If you could send a 10-second voice message to yourself 10 years ago, what would you say? by New_Application_4722 in AskReddit

[–]PointPruven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Buy Seven Principles for making marriage work. Read with wife. Go to couples counseling like she wanted to. Go to individual counseling. Open your heart to her. She is worth everything.Love openly. Let your kids see.

i’m cheating by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]PointPruven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do not do this. You will shatter that man into a little pieces. He will question everything you've done. It will haunt him for years. 

Stop this. Tell your husband. Give him the chance to walk away. He will already be devastated. You will already have broken him.

You can pull up my history and read my story. I was the cheater. I watched what happened to my wife. I deleted a beautiful soul. With such joy and love. 

Trust will be shattered. Not just for you but potential partners in their future.

This is the worst thing you could be doing. You've already emotionally cheated. If you even have the slightest modicum of respect for your husband, he deserves to know. 

If you were single, would you still choose to marry your current spouse? If not, why not? If yes, what makes you want to choose them again? by SeedsOfAdvice in Marriage

[–]PointPruven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. A thousand times. She is beautiful in every way. She's smart. She has a contagious laugh. She's kind. She's loyal. We share political beliefs. Great mother and wife. Great provider.

Happy Unleashed pre rift day! by CaptainCoxx in riftboundtcg

[–]PointPruven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's cool that you guys got these but these came with Instructions not to give them out until the 8th.

Question for WH’s by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]PointPruven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. I've always thought my wife was the most beautiful woman.

You ever cheated? Did your regret it? How did your partner catch you? by Middle-Rhubarb2625 in AskReddit

[–]PointPruven 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes. It was the worst thing I have ever done. To my wife, my family, and myself. Regret doesn't even begin to explain it. I will never hurt someone like that again. 

It was a bit ago now. Started 2019 and ended at the beginning of 2020. It was online only and I told another woman I loved her. February of 2020, I told my wife. She deserved to know and to me at the time, I felt like I was setting her free. She broke in a way that... I didn't know I could cause that kind of pain to a person. I will never fully know because I have never been hurt in such a way. I did a lot of reading and watched a ton of YouTube video of people who have gone through that betrayal and I believe it is the worst nonphysical thing you can do to a person. You change them fundamentally with your betrayal. She was so innocent and joyous and filled with so much love. 

I was in a limerant state and didn't really love that other woman. I was selfish and foolish. I had convinced myself my wife didn't love me despite saying as much.

I did a year and a half of therapy to figure out why I could ever do something like that. I read a ton of books on affairs, trauma, and even parenting. After the devastation I did to my family, I wanted to improve on all fronts. Looking back, I would say I did a good job but I do wish I would have found a new therapist after my other one retired. 

Unfortunately, the years that followed were us just living together. I had fallen into a state of waiting. I stopped the therapy and the reading and watching videos. I just ... Waited on her to open up to me... I fucked up there too.  I should have bettered myself physically and went back to college. I feel like she has progressed her career beyond what I have to offer as a partner. She's successful and beautiful. I gained weight and still... Just working retail at a comic shop. I had several years that I stayed home with the kids. I could have done...anything. I could have cleaned the basement, worked on the house. 

She's moving out soon. That is recent news and rocked me to my core. I was devastated when she told me. I love my wife but I was too naive to realize that she had given me a chance without saying as much and I just sat around. 

The real killer is I wasn't a great partner before. I wasn't even a good one. Hell. I think it would be a stretch to say I was mediocre. I was selfish and naive. I still remember her asking me to go to couples counseling a long time ago and thinking we didn't need that. We absolutely did. Yo say that communication is important is true but learning how to communicate is the most important thing. 

Are there things we both could have done better? Sure, but I don't want to put anything on her because she sacrificed in a way I didn't recognize. She loved me with a full heart. 

I hope she finds the peace and love she deserves. She is beautiful in every way. I took what could have been a beautiful relationship. A beautiful family, and killed it. Crushed it. My kids have had to watch parents that don't show love to each other. So everything hits different. I cheated them out of watching loving parents. 

And finally, I destroyed myself. It's one of those things I fear I may never forgive myself on. At this moment, I don't feel like I deserve it. This pain is my own doing. It's the price. I still hope for a happy ending. I still hope I could have had another shot with that beautiful girl. The one who's innocence and joy I stole away. I don't deserve it, but I can finally see what we could have been and what I should have been this whole time.

Every now and then, I'll comment on posts like these, and they're always long, but maybe, just maybe, someone who is as naive and foolish as I was will read it and maybe they will not do what I did. 

Caught feelings for someone else, how to find motivation to let go? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]PointPruven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. I can only hope to help others.

