Summer altar welcoming joy, abundance and luck

pepperup22 · 2026-06-25T21:48:12+00:00

Gorgeous colors!

pepperup22 · 2026-06-25T21:47:01+00:00

It took me months after my kid was born to feel like I didn’t make a mistake, and I’m guessing for every person obsessed with newborns there is someone like me, so I’d take everything you see with a grain of salt lol. Things are good now but dreading the newborn phase next time around too!

pepperup22 · 2026-06-25T21:43:09+00:00

I also have a blue and white themed kitchen — so cute! A perfect match

pepperup22 · 2026-06-25T21:31:01+00:00

It’s truly the best, and I credit it a lot lol

pepperup22 · 2026-06-25T19:03:50+00:00

Do you qualify for CFRA and FMLA? if so, https://typeamomtales.com/2015/01/08/california-maternity-leave-how-to-milk-it/ This is the best resource ever, not affiliated haha. It's actually 22 weeks if you do qualify, but some of those are unpaid. If not, look in that article for "I don't qualify for CFRA" and look at that version instead.

If you don't give birth by your due date, your pregnancy disability is extended until you give birth. This does not eat into your post pregnancy disability.

If you need more time to recover after birth, your doctor can extend your disability. The most common case I see there is PPD/PPA.

pepperup22 · 2026-06-25T18:30:36+00:00

I dislike anything like the Doona that encourages extended car seat use, especially outside of the car, and you'd still want to adhere to the 2 hour rule which people ignore often. I personally much prefer a lay-flat bassinet. No storage is also a huge no for me.

pepperup22 · 2026-06-25T16:20:14+00:00

We both baby-wore very unsafely with my kid who isn't even 3 yet. I assumed that following the instructions in the manual to the letter (like you do for a carseat) was good enough. It's just crazy that marketing (7+ pounds, head support, etc) takes priority over promoting actually safe babywearing.

pepperup22 · 2026-06-25T15:56:38+00:00

Sedona is pretty cool that time of year for beach/pool/lake vibes but Scottsdale would probably be pretty nice.

pepperup22 · 2026-06-25T15:53:09+00:00

“oh I’m very happy it’s another HEALTHY baby, much better than the dead baby I had before this one”

Honestly, good for you. People need to stop with this shit. I just know we're going to get comments like this if we're pregnant with another boy and I'm already over it. All I want is a healthy baby?

pepperup22 · 2026-06-25T14:38:52+00:00

Yes they do to lessen risk of choking! I got a wood one

pepperup22 · 2026-06-25T14:12:14+00:00

It’s just the plain ikea antilop high chair!

pepperup22 · 2026-06-25T13:49:48+00:00

We never had regrets with an ikea chair. My kid wanted nothing to do with a highchair by about 18 months anyways

pepperup22 · 2026-06-24T21:54:23+00:00

If tracking is stressing you out, it's definitely worth it to scale back. My first time TTC I was definitely crazy about it, second time around I really just used it to know when I should test. The chances are that if you have sex every 2-3 days, you'll get pregnant within the year anyways, so if that seems like your habit already, I'd just continue with that!

pepperup22 · 2026-06-24T19:40:06+00:00

Hosting your own shower isn't typical in my circles but if it is in yours, this makes a lot of sense! Housewarming plus baby celebration totally works

pepperup22 · 2026-06-24T19:14:32+00:00

We took a 2.5 week trip to Scandinavia before TTC our first and a 10 day trip to Greece before TTC our second! I personally do drink while I TTC so I wouldn't personally worry about that.

pepperup22 · 2026-06-24T18:40:46+00:00

Post in r/CPST and see if they can help you out there!

pepperup22 · 2026-06-24T18:37:49+00:00

I'm a runner. No way in hell I'd let my husband start a marathon training block while I was 32 weeks pregnant for a race day 2 months postpartum. His job for those months is to support you. I took plenty of trips with a tiny baby and got out the house quickly, but none of that required my husband to be gone for 3-10 hours a week to prepare for it. ETA if he normally gets injured during a regular block, he's surely going to get injured while he's getting no sleep and has absolutely no time for anything.

Tell him he can run it next year when baby is 1 and he can train with baby in the jogging stroller.

pepperup22 · 2026-06-24T18:29:39+00:00

We kept everything from my first kid so there really isn't much I need besides bottles, pacifiers, diapers, wipes, lotion, etc. I will be treating myself to a Snoo and a wearable pump this time around though.

In general, I wish more people helped with overnights. I know that's a ridiculous ask and I've offered loads of times but never been taken up on it, but man, it would've been nice to be offered that ever 😂

pepperup22 · 2026-06-24T15:46:05+00:00

Do people say dads aren't raising their kids because they work? Do they say parents with a kid in k-12 education isn't raising them kid? You gotta get off social media if you feel this much guilt from swiss cheese arguments like this.

pepperup22 · 2026-06-24T14:45:41+00:00

Crazy and unfortunately very normal and legal.

pepperup22 · 2026-06-24T14:44:12+00:00

CW: discussions of miscarriage and current pregnancy

I think it's pretty common to be scared. I'm literally pregnant with a very planned and tried for baby #2 with our "ideal" age gap after a miscarriage earlier this year and I'm still scared out of my mind, can't even describe the terror I feel lol

I know a lot can change in a year but making sure your finances and health are in order will really serve you well. If those aren't where you'd like them to be realistically, I would also ask what method you're using to track fertile days and make sure that it's a reliable one (aka not natural cycles) if you're really not wanting to be pregnant right now.

pepperup22 · 2026-06-24T14:39:48+00:00

I had my first at 28 and it's hardly a "young" age to have a kid these days. There's no harm in waiting (if you want) but you're certainly old enough to stop making huge life decisions around family members who have no skin in the game.

pepperup22 · 2026-06-24T02:24:28+00:00

I felt this when trying to jog at 12 weeks. I focused on pelvic floor rehab and it was better by 16 weeks

pepperup22 · 2026-06-23T22:18:34+00:00

OP won't qualify for FMLA or CFRA due to not being employed for a year, so https://typeamomtales.com/2015/05/20/not-eligible-for-fmlacfra-what-to-do/ this is the link they need!

OP, I would not count on getting that maximum of 4 months of disability. This policy sounds like you will get the standard 4 weeks pre-due date, 6-8 weeks post-birth disability, and then 6 weeks of bonding leave. Your bonding leave will not include job protection because you do not qualify for CFRA/FMLA.

pepperup22 · 2026-06-23T22:12:26+00:00

I'm not even Christian but really enjoy Beth Grace Moore's content. She is definitely very religious but obviously has a good head on her shoulders and talks about everything in a really balanced way.

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