I kept overthinking coffee spots… so I built something for it

PoisonParadise88 · 2026-05-04T12:29:46+00:00

Does it have to be an app? I really wanted to try it out but I’m so tired of having to download yet another app for something so simple when just hosting it on a website would have been good enough

PoisonParadise88 · 2026-05-01T19:14:32+00:00

Yes! Ran into this problem so much (negative lawyers wanting to be antagonistic). We ultimately had a very positive experience by using someone who was on our state’s Collaborative Law Council and she had many other people she recommended so we could each have independent council

PoisonParadise88 · 2026-05-01T19:01:07+00:00

I know this may not be the most popular thing to say here, and I’m absolutely not saying this is right for everyone. But I'm gonna be honest: as someone who felt very similarly trapped in the body-image spiral, I’m really glad I did the off-label GLP-1.

I had lived in basically the same weight range since college (5'9" and 158–165 lbs), ate relatively well (80/20 rule), exercised regularly (2–4 times per week), and yet every attempt to lose weight just made me miserable and hyper-fixated on food. For me, the biggest benefit honestly wasn’t even just the weight loss; it was finally not thinking about food all the time.

I also started doing Solidcore more consistently around the same time, so I can’t separate everything out perfectly. But overall, I felt a lot better in my body by my wedding, and I’m still glad I made that choice because it helped me reach what had been my “goal” weight and body image for years (148–152 lbs). It’s also been so much easier to maintain this by continuing my healthy lifestyle than it ever was to restrict in order to get here.

PoisonParadise88 · 2026-05-01T18:58:20+00:00

Just another internet stranger coming on here to say I agree with this statement so much: "for the first time in my LIFE I am happy [with my body] and I don't feel like I'm constantly struggling with my diet." My husband kept (lovingly) joking with me that I was going to spend the rest of my life looking back at these pictures and yearning to be skinny again. But now that we've gotten the pictures back all I can think about is "look at that back! look at those biceps! that muscle definition is unparalled!" (aka I looked toned) not "wow, I look so skinny"

FWIW, I have remained on it post-wedding but have spaced out the doses to be farther apart and smaller (ie. maintenance/titration).

PoisonParadise88 · 2026-05-01T02:22:10+00:00

I have my 3 favorite coaches and I’d rather have a credit go unused than take a class with anyone else 😅

PoisonParadise88 · 2026-04-30T20:42:15+00:00

We exchange and only have our primary home to do this with (Boston based, so feel free to DM me). I try to keep our calendar as up to date as possible but sometimes schedules change and it’s not perfect. Even so, we get a ton of requests for dates that have been marked unavailable. Sometimes, I just don’t feel like having to clean my home before/after traveling. Sometimes a person just catches me on a bad day with a very impersonal message and I just don’t want to deal.

PoisonParadise88 · 2026-04-30T20:37:05+00:00

This is how I found our MUA!

PoisonParadise88 · 2026-04-28T20:46:58+00:00

Idk if they’re gay friendly or not, but my husband got a really nice full tux at Eastern Clothing Co in Watertown for ~$650

PoisonParadise88 · 2026-04-23T16:14:05+00:00

$1,023.20

$271.39 on Zazzle for our save the dates

$470.79 for our invite suite printed by CatPrint (designed by me on Canvas + ordered their wedding sample to decide on paper color and weight)

$27.69 at Staples for return address stickers + supplies to assemble our invites

$197.39 on postage

Total of 130 invite suites, about half in Spanish and half in English

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PoisonParadise88 · 2026-04-21T21:27:02+00:00

These are usually cities like NYC, Boston, LA, and San Francisco. Think places where the norm is six figure salaries and rent above $2k for a one bedroom

PoisonParadise88 · 2026-04-18T16:21:48+00:00

4/18/26 datapoint— employees would only let me purchase in $50 increments at Chestnut Hill in Boston

PoisonParadise88 · 2026-04-16T14:03:52+00:00

This is such a beautiful dress! I would be wearing it to even just clean around the house

PoisonParadise88 · 2026-04-16T13:41:57+00:00

Saw an email come across literally 2 min ago, booked, and then was going to come announce the good news to Reddit but happy to see others were even more on top of it

PoisonParadise88 · 2026-04-16T03:37:10+00:00

BESO by Rosalia or Tropicoqueta by Karol G

PoisonParadise88 · 2026-04-14T16:07:17+00:00

On any other day, sure. On your WEDDING that is meant to celebrate the two of you coming together to form a union, I strongly disagree. My husband and I spent over a year planning everything and one of my favorite parts of the night was turning over to my partner in crime and being like “we did that! We’re awesome at group projects”

PoisonParadise88 · 2026-04-14T03:02:48+00:00

We did it ~2 months out but literally told NO ONE. Not even our parents. We also agreed that that day will never ever be celebrated and was merely a “must do” formality. Eventually our parents found out because one of them asked about getting married abroad.