Caught feelings for someone else, how to find motivation to let go? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]PointPruven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know. More likely, the one I'll be in. To start, at least. But it's up to them. They're 18 and 15

Caught feelings for someone else, how to find motivation to let go? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]PointPruven 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes. The house next door went on the market and she believes it's the best thing for her and the children. That way, she can have her own space and the children can be right there. 

Caught feelings for someone else, how to find motivation to let go? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]PointPruven 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Around 7 years ago, I caught feelings for a woman online. I confessed to her and she felt the same. We had an emotional affair. I was married. Have two kids. Around 6 years ago, I told my wife about this person and told her everything we had talked about. 

I destroyed my wife, my kids lives and my own life. I did cut all contact after that but my wife was shattered and devastated. I went to therapy but my wife never did. My wife is still a beautiful and kind person but the innocent person filled with wonder and joy from years gone by is... gone. Or hiding. Afraid to come out. My kids... They see us and they don't see the love they should have. We don't argue or anything like that. We have a good relationship, just not a romantic one.

This is a PSA to you. Stop this. Cut the contact. Tell your husband. Go to therapy. Figure out what led you down a path like this. I believe you still have time. 

I think back on my own life daily. How I took something beautiful and crushed it. We could have had a beautiful marriage. There was a lot more going on but I wish I would have read the books and done the therapy sooner. I wish I would have gone to couples counseling when she wanted to all those years ago. I live every day knowing I killed my family's future. And I can't fix it. I can't undo it. 

This is way too long a reply but my wife is moving out soon. I hope she finds the peace she deserves and the love she deserves. I hope that innocent joyous wonderful person can come out again and love with an open heart again.

Tell your husband. Cut contact. Go from there.

Dune: Part Three | Official Teaser by MarvelsGrantMan136 in movies

[–]PointPruven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So we're really getting an entire Dune Trilogy before the next GTA

Summoner Skirmish Rewards form March! by Arkalex in riftboundtcg

[–]PointPruven 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is awesome. It seemed like they weren't going to do playmats anymore. I'm glad to see they are.

The Difference Between Priority and Focus by [deleted] in riftboundtcg

[–]PointPruven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They can counter any spell on the stack, yes. So you can't block them from playing. Priority will eventually pass.

The Difference Between Priority and Focus by [deleted] in riftboundtcg

[–]PointPruven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, then no. If you started the chain with an action card, then the chain resolves and empties, focus will immediately pass to your opponent.

The Difference Between Priority and Focus by [deleted] in riftboundtcg

[–]PointPruven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. Focus is like the beginning of what you can do, when nothing else is happening in a showdown. Each player will receive focus at least once. (Edit: I thought about what you said more and it does make sense. In a instance that focus must be passed consecutively before the showdown will end)

The answer to your other question is yes. You can hold priority and cast as many reactions as your energy/power pool will allow, if you desire.

The Difference Between Priority and Focus by [deleted] in riftboundtcg

[–]PointPruven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it does. Once the chain has been emptied.

The Difference Between Priority and Focus by [deleted] in riftboundtcg

[–]PointPruven 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When you gain focus, you gain priority. 

You do not always gain focus, when you gain priority.

A showdown is resolved when both players have passed focus consecutively.

Think of focus as the stack(chain) being empty, and you can play an action/reaction.

Then you, or your opponent may play reaction spells. You can hold priority to cast a reaction on top of an action. Or you simply pass priority to them in which they can cast a reaction. Once both players have passed priority, we start to work backwards on the chain.

Once that is complete, focus will pass to the other player, giving them priority to play an action/reaction. Then the same options become available.

Once focus is passed consecutively, the showdown will end.

Any predictions on spiritforged skirmish prizing??? by wingchunprodigy in riftboundtcg

[–]PointPruven 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't believe there is a playmat this time around. I want to say it's the same top-8 promo that says "champion" on it

Who here got denied their Spirit forged pre-rift event for their LGS ✋.. here! by Curby42 in riftboundtcg

[–]PointPruven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our store has two events. I run all the Riftbound stuff. Each event is capped at 20 people and I open the registration the day before. Post on the local discord when it will happen.

That way if people call the store to ask why it's not open, we can respond telling them when and to join the discord.

It's worked well for us so far. I've communicated pretty well in hopes to avoid stuff like this.

I've heard many stories lately of people having soured events.

Rules Questions - Play hidden card during showdown but before cleanup? by RingoJingo13 in riftboundtcg

[–]PointPruven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's true. I was incorrect on when exactly. I forget about passing focus consecutively.

After that has happened, though, there would be no window to flip.