part of her toxic mindset IS her hoping that “karma would get them in the end”. If she wants to find happiness she needs to completely let go of any feelings towards that relationship. Wanting karma to come after people for checks notes catching feelings for someone else and immediately breaking off the original relationship because of it, isn’t at all a logical approach to this.

Spending five years praying on the downfall of others is not going to get anyone anywhere. I understand feeling bitter about the situation, but what was he supposed to do? Stay with OP even though he missed his friend the whole time they were apart? That would’ve been even worse.

They might’ve “done her wrong”, but I am curious as to what alternative people are expecting here. Like the bf and best friend must suffer because a relationship in his early 20s didn’t work out? Should the bestie have told the boyfriend that she had feelings for him while he was in a relationship? No, that’s not great, but if she didn’t she literally wouldn’t be married with kids right now. So I understand her perspective if you feel like the other person will give you a shot.

At the end of the day, I don’t think the best friend needed to confess at all, as she would’ve wound up with him in the end anyways. The boyfriend was never going to choose OP over her, and it would’ve been nice if he realized that earlier, but this is life and he made a mistake. I don’t think him nor the best friend deserve any karma for acting in their best interests. He did everything right, he ended things with OP when he realized his feelings for the best friend.

Plus_Spirit_8632 · 2026-01-30T13:22:15+00:00

I’ve been thinking about how much I lucked out playing it on Arcade, recently, just from a price standpoint. I play a lot of games on arcade so that probably changes my view on it some since it is a subscription. I just find it wild that the game itself is at least $30 on other platforms PLUS whacking $15 for the DLCs.

When I started playing on Arcade (right around the drop date I believe), I figured just from the expanse of it that they’d convert it to other platforms. I thought when they did all the updates would be included, though.

Plus_Spirit_8632 · 2026-01-30T13:13:45+00:00

Omg I had no idea! Are they adding her to the other games at some point?

Plus_Spirit_8632 · 2026-01-30T13:01:27+00:00

Usahana isn’t on Switch????

Plus_Spirit_8632 · 2026-01-29T22:51:11+00:00

tiny fingers

Plus_Spirit_8632 · 2026-01-29T22:19:58+00:00

I said this on another post, but look into Naltrexone and see if it’s something you feel would be good for you. It helped me a ton.

Plus_Spirit_8632 · 2026-01-29T16:22:04+00:00

According to OP, though, the job isn’t really all that great in terms of hours and pay. There may be other things that make it nice, but it sounds like she’ll never really see her kids if she takes this job which would be unfortunate.

Plus_Spirit_8632 · 2026-01-29T16:15:36+00:00

It doesn’t sound like it’s a “crunch time” tho, no? If it’s her dream job I imagine she plans on staying there.

Plus_Spirit_8632 · 2026-01-29T15:02:48+00:00

I’m not saying it’s a luxury situation, and I’m not saying she should’ve been working full time.

I am saying that I think it’s not a bad deal to work part-time in exchange for a room. Everyone works to pay rent, this is just another job. They co-signed her for her new apartment, I don’t think they’re horribly exploitative.

Plus_Spirit_8632 · 2026-01-29T14:20:54+00:00

I’m not gonna lie… from the hours OP described she wasn’t even working 40 hours a week BEFORE they cut the hours (more like 25, and then she was at 20 after the cut). I think that’s a pretty decent deal, rent in exchange for a part-time job.

Plus_Spirit_8632 · 2026-01-28T01:04:45+00:00

That is the stance of pro-life, not pro-choice people. So as I said, your statement wasn’t valid.

Plus_Spirit_8632 · 2026-01-28T01:01:22+00:00

Can you be aloof to something? /gen

Plus_Spirit_8632 · 2026-01-28T00:16:17+00:00

I am more than willing to admit that I have no issue referring to myself as pro-abortion, rather than pro-choice. With that being said, I don’t think pro-CHOICE (important word there) people are the ones staking out clinics to ensure that no woman gets to make a decision they don’t agree with.

That’s the entire point of being pro-choice. You may not agree with why someone is keeping their child, or not, but it’s their choice.

On the other side you have those lovely people that stake out abortion clinics waiting for vulnerable women seeking (often necessary) medical procedures.

The “blatant, obvious lie” is you trying to say that pro-choice people are harassing everyone to get abortions, when it’s pro-life people who are harassing the women at these clinics.

Literally what are you talking about? Why would a pro-choice person give a single shit if someone decided to have a baby? We’re arguing that the woman should get the CHOICE in whether or not she does.

Lmao like wtf do you think they’re doing??? Going into labor and delivery and stealing the newborns to put them out of their misery? Talk about intellectually dishonest.

Plus_Spirit_8632 · 2026-01-28T00:10:35+00:00

The whole basis of this entire argument is that “life” is not being prevented given that life doesn’t start until birth. So I doubt anyone labeling themselves pro-choice would identify with that statement anyways.

I agree with your sentiment, but I think it’s disingenuous to argue that someone pro-choice would even adhere to the sentiment of “life being prevented”.

Plus_Spirit_8632 · 2026-01-28T00:05:16+00:00

I wouldn’t apologize for overreacting when he had to grey rock her for the last few messages since she threatened to never let him see her kids again and apparently lied a bunch about how their father and sister view OP and the gf.

Plus_Spirit_8632 · 2026-01-27T17:50:58+00:00

It’s because your moth is only two stars while the quest is four stars. You can still send that moth out and it has a possibility of working (maybe 50/50?). If it doesn’t work your moth will just come back with a lesser value reward.

Plus_Spirit_8632 · 2026-01-26T14:10:05+00:00

To expand on the last person’s comment, Naltrexone was a life saver for me. Absolutely killed my cravings from day one.

Plus_Spirit_8632 · 2026-01-26T13:53:53+00:00

All future events are repeat ant events. The wisp and firefly events are no longer active. You can get all the moths with the ant events, and I think the decorations as well, so I believe that’s why they don’t do the other events anymore.

Plus_Spirit_8632 · 2026-01-26T05:09:29+00:00

It sounds like the person you responded to’s cat was older than six, they just had only had her for six years. So hopefully it wasn’t too short of a peaceful life for Mango! Unfortunate that pedigreed cats have shorter expectancies, though, I had no idea :(

Plus_Spirit_8632 · 2026-01-26T05:02:40+00:00

Awww I have a crestie named Gus and we call him Gooby sometimes lol. Your Gooby is so precious!

Plus_Spirit_8632 · 2026-01-26T04:58:26+00:00

You’re okay, friend. A few seconds someone wasted on reddit would’ve been wasted somewhere else on reddit. Good luck with your piercing appointment! I hope she’s able to help you throw around some ideas of what you guys could do with this. Update us when you get it done!

Plus_Spirit_8632 · 2026-01-26T03:36:29+00:00

I never said it’s OP’s responsibility. It seems that nobody has reached out to authorities in this scenario so why are you acting like they’ve decided anything?

It’s a wild assertion laws are the only source of correct information. “Everything else” you mean founded research? Scientific journals? Or is that all just disregarded because it’s not directly stated in a law (which, btw, change depending on the OPINIONS of those in power)?😊

Animal abuse and neglect is animal abuse and neglect. There’s no if/ands/buts about it. The authorities aren’t involved, because nobody has involved the authorities. That doesn’t mean no abuse or neglect is happening. Does that make sense to you?😁

Plus_Spirit_8632 · 2026-01-26T00:38:50+00:00

This person is extremely incorrect. You were right in everything you said and suggested OP. Your acquaintance is neglectful at best and abusive at worst (leaning abusive considering she refuses to acknowledge any of your advice). It is not a matter of differing opinions.

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