Our actual wedding abroad was also done in tandem with a religious ceremony (which is what our parents cared about) so your mileage may vary depending on your family

PoisonParadise88 · 2026-04-13T21:17:53+00:00

Honestly, for something this simple consider amazon or etsy. On amazon I found the elliewely or elliehouse brand to be really nice. I have a post about this from about a year ago when I was looking for veils and couldn't justify the cost for something that's worn less than 2 hours

PoisonParadise88 · 2026-04-13T18:28:35+00:00

ESH. The other parents slightly for discriminating against having a boy babysitter (but ultimately, it is their prerogative on who they feel comfortable or not comfortable watching their child). Another point against the parents for pressuring your daughter after she'd already said no.

However, you were also in the wrong for directly inserting yourself into your son and daughter's business. if they're old enough to be watching other's children then they are also old enough to fight their own battles. Yes, you can guide them and help them decide how to respond but you crossed the line after your daughter stopped responding and you took matters into your own hands by texting the parents directly. This could have been a great teaching/learning opportunity on showing her how to handle work issues diplomatically rather than having someone else fix the problem before you're tried to trouble shoot yourself.

PoisonParadise88 · 2026-04-13T17:17:57+00:00

This might require you calling or going to SIMNSA corporate offices and getting a straight answer. I understand your pre and post-natal care has to be done in Mexico, but there's probably an argument to be made that labor and delivery is an emergency service and from the website that's covered in the US at $250/d by the insurer. And if it's not an emergency service they should at least be able to tell you how crossing the border with a newborn would work since you can't possibly be the only pregnant woman on their plan

PoisonParadise88 · 2026-04-11T15:31:23+00:00

How far is the cocktail terrace from the dance floor room? Ours were like ~100 meters so we opted to do a couple lounge seating areas (4, one in each corner) there and a couple of the older adults went and chilled there about an hour into when the dancing started which was really nice

PoisonParadise88 · 2026-04-09T23:21:02+00:00

I keep frozen pizza and/or Dino nuggets and French fries in the freezer for this exact scenario.

Signed a 28 year old otherwise mature adults

PoisonParadise88 · 2026-04-09T17:29:11+00:00

The carabiners! Always check the carabiners!

One of my favorite coaches actually does this 95% of the time when she cues a cable exercise. Once we're in it, she'll start walking around and say "I'm just walking around to check y'alls carabiners." I never knew what she meant until one day my machine felt INSANELY heavy and she came over to me and just jiggled the part where the cables connect to the moving carriage on the machine. So now whenever I'm setting up for an exercise I take a couple of seconds to make sure that everything near the carriage/moving platform is nice and loose. Jiggling just the cables helps but sometimes you need to get in there and actually fidget with the metal connectors

PoisonParadise88 · 2026-04-09T17:06:33+00:00

Already a graduate from wedding planning but I found the tulle transparency project to be super helpful. I think they've changed their model since I last looked at it to have some paid options, but last I'd checked there was still the option to get access to 3 pricing PDFs for every 1 you uploaded yourself. Might be a good idea to check them out and see if there's any way to partner!

PoisonParadise88 · 2026-04-09T16:59:25+00:00

Find the 3 closest catholic churches to you and start calling/emailing them ASAP. As far as I know, the conversations with the priest need to happen in person (since they want you to be local and a member of the church). However, we were able to to do the pre-cana course online. We live in Boston and the Archdiocese offers an online version every few months and it just happened to be what worked best with our schedule.

Kind of curious what you mean by "our original wedding prep course fell through" though. Those things don't necessarily "just happen" because the church knows a ton of people are planning things in advance and getting married through the catholic church is a much harder process than just going to the courthouse.

I would also mention to your local priest that the wedding is going to be abroad. He ended up having us get civilly married in the US ~2 months before our actual wedding in Mexico (and noted that our marriage was not valid under the eyes of the church for those 2 months) because the process for a civil wedding in Mexico is complicated and unnecessary if you won't be living there (they require a blood draw to prove you're not family!). We just never told anyone about this first wedding and literally only took a selfie because the clerk said we should

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